Is it a choice?

No.

That is all.

 

This is kinda like a thread I posted: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/chit-chat/45392-can-you-turn-someone.html

 

The only time I see Homosexuality as a choice is when an individual decides to actively try it out whilst identifiying as straight.

Otherwise no, it's not a choice.

 

Is sexuality in general a choice?*

No.

 

Not a choice.

I didn't choose or ask for the amount of confusion and inner turmoil I have been through just trying to figure myself out.

I too though, do not wish to be straight. I imagine life would be much easier, but I've accepted myself the way I am and I'm quite happy with myself.

My problem is with how others see me.

 

Sexuality is not a choice I now firmly believe.

What is a choice is how you present your sexuality.

I chose to appear hetero for years and years (due fear of not fitting in, self-loathing, fear of the epidemic, etc.).

I chose to not "be" gay even though inside I always knew I was.

I chose a life of loneliness and depression.

I chose poorly.

But I got better. :eusa_danc

(!)

 

The only choice involved is whether or not you're prepared to live an authentic life as a homosexual. Being a homosexual isn't a choice. It is (somehow) determined for us.

 

LOL you're asking this to an lgbt forum. Of course you're gonna get the same answer. XD


Also obviously not a choice.

 

well... NOPE it is definatly NOT a choice

 

Is this like one of those trick questions? No, of course not. There is no argument. No sane person would ever choose what we've been given. We may have accepted it, but I still find myself jealous of my straight friends from time to time. It is about the most hurtful thing in the world when people have the nerve to say we made a conscious choice to go through years of confusion, depression, anger, and jealousy. It's 100% about attraction, which no one can truthfully profess to control, not sex.
Anyone can choose to have homosexual sex. In no way does this make him/her homosexual. The act of sticking X into Y is not related to attraction, nor are kissing or even holding hands. These are all common results of attraction, but we are all physically capable of completing each of them platonically. To suggest otherwise is naïve. And anyway, millions and millions of straight couples have anal and oral sex every day. Those body parts don't really differ between genders, so if that's out measure for homosexuality, there are a hell of a lot more gays than we thought.

 

Not a choice. But since I am bi, I woudn't be any other way because then I wouldn't be ME.
(!)(!!)(!)
(And I wouldn't have come here and found the dancing banana!)

 

No way in hell is it a choice.

 

No.

You can CHOOSE whether or not you want to be honest with yourself and others. You can CHOOSE to stay in the closet and live your life as a lie. You can CHOOSE to come out.

But you can't choose what gender(s) you're attracted to. Nope, no way.

 

not a choice as everyone else has said...


As yes queer has been reclaimed. me and my bf use it all the time. was there anybody that read the entire op?

 

I'm going to be the voice of dissent here and say that I do think sometimes it can be a choice. I in fact know somebody personally who says that after years of dating men (and feeling no interest in women whatsoever), she was pursued by a woman and decided, why not, I'll give it a try. Since then she has only dated women. You could argue that she was fundamentally bisexual from birth without knowing it, but she is adamant that this is not the case.

I do think that in the vast majority of cases, sexuality is genetic/biological/whatever and not chosen. But I don't like to make blanket generalizations about such things, because there are always exceptions.

This is why I have a bit of a problem with the whole "gays should have rights because it's not a choice" argument. Gay, lesbian and bisexual people should have rights because it's right - because nobody should be allowed to dictate what two consenting adults who have fallen in love can do - whether it's a choice or not.

 

I think those people are stupid and don't understand homosexuality.

 

Chandra: I agree that even if sexuality is a choice, we should have rights; there are thousands of laws protecting religious rights, and religion is a choice. Everyone has a right to rights!