For those who are out...

I swear to god, some days I'd swear I'm a 13-year-old boy who got lost on his way back to his actual body.

I never used to check people out, never used to think about how hot people in movies were, never talked with friends about how cute X person was. Stuff like that used to make me as uncomfortable as all hell.

I came out, got more comfortable with myself, and now I'm a damn horndog.

I am not, however, complaining. =D

 

No. I'm more convinced that I would enjoy sex with the same sex compared to before where I was just totally disgusted with sex. I find myself more open to looking at the same sex and gauging my attraction versus just making it a point not to even think that way and trying to gauge how I found guys attractive which was not very, even with the very handsome and feminine guys. I do notice girls tend to look at me (including mostly straight girls) with a certain curiosity and potential interest to giving strong vibes of attraction coupled with conflict, it feels like, in their sexuality (well, this has happened at least once since I came out a few months ago).

A few girls in my classes (like one who I was like, just from sitting behind her, was like 'she's not straight), some with boyfriends, have started making a lot of eye contact with me or gazing my way and cutting their hair pretty short and maneuvering themselves my way...strange.

I also find it a lot easier to spot lesbian and bi girls and notice them looking my way often seeing as they can sense my gayness, as well. Sometimes it feels more platonic but I think most of us wonder if maybe we would be more than friends ever. Small dating pool, y'know?

I'm still dealing with being accepting of myself as being attracted to the same sex, but for the most part, still, I don't see things in a really sexualized way.

 

Oh, I just love acting a total horndog around my friends. Kinda freaks them out sometimes, but I can't really help myself. Shameless? Perhaps. Reactions on their faces? Priceless.

Now I'm out, I find it so much easier to talk to people and joke about being gay and liking girls and all that. It's really nice how accepting (most) folks are, and how easy it is to act myself around people again. It's like breathing easier. And I talk about girls in a girly way, like a twelve year old would talk about her latest crush. Fuckin' shameless.

Also, I'm much more of a comedian now than I was before. Ellen's been influencing me, I think. It's so much easier to be comfortable fantasizing when you feel like you can be okay in your own skin.

 

Hmm, I've actually had the exact opposite thing happen to me. I'm only out to one of my friends, but when I'm around him I actually flirt a lot less than I used to. Our conversations can still be just as dirty, but being able to talk about how I really feel sort of gives me an outlet to get it all out of my system.

 

Yes. Totally. For the most part, I like making fun of my roommate's insecurity. I've totally pretended to flirt with him in public so many times and he's always caught off guard. Things weren't this fun before I came out. xD

 

Not me - I was always checking out guys I can't help it I guess. I do notice more when another gay gay is checking me out though - I guess I give myself permission to flirt back a bit?

 

Yeah, I guess you could say that I've become more interested in sex since coming out. I wouldn't describe myself as a horndog, and I don't exactly talk about cute guys I see to my friends because they're kinda weirded out still, but occasionally I'll drop a comment about a guy.

 

ever since I came out to my best friend, she and I have been sososo much more comfortable talking about sex and who and what we like. I guess for me, I just finally allowed myself to be interested when I accepted myself and now it's to the point where I'm constantly joking around about it with those who know because I feel comfortable.

 

I wasn't really perverted until I started coming out to people in the terms of my own sexuality. But I've made dirty jokes since day one. I'm just a big ole horndog, but a cute one. I'm not too offensive and if I am, well I apologize and I make other jokes that are not offensive.

After I came out, I started noticing more girls and celebrities, etc. I think part of that had to do with getting over a girl I had a huge crush on. I didn't look at anyone but her, and she was the only one I ever had any kind of thought about and they were mostly romantic.

However, I've always been very blunt when it comes to the area of sex and safe sex. I'm not afraid to tell my friends to wear condoms if they're going to have sex. I don't care what they do, I just don't want to see them get an STD or get pregnant or something. I think that the area of sex shouldn't be as taboo as it is, I mean, it's come a long way since the 50s and stuff, but it's surprising the number of teenagers and young adults that are really uninformed in such an important area.

 

I wouldnt say that my thoughts became more perverse or dirty after I came out. I would however say that I was more open to recognizing when I was attracted to a guy.

 

I have found that my erotica/porn viewing has dimished a bit, but my checking out the "check-out boy" has increased considerably. I haven't yet reached the threshold of taking that image and putting it into my fantasies.........yet

 

I don't think there was much change. I thought dirty thoughts about guys before I came out and after.

Lex

 

Well everytime I pass by a mirror I see this guy looking back at me and Oh MY GOD the things I imagine doing to him!

(No but...seriously now, folks)

I think the reason people might notice a change in their sexual behaviour is probobly best explained that you were before afraid or ashamed to have those thoughts.

For example, when I was in the closet, I would notice a guy but immediately dismiss it instead of furthering my fantasies aboot him: "He's really cu--NOT GAY NOT GAY NOT GAY"

But when you become out you become more and more comfortable with these feelings and thus more inclined to accept them or fully realize them: "He's really cute. Look at that butt, it's so nice. And look at his sexy fedora, blue eyes, and leather jacket."

I mean, ever heard a straight guy talk aboot a girl? Or a straight girl talk aboot a -hot- guy?

We're all just super horny. It's in our animal nature. Just some people suppress this desire more then others.

 

I had "dirty" thoughts about guys long before I came out.
There is nothing wrong with it, if you see someone who you find attractive, its natural that you'd think about sex.