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HantsBen · 18th May 2011, 03:33 PM

Dunno if any of you have ever had it but there are a few people I know who dont know about me going around saying "Oh there is no such thing as bisexuals its just used by people who dont want to admit they are gay" and it really, really winds me up.

Anybody else experienced this?

Shevanel · 18th May 2011, 03:36 PM

Of course. My favorite douchebags who propagate this bullshit are militant gays (who believe this of course, though I'm not much of a fan of militant gays in general, nor people with any kind of militant stance on anything for that matter). The hypocrisy is amazing.

Kamina · 18th May 2011, 03:50 PM

I've gotten "Gay means you like the wrong gender. Bisexual means you're just confused."

FROM A FUCKING 36 YEAR OLD MAN.

Lolguy · 18th May 2011, 03:55 PM

I've had bisexual friends tell me of ignorant twats who say things like this. It's amazing how deep human stupidity goes.

borntosurvive · 18th May 2011, 04:51 PM

One of my good friends is bi. I think the only day I've ever seen him legitimately pissed off was when some girl said that bisexual people need to just "make up their mind." What an abominable brat. [The girl, not my friend, of course.]

Idonteven · 18th May 2011, 05:30 PM

Yes, the only openly gay guy I knew when I was at school was sort of in my group of friends, anyway, he said a few times there is no such thing as bisexual. I face palmed then and I do it every time I hear it.

Sillyrabbit · 18th May 2011, 07:26 PM

I hear it quite a lot at my school (I go to a very small school in the middle nowhere) and it just grinds my gears, but of course I can't say anything about it or I'll probaly get beaten up because basically everyone at my school is extremely judgmental and they hate gays, lesbians, & bisexual people. Also a few if my friends have said and agreed that "bisexual people are just greedy, they just want to get f*** by any living human being" I think that night I went home and punched my wall... Ah such good friends (even though they don't know about me being Bi)...

Saikou7 · 18th May 2011, 07:57 PM

If someone really felt attraction to men and women, what reason do I have not to believe them? It's ridiculous.

Thankfully, I've never heard someone say that before. (in real life)

Pseudojim · 18th May 2011, 08:35 PM

My dad thinks that. That's why my family doesn't know.

AtmaWeapon · 18th May 2011, 08:47 PM

Yeah, I first was met with the 'bi myth' way back in high school. I never could quite understand why people said that unless they think bi means liking both sexes on a completely equal level. I'm not sure about that. I tend to think of bi as being more Kinsey 2, 3, and 4 (though I can see how 2 might still identify as straight and 4 as gay and think that should be up to a person to decide on that).

Holliepop · 19th May 2011, 03:22 AM

"Why can't you just make up your mind?"
"So you'll sleep with anyone?"
"That's just greediness."
"You're only saying you're bi because you don't want to admit to being a lesbian."

Incredibly annoying.

EndlessMusic · 19th May 2011, 04:27 AM

load of bullshit, of course there are bisexuals
who cares what others think! it's all about who you are! and be proud!
because what you feel, a million others feel the same way

19th May 2011, 04:29 AM

Never once had anyone tell me that when I previsouly told people I was bi. Since I came out as gay, people have told me that i'm wrong and i'm bi. Everybody believes that the guy in work whos bi is lying and doesn't want to admit hes gay, I've noticed how he looks at both genders though so I know hes not lying.

Flyers2011 · 19th May 2011, 06:31 AM

It's a load of bullshit, I heard it from people all the time when I first came out as bisexual. I was also told that in order to be bi, I needed to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time.

It's so stupid. I mean it's bad when straight people say it, but when gay people say it it's even worse. It's worse because we're all LGBTers together. We shouldn't be tearing each other's sexuality down, but instead working together to get the rights that we deserve. In a homophobe's mind, it doesn't matter if one is gay or bisexual they still see the entire, "You like the same gender," thing and they continue to push us down. We need to stand together and act as one big family.

Holmes · 19th May 2011, 09:46 AM

Gay people should know better. After going through others talking down their sexuality, they should have enough empathy to take others' word when they say they're bi.

HantsBen · 19th May 2011, 11:10 AM

Wow, I have never heard of a gay person to say that, extremely dissapointing!

malachite · 19th May 2011, 11:34 AM

I have heard this, but it always seems to come form people also think everyone is gay...so yeah just take that for what its worth. . .not much. . .yeah I'm done here

bye

Gleeko0 · 19th May 2011, 01:47 PM

yeah, once i heard a friend commenting about a person (i don't know if it was serious or joking) and she said "or maybe he is bisexual, hasn't decided yet." And it bothered me a lot, she didn't knew i was bi.

Gleeko0 · 19th May 2011, 07:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gleeko0

yeah, once i heard a friend commenting about a person (i don't know if it was serious or joking) and she said "or maybe he is bisexual, hasn't decided yet." And it bothered me a lot, she didn't knew i was bi.

Dang, i failed to explaing things here.

was supposed to be more specific, sorry.

What i mean is, she said it this way:

"if he is gay he likes men, but maybe he is bisexual, like maybe he hasn't decided what to like yet? *laughs*"

Indicating bisexuals are "confused"

>_> i felt uncomfortable.

So yeah, so sorry about that, i failed to notice it earlier...sorry about my english, sometimes i think i said it all but it isn't clear enough.

Ratchet · 20th May 2011, 05:34 AM

Yes, a few times, mostly it seems to be gay men though, bit ironic in my opinion

I can only think of two notable times at the moment, once by a gay guy (it was online, doubt he would have said it to my face) seemed to think bi men were just gay but didn't want to admit it. or greedy or something, was really nasty about it to the point of saying bisexuals don't exist .. I could have sworn i was real...

Second is a workmate, shes not a bad about it, just seems to think I'm 'confused' or not wanting to be seen as gay, "you need to chose what you are" why? (she is a nice person btw, that just irks me a bit)

Ok my preference is male, but i still find females attractive hence im bi, least that how i see it, human sexuality is not binary, you don't need to be one or the other, sadly seems a lot think that way still

18th May 2011, 03:33 PM	#1
HantsBen Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few close friends Location: Hampshire (UK) Age: 18 Posts: 113 Join Date: Apr 2011	Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Dunno if any of you have ever had it but there are a few people I know who dont know about me going around saying "Oh there is no such thing as bisexuals its just used by people who dont want to admit they are gay" and it really, really winds me up. Anybody else experienced this?

18th May 2011, 03:36 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Of course. My favorite douchebags who propagate this bullshit are militant gays (who believe this of course, though I'm not much of a fan of militant gays in general, nor people with any kind of militant stance on anything for that matter). The hypocrisy is amazing. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

18th May 2011, 03:50 PM	#3
Kamina Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Louisville Age: 20 Posts: 79 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? I've gotten "Gay means you like the wrong gender. Bisexual means you're just confused." FROM A FUCKING 36 YEAR OLD MAN.

18th May 2011, 03:55 PM	#4
Lolguy Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Wisconsin Age: 18 Posts: 106 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? I've had bisexual friends tell me of ignorant twats who say things like this. It's amazing how deep human stupidity goes. __________________ Microsoft eats babies.

18th May 2011, 04:51 PM	#5
borntosurvive The Swan Queen Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I <3 Boys Out Status: Desperately wants to come out Location: Cheyenne Age: 17 Posts: 69 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? One of my good friends is bi. I think the only day I've ever seen him legitimately pissed off was when some girl said that bisexual people need to just "make up their mind." What an abominable brat. [The girl, not my friend, of course.] __________________ I'm on the edge of glory, and I'm hangin' on a moment of truth. Out on the edge of glory, and I'm hangin' on a moment with you.

18th May 2011, 05:30 PM	#6
Idonteven Enigma Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England, United Kingdom Age: 21 Posts: 535 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Yes, the only openly gay guy I knew when I was at school was sort of in my group of friends, anyway, he said a few times there is no such thing as bisexual. I face palmed then and I do it every time I hear it.

18th May 2011, 07:26 PM	#7
Sillyrabbit Newbie Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Three good friends Location: Canada Posts: 9 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? I hear it quite a lot at my school (I go to a very small school in the middle nowhere) and it just grinds my gears, but of course I can't say anything about it or I'll probaly get beaten up because basically everyone at my school is extremely judgmental and they hate gays, lesbians, & bisexual people. Also a few if my friends have said and agreed that "bisexual people are just greedy, they just want to get f*** by any living human being" I think that night I went home and punched my wall... Ah such good friends (even though they don't know about me being Bi)...

18th May 2011, 07:57 PM	#8
Saikou7 7-7-7 Full Member Gender: Male (男性) Orientation: Gay (ゲイ) Out Status: Facebook, everyone but extended family Location: AR Age: 17 Posts: 237 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? If someone really felt attraction to men and women, what reason do I have not to believe them? It's ridiculous. Thankfully, I've never heard someone say that before. (in real life)

18th May 2011, 08:35 PM	#9
Pseudojim Part robot Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi - Kinsey 2ish Out Status: All but family Location: Australia Age: 27 Posts: 2,154 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? My dad thinks that. That's why my family doesn't know.

18th May 2011, 08:47 PM	#10
AtmaWeapon Huffs Rainbows Full Member Gender: Natal female - genderqueer Orientation: Kinsey 5 - I prefer women Out Status: As out as I could hope to be Age: 23 Posts: 186 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Yeah, I first was met with the 'bi myth' way back in high school. I never could quite understand why people said that unless they think bi means liking both sexes on a completely equal level. I'm not sure about that. I tend to think of bi as being more Kinsey 2, 3, and 4 (though I can see how 2 might still identify as straight and 4 as gay and think that should be up to a person to decide on that). __________________ No book is more holy and no book is more sacred than giving proper respect to people and their humanity.

19th May 2011, 03:22 AM	#11
Holliepop The world is waiting for you. Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: on FB, so everyone? Location: Wiltshire, UK. Age: 19 Posts: 362 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? "Why can't you just make up your mind?" "So you'll sleep with anyone?" "That's just greediness." "You're only saying you're bi because you don't want to admit to being a lesbian." Incredibly annoying. __________________ ♥Cause if I am to go, in my heart you'd grow, and that's where you belong.

19th May 2011, 04:27 AM	#12
EndlessMusic Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Some people Location: MELBOURNEEE Posts: 64 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? load of bullshit, of course there are bisexuals who cares what others think! it's all about who you are! and be proud! because what you feel, a million others feel the same way __________________ Hey Angel, Why so duh SEXY?

19th May 2011, 04:29 AM	#13
Giorria Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Never once had anyone tell me that when I previsouly told people I was bi. Since I came out as gay, people have told me that i'm wrong and i'm bi. Everybody believes that the guy in work whos bi is lying and doesn't want to admit hes gay, I've noticed how he looks at both genders though so I know hes not lying.

19th May 2011, 06:31 AM	#14
Flyers2011 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. Location: O-H-I-O! Posts: 886 Join Date: Sep 2010	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? It's a load of bullshit, I heard it from people all the time when I first came out as bisexual. I was also told that in order to be bi, I needed to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time. It's so stupid. I mean it's bad when straight people say it, but when gay people say it it's even worse. It's worse because we're all LGBTers together. We shouldn't be tearing each other's sexuality down, but instead working together to get the rights that we deserve. In a homophobe's mind, it doesn't matter if one is gay or bisexual they still see the entire, "You like the same gender," thing and they continue to push us down. We need to stand together and act as one big family. __________________ "We are born with a scream; we come into life with a scream, and maybe love is a mosquito net between the fear of living and the fear of death."- Francis Bacon

19th May 2011, 09:46 AM	#15
Holmes EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out Location: Ireland Age: 25 Posts: 609 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Gay people should know better. After going through others talking down their sexuality, they should have enough empathy to take others' word when they say they're bi.

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19th May 2011, 11:10 AM	#16
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Gleeko0 Chocolate Lover Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Straight as a rainbow!!! Out Status: Not hidding it. And out to family. Location: Brazil Age: 16 Posts: 173 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? yeah, once i heard a friend commenting about a person (i don't know if it was serious or joking) and she said "or maybe he is bisexual, hasn't decided yet." And it bothered me a lot, she didn't knew i was bi. __________________ "We're all a little weird, and life's a little weird and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it Love"

20th May 2011, 05:34 AM	#20
Ratchet Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Aberdeen Posts: 13 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Ever had "No such thing as Bi"? Yes, a few times, mostly it seems to be gay men though, bit ironic in my opinion I can only think of two notable times at the moment, once by a gay guy (it was online, doubt he would have said it to my face) seemed to think bi men were just gay but didn't want to admit it. or greedy or something, was really nasty about it to the point of saying bisexuals don't exist .. I could have sworn i was real... Second is a workmate, shes not a bad about it, just seems to think I'm 'confused' or not wanting to be seen as gay, "you need to chose what you are" why? (she is a nice person btw, that just irks me a bit) Ok my preference is male, but i still find females attractive hence im bi, least that how i see it, human sexuality is not binary, you don't need to be one or the other, sadly seems a lot think that way still __________________ If Homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in gay to work. “Hello. Can't work today, still gay.”