Would you date a transsexual? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Hot Pink · 27th May 2011, 01:47 AM

Now, don't let the fact that I am a transsexual sway you in anyway. I'm curious about this, so I want people to be honest. There may be other transsexuals on the site who are also curious about this.

I'm also not going to push anyone to post. Those who do, however, can post their answer with a brief description if they wish. Trust me when I tell you that I understand if people are iffy about transsexuals. We can be a complicated bunch and difficult to live with. A lot of us suffer from various forms of emotional and confidence issues, so we can sometimes be a bit "high maintenance."

At the end of the day, however, we're just as human as everyone else. We desire companionship. We want someone to love us.

I'll start by answering. Yes, I would date another transsexual, only another MTF. Why? FTM are men and I'm a lesbian. I have no interest in men, even if they are in a female body.

IanGallagher · 27th May 2011, 02:44 AM

Case by case basis. Or appearance wise, if I find him or her attractive. I'll be honest and say I don't think I can be with anyone transitioning though. Just one way or another. If this is asking in regards to if you'll find someone, you definitely will. There's someone for everyone in life.

adam88 · 27th May 2011, 05:38 AM

Sure, why not? I had a crush on an FTM person a year or two ago so... I guess that's my opinion on the subject.

**Eric** · 27th May 2011, 05:40 AM

I'm not sure I'd be able to.

**Owen** · 27th May 2011, 05:44 AM

I've never had the opportunity, but a while ago, I though this trans guy at our college's GLBT club was flirting with me, and my interest was piqued, so I think I'd be able to do so. But being attracted exclusively to males, I picked FtM only.

GuardianKitten · 27th May 2011, 06:44 AM

Yes, in the way that 'd date "anyone"

It doesn't bother me, trans or not.

heatqueen · 27th May 2011, 06:45 AM

It's about love, not gender, so yeah.

manpants · 27th May 2011, 07:11 AM

Yes, and I have- my first boifriend was a transguy. I didnt realise that he was trans at first- just thought he was really butch lesbian. I really didnt know how to handle him at first and i couldnt understand why he would like me to use male pronouns if he's clearly in female body___ yes i was so green. But i have come to a point where we understand each other very well and he was very patient with me and tried to explain- and i also did a lot of reading to try and understand him.
Besides not understanding him so well at first- i still found him ridiculously hot and he probably became even more appealing as i got to understand him better.

It was also kind of hard in trying to understand what it makes me if im dating a man- and pretty much just gave up onusing the lesbian label. if somebody i dont know asks me if im a lesbian, i say yes but it's so much more to me.

anyway like somebody before me said- yes you can love anyone without thinking about gender(or some can

)-- but for me its his strange gender and exactly the fact that he is a transman that made him so delicious

Pseudojim · 27th May 2011, 08:00 AM

Absolutely. In fact, i would really love to date one.

Either gender.

But i would have to like them on an intellectual level first.

Z3ni · 27th May 2011, 08:15 AM

Yeah, why not

**Chandra** · 27th May 2011, 08:31 AM

I chose "maybe", and it's kind of hard to explain why, except to say that there are very few people I find attractive to begin with - and when I do, the reasons are often surprising even to me. So I can imagine situations where I wouldn't find someone attractive in part because they're trans*, but I can also imagine situations where I would. If that makes any sense.

Pseudojim · 27th May 2011, 09:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chandra

I chose "maybe", and it's kind of hard to explain why, except to say that there are very few people I find attractive to begin with - and when I do, the reasons are often surprising even to me. So I can imagine situations where I wouldn't find someone attractive in part because they're trans*, but I can also imagine situations where I would. If that makes any sense.

i'm with you =)

i often find people attractive for reasons which are completely unfathomable to everyone else i know

Steve712 · 27th May 2011, 09:05 AM

Assuming they have a personality which I like, I would date a female to male transsexual if they've already undergone most or all of their change.

lemoncookies · 27th May 2011, 09:08 AM

If they treat you well and you treat them well, why not?

British Lad · 27th May 2011, 12:17 PM

I Think if they had changed to the perferd gender first and I did not know that yes anything else no

Keelin · 27th May 2011, 12:21 PM

I'm trans so my opinion shouldn't count but why not?

malachite · 27th May 2011, 12:34 PM

Pseudojim · 27th May 2011, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lili pond

I'm trans so my opinion shouldn't count but why not?

it counts more than anyone else's, if anything =)

you're all beautiful people!

Kamina · 27th May 2011, 03:21 PM

Sure, why not? If I love the person enough it doesn't matter what their gender is.

-Michael- · 27th May 2011, 03:27 PM

I've been asking myself this recently.
Im following a fair few FtM on tumble who post pictures of themselves and how they're changing from TT and stuff.

It's really interesting and I have to admit finding a few attractive.
I'm still confused on FtM downstairs surgery (being too scared to google such things) but I'd say after getting to know them and being in a relationship, then yeah sure.

View Poll Results: Would you date a transsexual?
Yes, I'm cool anyone.	34	26.56%
Yes, but only an MTF.	9	7.03%
Yes, but only an FTM.	12	9.38%
No, sorry.	37	28.91%
Maybe.	36	28.13%
Voters: 128. You may not vote on this poll

27th May 2011, 01:47 AM	#1
Hot Pink EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transsexual: MtF Orientation: Panromantic Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Minnesota, USA Age: 27 Posts: 622 Join Date: Apr 2011	Would you date a transsexual? Now, don't let the fact that I am a transsexual sway you in anyway. I'm curious about this, so I want people to be honest. There may be other transsexuals on the site who are also curious about this. I'm also not going to push anyone to post. Those who do, however, can post their answer with a brief description if they wish. Trust me when I tell you that I understand if people are iffy about transsexuals. We can be a complicated bunch and difficult to live with. A lot of us suffer from various forms of emotional and confidence issues, so we can sometimes be a bit "high maintenance." At the end of the day, however, we're just as human as everyone else. We desire companionship. We want someone to love us. I'll start by answering. Yes, I would date another transsexual, only another MTF. Why? FTM are men and I'm a lesbian. I have no interest in men, even if they are in a female body. __________________ Pffffffft...

27th May 2011, 02:44 AM	#2
IanGallagher The fluctuator Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mutant and proud Out Status: All except work and extended family. Location: I fly as much as Superman Age: 24 Posts: 619 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Case by case basis. Or appearance wise, if I find him or her attractive. I'll be honest and say I don't think I can be with anyone transitioning though. Just one way or another. If this is asking in regards to if you'll find someone, you definitely will. There's someone for everyone in life.

27th May 2011, 05:38 AM	#3
adam88 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual. Or bi. Same thing. Out Status: Yes. Location: Toronto, Canada Age: 30 Posts: 797 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Sure, why not? I had a crush on an FTM person a year or two ago so... I guess that's my opinion on the subject. __________________ --Brendan A coming out is never late, Frodo Baggins. Nor is it early. You come out precisely when you mean to. -not Gandalf

27th May 2011, 05:40 AM	#4
Eric EC Chat Room Mod EC Chat Mod Gender: Male Orientation: Gayyy Out Status: Open about it. Location: Ontario Age: 18 Posts: 1,374 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Would you date a transsexual? I'm not sure I'd be able to.

27th May 2011, 05:44 AM	#5
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,872 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Would you date a transsexual? I've never had the opportunity, but a while ago, I though this trans guy at our college's GLBT club was flirting with me, and my interest was piqued, so I think I'd be able to do so. But being attracted exclusively to males, I picked FtM only. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

27th May 2011, 06:44 AM	#6
GuardianKitten Well Known Full Member Gender: Boy Orientation: 80% gay Out Status: People guessed. Location: Greater Philadelphia Area Age: 17 Posts: 200 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Yes, in the way that 'd date "anyone" It doesn't bother me, trans or not. __________________ Hold on to the world we all remember fighting for. There's some strenght left in us yet Hold on to the world we all remember dying for. Theres some hope left in it yet Arise and be all that you dreamed. All that you dreamed

27th May 2011, 06:45 AM	#7
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,706 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Would you date a transsexual? It's about love, not gender, so yeah. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

27th May 2011, 07:11 AM	#8
manpants OVERTHINKER Regular Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: lesbian sometimes. i kind of prefer gay- Out Status: all my friends, and immediate family Location: Cape Town Age: 21 Posts: 5 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Yes, and I have- my first boifriend was a transguy. I didnt realise that he was trans at first- just thought he was really butch lesbian. I really didnt know how to handle him at first and i couldnt understand why he would like me to use male pronouns if he's clearly in female body___ yes i was so green. But i have come to a point where we understand each other very well and he was very patient with me and tried to explain- and i also did a lot of reading to try and understand him. Besides not understanding him so well at first- i still found him ridiculously hot and he probably became even more appealing as i got to understand him better. It was also kind of hard in trying to understand what it makes me if im dating a man- and pretty much just gave up onusing the lesbian label. if somebody i dont know asks me if im a lesbian, i say yes but it's so much more to me. anyway like somebody before me said- yes you can love anyone without thinking about gender(or some can )-- but for me its his strange gender and exactly the fact that he is a transman that made him so delicious

27th May 2011, 08:00 AM	#9
Pseudojim Part robot Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi - Kinsey 2ish Out Status: All but family Location: Australia Age: 27 Posts: 2,154 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Absolutely. In fact, i would really love to date one. Either gender. But i would have to like them on an intellectual level first.

27th May 2011, 08:15 AM	#10
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,080 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Yeah, why not __________________ Through pain, lies success.

27th May 2011, 08:31 AM	#11
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Would you date a transsexual? I chose "maybe", and it's kind of hard to explain why, except to say that there are very few people I find attractive to begin with - and when I do, the reasons are often surprising even to me. So I can imagine situations where I wouldn't find someone attractive in part because they're trans, but I can also imagine situations where I would*. If that makes any sense.

27th May 2011, 09:05 AM	#13
Steve712 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Mostly out. Location: New Brunswick, Canada Age: 17 Posts: 1,292 Join Date: Feb 2010	Re: Would you date a transsexual? Assuming they have a personality which I like, I would date a female to male transsexual if they've already undergone most or all of their change. __________________ "Yet if hope has flown away / In a night, or in a day, In a vision, or in none, / Is it therefore the less gone?" - Poe

27th May 2011, 09:08 AM	#14
lemoncookies ♡(´∀｀)人(´∀｀)♡ Regular Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: 両性愛 ♪ Out Status: A few people Age: 22 Posts: 13 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Would you date a transsexual? If they treat you well and you treat them well, why not?

27th May 2011, 12:17 PM	#15
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: Would you date a transsexual? I Think if they had changed to the perferd gender first and I did not know that yes anything else no __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

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