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XxToshixX · 11th Apr 2011, 10:45 AM

Blehhhhhhhhhhhh........ Why do people need to cheat on one another? This is the the erm..... Ninth time I have been cheated on. And I'm not even out of hs yet. Ugh I swear, boys suck =(

thedreamwatch · 11th Apr 2011, 12:18 PM

It seems like you're dating the WRONG kind of guys.
Not all guys are like that, but when your circle is small (like high school) it's sometimes hard to meet good people, but getting out of that small circle might help in that situation.

Austin · 11th Apr 2011, 12:22 PM

Because a flaw in human's biology and psychology makes them want to. )= And most men are weak. And also probably because you are young. The guys are fickle and immature.

It really is a horrible thing though, and I'm sorry it has happened to you so much. =( It's a terrible feeling to be cheated on.

Tiny Catastrophe · 11th Apr 2011, 12:30 PM

That happened to me a lot too when I was in high school. I'm sorry you've been through that. It's an awful feeling but you'll find the right guy. You're still young and have a lot of time to find the right guy.

**Chip** · 11th Apr 2011, 03:10 PM

Not all guys cheat. But I echo thedreamwatch's thoughts... if it's happened to you lots of times, then you need to look at the guys you are dating and that, in turn, means looking at yourself.

Perhaps you have some self esteem issues, and feel, unconsciously, like you don't deserve someone "better." Or perhaps the particular crowd you're hanging with isn't one that's particularly high in integrity. Or... perhaps you are seeking out relationships that are mostly sexual, and those sort of relationships are more likely to involve cheating.

Nearly always, though, when you find yourself in relationships with guys that have repeating negative patterns, it is some reflection on the sorts of messages you're putting out, unconsciously, to attract people, and toward the sorts of people you're attracting. The good news is... you're noticing this now, and it's *much* easier to deal with and change when you're 16 than when you're 20 or 25 or 30 or older.

nate16 · 11th Apr 2011, 03:55 PM

all i can say it that even though i haven't been in a relationship yet, i would be soo pissed off to be cheated on... i want a relationship that's healthy and lasts.

Daryn · 11th Apr 2011, 04:25 PM

High school is pretty much a time when most people learn a lot about themselves and other people. And sometimes it sucks. But not all guys are gonna be like that, you just haven't found the right one yet.

Zontar · 11th Apr 2011, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by XxToshixX

Blehhhhhhhhhhhh........ Why do people need to cheat on one another? This is the the erm..... Ninth time I have been cheated on. And I'm not even out of hs yet. Ugh I swear, boys suck =(

Where the hell school are you going to with at least nine gay guys?

I'm jealous. =P

Aya McCabre · 11th Apr 2011, 05:56 PM

Find a different circle of guys to date. I know of a group of girls here who are always cheating on each other.... but it's pretty rare to hear of lesbians who aren't in that circle cheating on each other. If you can find a different group of guys then you might have better luck.

cardenio · 11th Apr 2011, 06:05 PM

Did the boys you've dated have a history of cheating on other people before you started dating them? That's definitely a red flag for me, and perhaps something you should look out for in the future.

11th Apr 2011, 10:45 AM	#1
XxToshixX The One With The ♫♫♫ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: For The Most Part Location: Battle Creek, MI Age: 17 Posts: 61 Join Date: Jun 2010	Cheating Blehhhhhhhhhhhh........ Why do people need to cheat on one another? This is the the erm..... Ninth time I have been cheated on. And I'm not even out of hs yet. Ugh I swear, boys suck =( __________________ "What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction."

11th Apr 2011, 12:18 PM	#2
thedreamwatch Maximum Ridiculosity Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 5. So, pretty gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Wisconsin Age: 22 Posts: 1,274 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Cheating It seems like you're dating the WRONG kind of guys. Not all guys are like that, but when your circle is small (like high school) it's sometimes hard to meet good people, but getting out of that small circle might help in that situation. __________________ "I came out laughing, I came out screaming, I came out dancing..." - T&S

11th Apr 2011, 12:22 PM	#3
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,790 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Cheating Because a flaw in human's biology and psychology makes them want to. )= And most men are weak. And also probably because you are young. The guys are fickle and immature. It really is a horrible thing though, and I'm sorry it has happened to you so much. =( It's a terrible feeling to be cheated on. __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life? Last edited by Austin; 11th Apr 2011 at 12:26 PM..

11th Apr 2011, 12:30 PM	#4
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Cheating That happened to me a lot too when I was in high school. I'm sorry you've been through that. It's an awful feeling but you'll find the right guy. You're still young and have a lot of time to find the right guy. __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.

11th Apr 2011, 03:10 PM	#5
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,578 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Cheating Not all guys cheat. But I echo thedreamwatch's thoughts... if it's happened to you lots of times, then you need to look at the guys you are dating and that, in turn, means looking at yourself. Perhaps you have some self esteem issues, and feel, unconsciously, like you don't deserve someone "better." Or perhaps the particular crowd you're hanging with isn't one that's particularly high in integrity. Or... perhaps you are seeking out relationships that are mostly sexual, and those sort of relationships are more likely to involve cheating. Nearly always, though, when you find yourself in relationships with guys that have repeating negative patterns, it is some reflection on the sorts of messages you're putting out, unconsciously, to attract people, and toward the sorts of people you're attracting. The good news is... you're noticing this now, and it's much easier to deal with and change when you're 16 than when you're 20 or 25 or 30 or older.

11th Apr 2011, 03:55 PM	#6
nate16 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: close family and some friends Location: Massachusetts Age: 18 Posts: 118 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Cheating all i can say it that even though i haven't been in a relationship yet, i would be soo pissed off to be cheated on... i want a relationship that's healthy and lasts.

11th Apr 2011, 04:25 PM	#7
Daryn ^_^ Full Member Gender: Girl. Orientation: Girls. Out Status: whoever asks Location: Why are there eggs scrambling in the street? Age: 18 Posts: 238 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Cheating High school is pretty much a time when most people learn a lot about themselves and other people. And sometimes it sucks. But not all guys are gonna be like that, you just haven't found the right one yet. __________________ "That's the trouble with loving a wild thing: You're always left watching the door."

11th Apr 2011, 05:56 PM	#9
Aya McCabre Beware of the Metaphor Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Age: 21 Posts: 613 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Cheating Find a different circle of guys to date. I know of a group of girls here who are always cheating on each other.... but it's pretty rare to hear of lesbians who aren't in that circle cheating on each other. If you can find a different group of guys then you might have better luck. __________________ Time is on my side she said. He may be on your side I said, but it makes no difference in the end, He's coming after you my friend........

11th Apr 2011, 06:05 PM	#10
cardenio Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Texas Age: 23 Posts: 83 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Cheating Did the boys you've dated have a history of cheating on other people before you started dating them? That's definitely a red flag for me, and perhaps something you should look out for in the future.

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