Asexual?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

 

Hmmm... well... I can say that I definitely don't feel like having sex some days but... I still find men attractive.

 

Yeah, same here - I find them attractive, but having sex with one is kinda a remote idea yet But I think a lot about cuddling and kissing I'm a cuddle-whore xD lol

 

Asexuality.org is a much better resource for it, At least for the most part. There are many different (not sure what word to use here... classifications?) of asexuality.

Their explanation on one of their pages explains pretty much how I am, and honestly, it sounds similar to your situation, as well as others in the thread.

But labels are just that - labels.

 

Asexuality,Repressed,Depressed,or scared..Anything is possible :lol: I read couple of asexuals words..and they are all different.I think many asexuals are repressed,depressed or scared to try sexual things.Because some says they had never ever felt anything sexual,some says they regularly do masturbation,some says just wet dreams,some says they had sex but didn't feel much.Sone says only idea,fantasy is arousal but not towards to person.

For some people its so easy to realize what they like,for some its so difficult and confusing.Personaly, i think its our Ego surpass our ID too much(freudian stuff :sleep

 

Officially, asexuality is not considered an illness. I think pathology can induce it but not every case is pathological.

 

Just going off of the words:
Heterosexual - Sexually attracted to opposite (hetero) sex.
Bisexual - Sexually attracted to two/both (bi) sexes.
Homosexual - Sexually attracted to same (homo) sex.
Asexual - Sexually attracted to no (a) sex.
So etymologically I'd assume that asexuals aren't sexually to anybody. However, I'm sure it's not so black-and-white. Note that I bolded sexually, I feel that sexual attraction and other sorts of attraction are very different things.

 

Its not that easy sometimes to realized if you are depressed or not.If you are not, then maybe somehow repressed your sexuality.Or Maybe its because you are 16.Maybe you will feel some attraction somehow or maybe you will like it after you had sex.Don't think about it much and definetely don't force yourself,don't analize.I wish i was 16 again and somebody adviced me these.:icon_bigg

 

To be fair I would see it as innacurate, the classifications of Heterosexual, Homosexual, Bisexual, Asexual, Transgendered, etc, sometimes fail to explain precicely how a person may feel/see themselves. For instance some people may be attracted sexually to men but can only seem to develop a more emotional connection with women, does this make them Bi? A person may feel mentally attracted to the same sex but doesn't have any sexual desire, would this classify as Asexual or would the mental attraction make them Homosexual? Or both?

People may often feel more comfortable if they are able to classify themselves as something but sometimes simple labels or classes can't really reflect how a person may feel. The definition of Asexual likley differs from perspective to perspective, if someone had no attraction whatsoever they would probably refer to themselves as Asexual however someone who can mentally bond with people in that way but has no sexual desire might also go by Asexual, or just use whatever they feel best relates to them, perhaps Pansexual.

As a case of whether Asexuality is just people who fear having sex, I highly doubt it. Of cource there will be people who fear sexual interaction and may use Asexuality as a label to get across the point that they have no desire to take part in it, however I should think that there are a great many people who really do not find any attraction in sexual intercource, so it's not neccesarily that they are repressing their desires or that they fear it, but simply that they would not get a great deal of enjoyment out of having sex.

 

1) A depressed person not being able to realize they are depressed is ridiculous, you feel sad a lot it's pretty easy to grasp that
2) At 16 people can tell they are sexually attracted to either sex and identify as lesbian gay and even trans i don't see how at 16 he can't understand that he isn't sexually attracted to either
3) Saying he may like it eventually is like telling a gay person they will probably want to have sex with a girl sometime or that they will like sex with girls if they just do it
4) He really should analyze it and come to understand his sexual identity it is a natural thing for everyone else and it is for him

Asexuality is perfectly real, some people just don't have a drive to be sexually involved with other people. He could also be Pansexual and require an emotional attachment to someone before developing any physical desires. He may just never be interested in it.

My questions are
1) Do you ever watch porn or get sexually excited from that? do you masturbate to it?
2) Has anyone ever given you an erection?

I would say these things are indicators that you probably are not A-sexual because they mean that you are having a sexual attraction to something or you would not be sexually aroused. But that is just a guess from me xD I'm no expert on A-sexuality i just knew a person who was once.

 

1-)Depression is different than feeling sad,emotional.Most cheerful people could be depressive and they might even didn't realize it.As you might know, many people who feels low desire for sex and don't know why, usually gets depression treatment.
2-)Everybody is different.This is why many people realized they are gay after marriage.
3-) I had sex with girls and i liked.Ok, im confused but i thought i wouldn't like it before try it.He may not be %100 straight or gay.
4-)Overanalyzing sexuality might cause problems both mentally or sexually.Obsessive thoughts,also a reason of homophobia,usually starts with overanalyzing.

About your questions,im not sure,because there were many asexuals who says get excited by porn.For example me,I have never masturbated, i dont consider myself as asexual (maybe i should :icon_bigg)

Erection can happen in many situations.There are gay people who gets erection from girlfriends.Also asexuals who has erection but no urge to have sex.Also erection can happen from physical contact.

I think best for him,if he minds,going to psychiatrist and solve it together.

 

Sexuality isn't set in stone.... there's no reason you can't go with asexual now and perhaps change it later if you want to. It's just a label, so go with whatever feels right.

 

Its okay then As long as you dont see it as problem, you dont need to try solve :icon_bigg Also you are young.Many people who crave for sex,can't have it even when they are adult :lol: (ok, it was cruel)