What was your first gay bar? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Beertruck · 28th Jun 2011, 09:05 PM

Inspired by this series and this article in particular.

What was your first gay bar experience like? I'm really interested in comparing, as I recently had my first trip to the local gay bar.

I passed by the place a few times, working up the courage and getting some texting-related support. After like the fifth time I finally walked... and it looked like a normal bar that happened to have a mostly-male clientele. Sat at the bar, talked to the bartender, played some trivia, met some folks.

Then this kind of burly guy started hitting on me and I said something about interning somewhere. There was this pause, and then "wait... how old are you?" I blurted out 23 and the guy said something about the beard throwing him off. The conversation died and I left pretty soon after out of embarrassment. But I've been back several times since!

Shevanel · 28th Jun 2011, 09:07 PM

Never going to one again, unless I get a job at one, at which I'd have to begrudgingly go. I'd rather go to a non-specific bar. xD

Zontar · 28th Jun 2011, 09:20 PM

I have no intention of ever going to a gay bar. Can't stand the atmosphere. Very low-class and packed to the teeth with buffoons just looking to get their rocks off by night's end.

**Chip** · 28th Jun 2011, 09:37 PM

I couldn't resist.

+ YouTube Video

RaRa · 28th Jun 2011, 10:32 PM

Not my type of thing. Though I do have fun when I go. I just don't expect to hookup. Not my thing as much as guys try.

Just Passing · 28th Jun 2011, 10:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chip

I couldn't resist.

Youtube Video

I forgot about that, fantastic.

But to remain on topic, I haven't been to a gay bar as of yet, but I hope that can change at some point.

Revan · 28th Jun 2011, 11:05 PM

I...enjoyed it sorta but it was a very low-class bar...like it was for Hallowe'en and I mean I got my ass pinched several times lol. I enjoyed being there but same time it was just so-so. And then came my second club that I passed out in, and that did nothing for me because the owners were irresponsible handling it, and then when I criticized them they basically were like "take down your post and apologize or we'll sue you for defamation".

It was f**ked

starfish · 29th Jun 2011, 07:27 PM

I've been a few times with friends. I'm not a big fan of drinking, crowds, or noisy places. So they don't do much for me.

Shevanel · 29th Jun 2011, 07:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Revan

I...enjoyed it sorta but it was a very low-class bar...like it was for Hallowe'en and I mean I got my ass pinched several times lol. I enjoyed being there but same time it was just so-so. And then came my second club that I passed out in, and that did nothing for me because the owners were irresponsible handling it, and then when I criticized them they basically were like "take down your post and apologize or we'll sue you for defamation".

It was f**ked

Would you mind explaining this further? I'm confused.

Tracy Lord · 29th Jun 2011, 07:59 PM

My first (and only) gay bar was The Phoenix on Castro St. It's probably something else now.

ilayis · 29th Jun 2011, 10:23 PM

Club Icon-It's fun sometimes,but i don't go most of the time cause I'm pretty quiet and alone and it is hard to have fun that way!!!

JudasKissedHIM · 1st Jul 2011, 12:15 AM

I just turned 18 and my friend (he was a bit older) invited me to go along. I remember that it felt very awkward and comfortable at the same time. The place was called "Oh!" and I just remember staring at the shirtless bartender and all the other gay men. It was the first time in my life that I've seen gay guys, except my friend that Ive known for a few months.

dl72 · 1st Jul 2011, 12:30 AM

I have not been to one.

28th Jun 2011, 09:05 PM	#1
Beertruck Drunk Homosexual Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: bromosexual Out Status: bropen! Location: new jersey Age: 24 Posts: 420 Join Date: Nov 2010	What was your first gay bar? Inspired by this series and this article in particular. What was your first gay bar experience like? I'm really interested in comparing, as I recently had my first trip to the local gay bar. I passed by the place a few times, working up the courage and getting some texting-related support. After like the fifth time I finally walked... and it looked like a normal bar that happened to have a mostly-male clientele. Sat at the bar, talked to the bartender, played some trivia, met some folks. Then this kind of burly guy started hitting on me and I said something about interning somewhere. There was this pause, and then "wait... how old are you?" I blurted out 23 and the guy said something about the beard throwing him off. The conversation died and I left pretty soon after out of embarrassment. But I've been back several times since!

28th Jun 2011, 09:07 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What was your first gay bar? Never going to one again, unless I get a job at one, at which I'd have to begrudgingly go. I'd rather go to a non-specific bar. xD __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

28th Jun 2011, 09:20 PM	#3
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,537 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: What was your first gay bar? I have no intention of ever going to a gay bar. Can't stand the atmosphere. Very low-class and packed to the teeth with buffoons just looking to get their rocks off by night's end. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

28th Jun 2011, 10:32 PM	#5
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: What was your first gay bar? Not my type of thing. Though I do have fun when I go. I just don't expect to hookup. Not my thing as much as guys try. __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

28th Jun 2011, 11:05 PM	#7
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: What was your first gay bar? I...enjoyed it sorta but it was a very low-class bar...like it was for Hallowe'en and I mean I got my ass pinched several times lol. I enjoyed being there but same time it was just so-so. And then came my second club that I passed out in, and that did nothing for me because the owners were irresponsible handling it, and then when I criticized them they basically were like "take down your post and apologize or we'll sue you for defamation". It was fked __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi** Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

29th Jun 2011, 07:27 PM	#8
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: What was your first gay bar? I've been a few times with friends. I'm not a big fan of drinking, crowds, or noisy places. So they don't do much for me. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

29th Jun 2011, 07:59 PM	#10
Tracy Lord EC Addict Full Member Gender: Two Spirit Orientation: Depends on my mood Posts: 330 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: What was your first gay bar? My first (and only) gay bar was The Phoenix on Castro St. It's probably something else now. __________________ Tracy: And do you know how I feel? Mr. Lord: How? Tracy: Like a human. Like a human being.

29th Jun 2011, 10:23 PM	#11
ilayis Social Loner Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Racine,Wisconsin Age: 25 Posts: 95 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: What was your first gay bar? Club Icon-It's fun sometimes,but i don't go most of the time cause I'm pretty quiet and alone and it is hard to have fun that way!!!

1st Jul 2011, 12:15 AM	#12
JudasKissedHIM Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Basically everyone except mamma... Location: Johannesburg, Gauteng, South Africa Age: 22 Posts: 117 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: What was your first gay bar? I just turned 18 and my friend (he was a bit older) invited me to go along. I remember that it felt very awkward and comfortable at the same time. The place was called "Oh!" and I just remember staring at the shirtless bartender and all the other gay men. It was the first time in my life that I've seen gay guys, except my friend that Ive known for a few months. __________________ I don't speak German, but I can if you like

1st Jul 2011, 12:30 AM	#13
dl72 EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: To one person only Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 350 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: What was your first gay bar? I have not been to one.