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XxToshixX · 20th Mar 2011, 10:42 AM

Okay, so as I'm sure a lot of you know, texting is a big part of communication these days and a lot of people, especially teens use it as a main form of communication. When teena are dating many of them text on the phone rather than text for whatever reason, and it is just common courtesy to at least try to hold up a decent conversation, rather than just one word replies, or the dreaded "k". Well I have started dating this boy who is a real sweetheart but his texting etiquette is pretty bad. He replies withone word sentences and k all the time and like we can't see eachother every day so textig is a good way for us to talk, and when I try to have like a full length conversation and all I get is k in return it gets frustrating. I've tried to talking to him about it but still nothing =/ maybe he will warm up eventually, idk

Nazo · 20th Mar 2011, 10:56 AM

I know when I text, I either give a short reply or none at all if I wasn't asked something or have nothing to say about what I read. Do you ask questions in your texts or are they just statements? Are the questions you ask really simple? Maybe he just doesn't like texting.

Mirko · 20th Mar 2011, 11:00 AM

Why not just dial the number, and talk to him. If you are already spending time on writing texts for a full length conversation, might as well talk to him.

Plus, as the previous poster mentioned, he might not like texting all that much. I text a lot but if I have a choice between texting and talking, I'll dial the number and talk.

Flyers2011 · 20th Mar 2011, 02:31 PM

Some people are bad texters. My one ex is. SHe loved the one word response. In fact, she was a master of the art.

You might just have to live with his little quirk. Actually, not doing full length paragraphs in texting leads to richer conversation when you're actually speaking (face to face or over the phone). You can tell stories and make jokes and he can hear certain inflections in your voice, etc. Plus, it's no fun to tell someone everything they need to know about you over a text. The sincerity isn't there.

starfish · 20th Mar 2011, 03:11 PM

I'm the same way. Text messages are for short messages that do not need a detailed nor time critical reply.

If want to have a conversation or a detailed reply is needed then just give me a call. In fact if you send me more than 2 text message in less than 5 minutes I'll just give you a call.

So you like this guy and he is not into texting why not just give him a call?

Idonteven · 20th Mar 2011, 08:04 PM

my best-friend hates talking on phones, so the only way we have to communicate sometimes is via text, however he's not a big texter, often times its hard to hold up a decent conversation because he doesn't always answer questions fully. Then again he doesn't always get my texts due to bad signal / his crappy phone.

alexi12 · 20th Mar 2011, 08:14 PM

I hate texting when it comes to relationships! With the one boyfriend I had, we always had to text because he was so deep in the closet. He was a horrible texter, and everything got misunderstood, nothing seemed genuine, and it was an absolutely miserable experience.

I think after that experience, I will be much less of a texter when I get a boyfriend again.

Maybe something like that has happened to him; try calling if you can.

20th Mar 2011, 10:42 AM	#1
XxToshixX The One With The ♫♫♫ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: For The Most Part Location: Battle Creek, MI Age: 17 Posts: 61 Join Date: Jun 2010	Dating and texting Okay, so as I'm sure a lot of you know, texting is a big part of communication these days and a lot of people, especially teens use it as a main form of communication. When teena are dating many of them text on the phone rather than text for whatever reason, and it is just common courtesy to at least try to hold up a decent conversation, rather than just one word replies, or the dreaded "k". Well I have started dating this boy who is a real sweetheart but his texting etiquette is pretty bad. He replies withone word sentences and k all the time and like we can't see eachother every day so textig is a good way for us to talk, and when I try to have like a full length conversation and all I get is k in return it gets frustrating. I've tried to talking to him about it but still nothing =/ maybe he will warm up eventually, idk __________________ "What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction."

20th Mar 2011, 10:56 AM	#2
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,070 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Dating and texting I know when I text, I either give a short reply or none at all if I wasn't asked something or have nothing to say about what I read. Do you ask questions in your texts or are they just statements? Are the questions you ask really simple? Maybe he just doesn't like texting. __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

20th Mar 2011, 11:00 AM	#3
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,055 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Dating and texting Why not just dial the number, and talk to him. If you are already spending time on writing texts for a full length conversation, might as well talk to him. Plus, as the previous poster mentioned, he might not like texting all that much. I text a lot but if I have a choice between texting and talking, I'll dial the number and talk. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

20th Mar 2011, 02:31 PM	#4
Flyers2011 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. Location: O-H-I-O! Posts: 886 Join Date: Sep 2010	Re: Dating and texting Some people are bad texters. My one ex is. SHe loved the one word response. In fact, she was a master of the art. You might just have to live with his little quirk. Actually, not doing full length paragraphs in texting leads to richer conversation when you're actually speaking (face to face or over the phone). You can tell stories and make jokes and he can hear certain inflections in your voice, etc. Plus, it's no fun to tell someone everything they need to know about you over a text. The sincerity isn't there. __________________ "We are born with a scream; we come into life with a scream, and maybe love is a mosquito net between the fear of living and the fear of death."- Francis Bacon

20th Mar 2011, 03:11 PM	#5
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Dating and texting I'm the same way. Text messages are for short messages that do not need a detailed nor time critical reply. If want to have a conversation or a detailed reply is needed then just give me a call. In fact if you send me more than 2 text message in less than 5 minutes I'll just give you a call. So you like this guy and he is not into texting why not just give him a call? __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

20th Mar 2011, 08:04 PM	#6
Idonteven Enigma Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England, United Kingdom Age: 21 Posts: 535 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Dating and texting my best-friend hates talking on phones, so the only way we have to communicate sometimes is via text, however he's not a big texter, often times its hard to hold up a decent conversation because he doesn't always answer questions fully. Then again he doesn't always get my texts due to bad signal / his crappy phone.

20th Mar 2011, 08:14 PM	#7
alexi12 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Chicago Area Age: 18 Posts: 371 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Dating and texting I hate texting when it comes to relationships! With the one boyfriend I had, we always had to text because he was so deep in the closet. He was a horrible texter, and everything got misunderstood, nothing seemed genuine, and it was an absolutely miserable experience. I think after that experience, I will be much less of a texter when I get a boyfriend again. Maybe something like that has happened to him; try calling if you can.