reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

IThinkInCircles · 5th Jun 2011, 10:23 PM

#1: Has anyone else noticed that straight guys do not take instruction AT ALL? Whether it's asking domestic housework favors or asking for driving directions, or ANYTHING other command-like statements that even imply they are not unquestionably superior at everything they do?

Or is it just old stubborn guys like my father?

I asked not to do ANY of my laundry while I was away this evening, so I could separate it and wash it properly (and then hang some of it up to dry NOT in a machine), and then he did ALL of it and wrecked a bunch of my new dressy work clothes. It seems stupid, but he does this all the time and I'm pissed off almost of the point of unmanageability.

#2: I miss my mom.

Shevanel · 5th Jun 2011, 11:05 PM

I think it's pretty wrong to generalize about straight guys like that. There are plenty of really nice guys out there. I'm sorry that your father seems to be frustrating you, and screwed up your clothes, but don't let the rage caused from one person to spread to the general group of people this one person may belong to.

5th Jun 2011, 11:11 PM

i agree with Shevanel, its wrong to generalize against straight guys like this. I know plenty of them who can take direction and execute just as well as give orders

starfish · 5th Jun 2011, 11:29 PM

Wait a second. You asked him not to laundry as you would do it latter.

So

1. He didn't listen to you.
2. He did laundry that was not required.

If he is the stereotypical straight guy. He can listen to you and not do laundry, thus breaking the stereotype by listening to you. The other option is to not listen to you, fulfilling the stereotype, but help around the house breaking the stereotype.

No wonder your laundry got messed you. You created a paradox. We're all lucky this potentially could have destroyed the universe. Ok that is bit of a hyperbole. The destruction would have likely been limited to our galaxy.

Next time on your way out say I have started laundry please put it in the dryer. He will listen, but forget to do it. Thus your clothes will be safe and the galaxy safe from paradoxes.

IThinkInCircles · 5th Jun 2011, 11:57 PM

Whew. my apologies. question withdrawn.

Enaithor · 6th Jun 2011, 12:38 AM

Don't worry, just try not to break the universe!

Hexagon · 6th Jun 2011, 08:56 AM

Its not just straight guys. I'm a certified serial offender. And I don't do it on purpose either. My mum gets so frustrated

Monica · 6th Jun 2011, 09:22 AM

I totally agree with you. My dad is the exact same way: the minute I ask him where he put my ____ he gets defensive. "I didn't take it!!"
he also does that laundry thing. He puts lacy bras and casmare sweaters in the same load of laundry, then dumps it all in the drier. Any time I try to point anything like that out, he tells me that I'm "Lying." Lying! Really!! Because I spend my free time thinking up ways to lie about him.

theWorldisYours · 6th Jun 2011, 11:10 AM

Is it possible that your dad just did your laundry for you, because he thought he was helping you out? I know you said you told him not to, but maybe he just thought it could make your day easier. If you haven't already, explain why you want to do it yourself.

5th Jun 2011, 11:11 PM	#3
lulu165 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... i agree with Shevanel, its wrong to generalize against straight guys like this. I know plenty of them who can take direction and execute just as well as give orders

5th Jun 2011, 11:29 PM	#4
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... Wait a second. You asked him not to laundry as you would do it latter. So 1. He didn't listen to you. 2. He did laundry that was not required. If he is the stereotypical straight guy. He can listen to you and not do laundry, thus breaking the stereotype by listening to you. The other option is to not listen to you, fulfilling the stereotype, but help around the house breaking the stereotype. No wonder your laundry got messed you. You created a paradox. We're all lucky this potentially could have destroyed the universe. Ok that is bit of a hyperbole. The destruction would have likely been limited to our galaxy. Next time on your way out say I have started laundry please put it in the dryer. He will listen, but forget to do it. Thus your clothes will be safe and the galaxy safe from paradoxes. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson Last edited by starfish; 5th Jun 2011 at 11:36 PM..

6th Jun 2011, 12:38 AM	#6
Enaithor TheDude Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bedfordshire, England Age: 18 Posts: 545 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... Don't worry, just try not to break the universe! __________________ "I'm the bloody queen mate. Basically, I rule." - Liz X (...and the lesbians) "Biting's excellent: it's like kissing, only there's a winner!" - the TARDIS (...and more lesbians!) Demons run but count the cost, the battle's won but the child is lost...

6th Jun 2011, 08:56 AM	#7
Hexagon Bright Spark Full Member Gender: ?TM transguy Orientation: Panromantic Asexual Out Status: Pending review Location: Somerset, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: May 2011	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... Its not just straight guys. I'm a certified serial offender. And I don't do it on purpose either. My mum gets so frustrated __________________ When god has low self-esteem, does that make him an atheist?

6th Jun 2011, 09:22 AM	#8
Monica Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everyone who will take it well Location: Wisconsin Age: 14 Posts: 9 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... I totally agree with you. My dad is the exact same way: the minute I ask him where he put my ____ he gets defensive. "I didn't take it!!" he also does that laundry thing. He puts lacy bras and casmare sweaters in the same load of laundry, then dumps it all in the drier. Any time I try to point anything like that out, he tells me that I'm "Lying." Lying! Really!! Because I spend my free time thinking up ways to lie about him.

5th Jun 2011, 10:23 PM	#1
IThinkInCircles wait for it Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: bimosexual Out Status: Mom/dad/closest friends... not enough Location: west of Chicago Age: 24 Posts: 77 Join Date: Jan 2011	reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... #1: Has anyone else noticed that straight guys do not take instruction AT ALL? Whether it's asking domestic housework favors or asking for driving directions, or ANYTHING other command-like statements that even imply they are not unquestionably superior at everything they do? Or is it just old stubborn guys like my father? I asked not to do ANY of my laundry while I was away this evening, so I could separate it and wash it properly (and then hang some of it up to dry NOT in a machine), and then he did ALL of it and wrecked a bunch of my new dressy work clothes. It seems stupid, but he does this all the time and I'm pissed off almost of the point of unmanageability. #2: I miss my mom.

5th Jun 2011, 11:05 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... I think it's pretty wrong to generalize about straight guys like that. There are plenty of really nice guys out there. I'm sorry that your father seems to be frustrating you, and screwed up your clothes, but don't let the rage caused from one person to spread to the general group of people this one person may belong to. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

5th Jun 2011, 11:57 PM	#5
IThinkInCircles wait for it Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: bimosexual Out Status: Mom/dad/closest friends... not enough Location: west of Chicago Age: 24 Posts: 77 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... Whew. my apologies. question withdrawn.

6th Jun 2011, 11:10 AM	#9
theWorldisYours Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: New York Age: 20 Posts: 119 Join Date: May 2011	Re: reason #5837204 that I don't want to marry a dude... Is it possible that your dad just did your laundry for you, because he thought he was helping you out? I know you said you told him not to, but maybe he just thought it could make your day easier. If you haven't already, explain why you want to do it yourself.

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