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MyDecember · 16th Apr 2011, 10:15 AM

How do you personally come out to people. Do you just say it? Do you have a way of doing it? Do you plan it? Text it? Write a letter? Phone a friend to do it? What if the person is homophobic or just plane mean? How do you put your special touch on coming out?

IsItSo · 16th Apr 2011, 10:50 AM

I answer honestly if people ask. I don't ever really initiate.

TyRawr · 16th Apr 2011, 10:54 AM

This I think would be a better thread for the "support and advice" area.

When i came out, it was with a large group of friends, at a party rather. I just made it seem really casual, and like it wasnt that big deal. Your friends will probably not be homophobic, and if they are, then they will come around. Its something that takes some getting used to. As for adding a special touch, Im sorry that is for you to figure out.

To each their own.

**Owen** · 16th Apr 2011, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by TyRawr

This I think would be a better thread for the "support and advice" area.

Considering the conversational/inquisitive way the original poster worded the thread, I think it's fine where it is.

Since I'm already completely out of the closet, I tend to just act like the person I'm talking with already knows that I'm gay. I don't make an issue of it, and if it comes up, it comes up, and they figure it out eventually. I also have it on my Facebook page, I wear a rainbow pin on my messanger back that says "Don't ask, 'cause I'll tell", and I sometimes wear a t-shit that says "When do I get to vote on your marriage?" All of these are because I'm pretty masculine-acting around people I don't know extremely well, and while the surprised reactions to my comings out were amusing at first, they got tiresome after a while, so I counteract my unintentionally-effective façade with pride paraphernalia.

16th Apr 2011, 10:15 AM	#1
MyDecember I pause your thread! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Florida Age: 23 Posts: 365 Join Date: Jan 2011	How do you come out? How do you personally come out to people. Do you just say it? Do you have a way of doing it? Do you plan it? Text it? Write a letter? Phone a friend to do it? What if the person is homophobic or just plane mean? How do you put your special touch on coming out? __________________ This is my simple religion: There is no need for temples, there is no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is the temple;the philosophy is loving kindness and compassion --The XIVth Dalai Lama

16th Apr 2011, 10:50 AM	#2
IsItSo EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: 同志 Out Status: A few people Location: New York-ish Age: 18 Posts: 771 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: How do you come out? I answer honestly if people ask. I don't ever really initiate.

16th Apr 2011, 10:54 AM	#3
TyRawr Now tell me how you really feel. :) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Fair Oaks CA Age: 18 Posts: 396 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: How do you come out? This I think would be a better thread for the "support and advice" area. When i came out, it was with a large group of friends, at a party rather. I just made it seem really casual, and like it wasnt that big deal. Your friends will probably not be homophobic, and if they are, then they will come around. Its something that takes some getting used to. As for adding a special touch, Im sorry that is for you to figure out. To each their own. __________________ ~Tyler