A really good surprise message - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

artistrampage · 20th Apr 2011, 10:19 AM

i got this message from a friend that i used to be really close with and it really made me feel good because it showed that he still cares..i just thought i would share it since it made me realize that even though some people react in less than desired ways to their friends coming out,it doesn't always mean that they stopped caring for you.

"Well I don't know how to really start this but im sorry. I have been acting like different, just like ever since u turned gay it felt weird and your where my best friend before that. and even now when i act like a total douche bag you still are there for me and i feel like shit because u where my best friend you had my back all the time and you still do and i just feel like shit for treating you different because u where gay and i didn't want to believe it but im sorry i ever treated you different and i wanted you to know u are my best friend."

Revan · 20th Apr 2011, 10:27 AM

That's great to hear, minus the turned gay but that part is expected. I hope it all works out.

artistrampage · 20th Apr 2011, 11:21 AM

yea i agree the 'turning gay' part wasn't the right phrase but i knew what he meant

**Eleanor Rigby** · 20th Apr 2011, 12:08 PM

That's great that he is aknowledging that he was uncomfortable with the fact you're gay and that he knows you're not any different from the friend you were and that he had been acting stupid.
I hope he'll turn out to be supportive and comfortable around you again.
Take care, Cécile

TraceElement · 20th Apr 2011, 09:23 PM

That's awesome! It sounds like his initial reaction was not 100% positive, but he is definately coming around and realizing that just because you came out to him, it does not change who you are.

20th Apr 2011, 10:19 AM	#1
artistrampage Gold member? Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: way far out with no closet in sight Posts: 23 Join Date: Apr 2010	A really good surprise message i got this message from a friend that i used to be really close with and it really made me feel good because it showed that he still cares..i just thought i would share it since it made me realize that even though some people react in less than desired ways to their friends coming out,it doesn't always mean that they stopped caring for you. "Well I don't know how to really start this but im sorry. I have been acting like different, just like ever since u turned gay it felt weird and your where my best friend before that. and even now when i act like a total douche bag you still are there for me and i feel like shit because u where my best friend you had my back all the time and you still do and i just feel like shit for treating you different because u where gay and i didn't want to believe it but im sorry i ever treated you different and i wanted you to know u are my best friend."

20th Apr 2011, 10:27 AM	#2
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: A really good surprise message That's great to hear, minus the turned gay but that part is expected. I hope it all works out. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

20th Apr 2011, 11:21 AM	#3
artistrampage Gold member? Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: way far out with no closet in sight Posts: 23 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: A really good surprise message yea i agree the 'turning gay' part wasn't the right phrase but i knew what he meant

20th Apr 2011, 12:08 PM	#4
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out as straight ally Location: France Age: 32 Posts: 5,401 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: A really good surprise message That's great that he is aknowledging that he was uncomfortable with the fact you're gay and that he knows you're not any different from the friend you were and that he had been acting stupid. I hope he'll turn out to be supportive and comfortable around you again. Take care, Cécile __________________ "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means." Immanuel Kant

20th Apr 2011, 09:23 PM	#5
TraceElement The one and only Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Kinsey 4 Out Status: to most people who matter Location: Rochester, NY Age: 23 Posts: 455 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: A really good surprise message That's awesome! It sounds like his initial reaction was not 100% positive, but he is definately coming around and realizing that just because you came out to him, it does not change who you are. __________________ Carpe Diem- Grab life by the balls, one day at a time.

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