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alan t · 16th Mar 2011, 06:57 PM

So everyone uses certain names for their mother and father, like mom, mum, dad, daddy, whatever... right?
Except not me... I have no names for them. I never have, since I was born. Like, when I talk to them, I just look at them and start talking. I don't call them anything.

I've never heard of anyone else like this. My brother is normal this way.

So is there anyone else out there like this? Am I just really weird? Maybe something strange is wrong with me.

RaRa · 16th Mar 2011, 07:06 PM

I dont think its that weird. I actually call my grandma "mommy" because thats what my cousins and bro did too. We just all got used to it I guess. xD

Ridiculous · 16th Mar 2011, 07:29 PM

I always do that with people I don't have a 'nickname' for. I always feel uncomfortable saying their name if I am talking to them directly, so I'll just talk at them like you do. If I have some sort of nickname for them then I have no problem.

But I'm fine saying their name if I'm referring to them while talking to someone else. It's strange.

For my parents I've got several nicknames that I use... but for everyone else it's either a nickname or nothing.

Daniel · 16th Mar 2011, 09:37 PM

I call my mom Margaret or Ma if I'm lazy. Sometimes it's Mum.

My father is Dad or Papa or Pop or Bob.

Truly depends on my mood.

adam88 · 17th Mar 2011, 05:07 AM

My cousins in Austria grew up calling their parents by their first names.

Revan · 17th Mar 2011, 08:33 AM

Sadly mine's very generic. It was Mommy and Daddy when young, and now it's Mom and Dad.

malachite · 17th Mar 2011, 09:36 AM

As far "strange" things go, that seems pretty normal.

My grandfather (God rest his soul) wanted to be called Pops, most older people hate that, but he loved it.

I don't think its odd at all.

Nazo · 17th Mar 2011, 01:22 PM

Pops and Mom. Ma if I feel like getting on her nerves. I give almost everybody I regularly talk to nicknames, so I rarely use actual names unless I am talking about that person to someone who doesn't know my nicknames for them.

Allegro molto · 26th Apr 2011, 05:28 PM

My mother: Ma, "Hey, Ma", or "Mother"

My father: I don't really talk to him much (he's not really in my life), but whenever I do, it's "deadie"

My younger sister calls my mother by her first name. IDK why, though.

Daryn · 26th Apr 2011, 05:32 PM

I don't think it's weird. I call my grandfather "papa". All my cousins do too.

Austin · 26th Apr 2011, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Revan

Sadly mine's very generic. It was Mommy and Daddy when young, and now it's Mom and Dad.

Same. How did you call for them if you don't have a name, OP?

Idonteven · 26th Apr 2011, 05:40 PM

Mum. Dad.

simple?

Holmes · 27th Apr 2011, 03:33 AM

Mama and Dada always in my case.

I wouldn't worry too much, if anything, it's not you it's them. It's the kind of thing you could only pick up from them at a young age, if it wasn't something that interested them, that's kust how things were.

27th Apr 2011, 04:57 AM

Usually just Mum or Dad for me, although I call them by their actual names if they annoy me or we get into a silly argument.

Rikudo · 27th Apr 2011, 05:31 AM

I just refer to them as Ma or Pa.

Black Cat · 27th Apr 2011, 06:05 AM

I call my mom "Ma" and my stepfather "Dirtbag" (but not to his face, we don't speak directly to one another.)

pirateninja · 27th Apr 2011, 06:27 AM

Dad is Dad, step-parents by their names, the only thing that people find weird is that I use "Mom" to refer to my mother instead of "Mum". It may not seem strange to American folk but apparently it's out of place in England. My lecturers kept marking me down for using "mom" instead of "mum" in my creative writing coursework.

Emberstone · 27th Apr 2011, 09:49 AM

'ATM' and 'Insurance Policy'...

okay, not really. just mom and dad.

16th Mar 2011, 06:57 PM	#1
alan t EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: ontario, canada Age: 27 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jun 2010	names for parents So everyone uses certain names for their mother and father, like mom, mum, dad, daddy, whatever... right? Except not me... I have no names for them. I never have, since I was born. Like, when I talk to them, I just look at them and start talking. I don't call them anything. I've never heard of anyone else like this. My brother is normal this way. So is there anyone else out there like this? Am I just really weird? Maybe something strange is wrong with me.

16th Mar 2011, 07:06 PM	#2
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: names for parents I dont think its that weird. I actually call my grandma "mommy" because thats what my cousins and bro did too. We just all got used to it I guess. xD __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

16th Mar 2011, 07:29 PM	#3
Ridiculous EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends Location: New Zealand Age: 20 Posts: 934 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: names for parents I always do that with people I don't have a 'nickname' for. I always feel uncomfortable saying their name if I am talking to them directly, so I'll just talk at them like you do. If I have some sort of nickname for them then I have no problem. But I'm fine saying their name if I'm referring to them while talking to someone else. It's strange. For my parents I've got several nicknames that I use... but for everyone else it's either a nickname or nothing.

16th Mar 2011, 09:37 PM	#4
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: names for parents I call my mom Margaret or Ma if I'm lazy. Sometimes it's Mum. My father is Dad or Papa or Pop or Bob. Truly depends on my mood. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

17th Mar 2011, 05:07 AM	#5
adam88 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual. Or bi. Same thing. Out Status: Yes. Location: Toronto, Canada Age: 30 Posts: 797 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: names for parents My cousins in Austria grew up calling their parents by their first names. __________________ --Brendan A coming out is never late, Frodo Baggins. Nor is it early. You come out precisely when you mean to. -not Gandalf

17th Mar 2011, 08:33 AM	#6
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: names for parents Sadly mine's very generic. It was Mommy and Daddy when young, and now it's Mom and Dad. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

17th Mar 2011, 09:36 AM	#7
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: names for parents As far "strange" things go, that seems pretty normal. My grandfather (God rest his soul) wanted to be called Pops, most older people hate that, but he loved it. I don't think its odd at all. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

17th Mar 2011, 01:22 PM	#8
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,070 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: names for parents Pops and Mom. Ma if I feel like getting on her nerves. I give almost everybody I regularly talk to nicknames, so I rarely use actual names unless I am talking about that person to someone who doesn't know my nicknames for them. __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

26th Apr 2011, 05:28 PM	#9
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,333 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: names for parents My mother: Ma, "Hey, Ma", or "Mother" My father: I don't really talk to him much (he's not really in my life), but whenever I do, it's "deadie" My younger sister calls my mother by her first name. IDK why, though. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

26th Apr 2011, 05:32 PM	#10
Daryn ^_^ Full Member Gender: Girl. Orientation: Girls. Out Status: whoever asks Location: Why are there eggs scrambling in the street? Age: 18 Posts: 238 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: names for parents I don't think it's weird. I call my grandfather "papa". All my cousins do too. __________________ "That's the trouble with loving a wild thing: You're always left watching the door."

26th Apr 2011, 05:40 PM	#12
Idonteven Enigma Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England, United Kingdom Age: 21 Posts: 535 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: names for parents Mum. Dad. simple?

27th Apr 2011, 03:33 AM	#13
Holmes EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out Location: Ireland Age: 25 Posts: 609 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: names for parents Mama and Dada always in my case. I wouldn't worry too much, if anything, it's not you it's them. It's the kind of thing you could only pick up from them at a young age, if it wasn't something that interested them, that's kust how things were.

27th Apr 2011, 04:57 AM	#14
Giorria Guest Posts: n/a	Re: names for parents Usually just Mum or Dad for me, although I call them by their actual names if they annoy me or we get into a silly argument.

27th Apr 2011, 05:31 AM	#15
Rikudo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: names for parents I just refer to them as Ma or Pa. __________________ "Out of love, sacrifice is born... Hate is born... and we are able to know pain!"

27th Apr 2011, 06:05 AM	#16
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: names for parents I call my mom "Ma" and my stepfather "Dirtbag" (but not to his face, we don't speak directly to one another.) __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

27th Apr 2011, 06:27 AM	#17
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: names for parents Dad is Dad, step-parents by their names, the only thing that people find weird is that I use "Mom" to refer to my mother instead of "Mum". It may not seem strange to American folk but apparently it's out of place in England. My lecturers kept marking me down for using "mom" instead of "mum" in my creative writing coursework. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

27th Apr 2011, 09:49 AM	#18
Emberstone Flappychap Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon, USA Age: 28 Posts: 5,595 Join Date: May 2008	Re: names for parents 'ATM' and 'Insurance Policy'... okay, not really. just mom and dad. __________________ TYPE YOUR NAME: Cory. TYPE YOUR NAME WITH YOUR ELBOW: vcoiptryu SLAM YOUR FACE ON THE KEYBOARD: About three things I was absolutely positive. First, Edward was a vampire. Second, there was a part of him - and I didn't know how potent that part might be - that thirsted for my blood. And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him.