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ShebbsIsAwesome · 4th Mar 2011, 06:16 PM

Is California really all that great? Is it really an oasis of wonder that people can go to to get away from their lives?
I feel like I should ask more, but I don't know what else to type...

Shevanel · 4th Mar 2011, 06:31 PM

No? The weather is nice though.

WhiteFox · 4th Mar 2011, 06:52 PM

All depends on where you go. All places have great areas. Whats your fascination with California?

ShebbsIsAwesome · 4th Mar 2011, 06:53 PM

idk, theres like 2 people who are "Out" where I live, so I was wondering if it's more gay friendly?

Shevanel · 4th Mar 2011, 06:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dustyn

idk, theres like 2 people who are "Out" where I live, so I was wondering if it's more gay friendly?

Big Cities.

ShebbsIsAwesome · 4th Mar 2011, 06:59 PM

ewe, I hate big cities. I kinda wanna visit California and see how it is in the next few years, then if I don't like it I may go to Colorado or Canada...

**TheEdend** · 4th Mar 2011, 07:09 PM

The whole gay friendly places is really all about where you look and exactly what rights you are looking for if you are looking for any.

If you go to a big city then you will probably find a decently sized gay community. And if you don't like to live in big cities then you can always live in cities close to a big city.

If what you are looking for is equal rights then there are better places than california right now.

What are you really looking for?

ShebbsIsAwesome · 4th Mar 2011, 07:14 PM

I just really want a place with good scenery, and a good sized gay community, seeing as to how im 16, I don't really need all the rights that an older person would need.

507bro · 4th Mar 2011, 07:35 PM

california isn't really all that great. I've been their for a school trip and yeah
not that pretty unless you go to the rich area.

olides84 · 4th Mar 2011, 08:04 PM

Well I wouldn't call it an oasis of wonder, but yeah it does have good scenery and lots of gays. I've lived other places and the one thing about California is that it's pretty diverse and fairly open and liberal (not everywhere of course) compared to other states, and so it's much more likely that you'd be able to find your niche and do your thing than in some close-minded environment. I would also say that except for marriage (CA has domestic partnerships), it has just as much protection/rights for gays as anywhere else in the US.

**TheEdend** · 4th Mar 2011, 08:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dustyn

I just really want a place with good scenery, and a good sized gay community, seeing as to how im 16, I don't really need all the rights that an older person would need.

Then I would suggest just trying out a big city and see how you like it.

I live in florida which is a pretty conservative state, but I also live near orlando so the gay community is pretty decent. I also haven't encountered too much homophobia. Most of it is said behind your back really haha

IsItSo · 4th Mar 2011, 08:14 PM

*cough* NorCal beats the hell out of SoCal. *cough*

There are few places with sizable gay communities that aren't big cities. You might want to rethink what you want.

ShebbsIsAwesome · 4th Mar 2011, 08:20 PM

yeah, I live like 200 miles south of Orlando, and I grew up here so I kinda wanna go somewhere else when I move out, because i'm not fully satisfied here...

RaRa · 5th Mar 2011, 12:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dustyn

I just really want a place with good scenery, and a good sized gay community, seeing as to how im 16, I don't really need all the rights that an older person would need.

San Francisco.

GoinStag · 5th Mar 2011, 08:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaRa

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dustyn

I just really want a place with good scenery, and a good sized gay community, seeing as to how im 16, I don't really need all the rights that an older person would need.

San Francisco.

Yeah I was about to say, San Francisco apparently has one of the largest gay populations in the US or something.

RedState · 5th Mar 2011, 09:27 AM

California?!
Too much mud and earthquakes.
Although I have had some good times in The Castro.

There are plenty of places, east and west coast, that are gay friendly and have good scenery.

I love to visit California, but when it is time to come home I'm ready to get back to America

**Lexington** · 5th Mar 2011, 11:37 AM

San Francisco is a wonderful place, but you'd best be swimming in money if you want to live there. I have a friend who's a senior editor at a major magazine, and his wife is a bioethicist. They have to live in a really small house in Berkeley, because that's all they can afford there.

The area north of SF is really nice, though.

I went to college out near Los Angeles, and...I dunno. I never really dug the LA vibe. Especially LA proper. The surrounding area (and there's a lot of it) was OK.

San Diego is pretty conservative.

Lex

TWestside · 5th Mar 2011, 11:55 AM

I have never been to California or the US before but as i know the average heat is 60-65*F in California. As a winter-person i think i couldn't live there. I mean.. without snow? ._.
Anyway... are "California Gurls" really undeniable? :P

RaRa · 5th Mar 2011, 12:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TWestside

I have never been to California or the US before but as i know the average heat is 60-65*F in California. As a winter-person i think i couldn't live there. I mean.. without snow? ._.
Anyway... are "California Gurls" really undeniable? :P

Cali girls are hot....but the Boys are even better.

TWestside · 7th Mar 2011, 08:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaRa

Cali girls are hot....but the Boys are even better.

Then, i should visit when i become 18. :P

4th Mar 2011, 06:16 PM	#1
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	California Is California really all that great? Is it really an oasis of wonder that people can go to to get away from their lives? I feel like I should ask more, but I don't know what else to type...

4th Mar 2011, 06:31 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: California No? The weather is nice though. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

4th Mar 2011, 06:52 PM	#3
WhiteFox Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but some family Location: Az Lake Havasu Age: 22 Posts: 231 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: California All depends on where you go. All places have great areas. Whats your fascination with California?

4th Mar 2011, 06:53 PM	#4
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: California idk, theres like 2 people who are "Out" where I live, so I was wondering if it's more gay friendly?

4th Mar 2011, 06:59 PM	#6
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: California ewe, I hate big cities. I kinda wanna visit California and see how it is in the next few years, then if I don't like it I may go to Colorado or Canada...

4th Mar 2011, 07:09 PM	#7
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: California The whole gay friendly places is really all about where you look and exactly what rights you are looking for if you are looking for any. If you go to a big city then you will probably find a decently sized gay community. And if you don't like to live in big cities then you can always live in cities close to a big city. If what you are looking for is equal rights then there are better places than california right now. What are you really looking for? __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

4th Mar 2011, 07:14 PM	#8
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: California I just really want a place with good scenery, and a good sized gay community, seeing as to how im 16, I don't really need all the rights that an older person would need.

4th Mar 2011, 07:35 PM	#9
507bro Asian Invasion Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Ghey with a little hint of str8 Out Status: Facebook, Friends Location: Mankato, MN Age: 20 Posts: 337 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: California california isn't really all that great. I've been their for a school trip and yeah not that pretty unless you go to the rich area. __________________

4th Mar 2011, 08:04 PM	#10
olides84 stranger in a strange land Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much Location: Belgium Posts: 1,042 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: California Well I wouldn't call it an oasis of wonder, but yeah it does have good scenery and lots of gays. I've lived other places and the one thing about California is that it's pretty diverse and fairly open and liberal (not everywhere of course) compared to other states, and so it's much more likely that you'd be able to find your niche and do your thing than in some close-minded environment. I would also say that except for marriage (CA has domestic partnerships), it has just as much protection/rights for gays as anywhere else in the US.

4th Mar 2011, 08:14 PM	#12
IsItSo EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: 同志 Out Status: A few people Location: New York-ish Age: 18 Posts: 771 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: California cough NorCal beats the hell out of SoCal. cough There are few places with sizable gay communities that aren't big cities. You might want to rethink what you want.

4th Mar 2011, 08:20 PM	#13
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: California yeah, I live like 200 miles south of Orlando, and I grew up here so I kinda wanna go somewhere else when I move out, because i'm not fully satisfied here...

5th Mar 2011, 09:27 AM	#16
RedState The Grendel to Everyone's Beowulf Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: 2 Location: The Southeastern Conference Age: 30 Posts: 1,448 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: California California?! Too much mud and earthquakes. Although I have had some good times in The Castro. There are plenty of places, east and west coast, that are gay friendly and have good scenery. I love to visit California, but when it is time to come home I'm ready to get back to America __________________

5th Mar 2011, 11:37 AM	#17
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: California San Francisco is a wonderful place, but you'd best be swimming in money if you want to live there. I have a friend who's a senior editor at a major magazine, and his wife is a bioethicist. They have to live in a really small house in Berkeley, because that's all they can afford there. The area north of SF is really nice, though. I went to college out near Los Angeles, and...I dunno. I never really dug the LA vibe. Especially LA proper. The surrounding area (and there's a lot of it) was OK. San Diego is pretty conservative. Lex

5th Mar 2011, 11:55 AM	#18
TWestside Well Known Full Member Gender: Male. Orientation: Gay. Out Status: Not really. Location: Germany. Age: 17 Posts: 104 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: California I have never been to California or the US before but as i know the average heat is 60-65F in California. As a winter-person i think i couldn't live there. I mean.. without snow? ._. Anyway... are "California Gurls" really undeniable? :P __________________ Whoever said that money can't buy happiness, didn't know where to shop.* -Blair Waldorf

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