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butlerbabygirl9 · 10th Jul 2011, 07:47 PM

well on January 8th, 2011 my mom had past away ..suddenly...i didnt know what to do ....I have always depended on my mom for everything !! I never thought i would lose my mom anytime soon...i miss her so much , it hurts sometimes...i have music that i have dedicated to her ....i wish there was a way to bring her back ...to me...i am pregnant again with my second n its so hard with anyone that doesnt have there mom when you go through pain...but i am trying to get over her but i really dont think its going to be possible ....

**Chandra** · 10th Jul 2011, 08:31 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. That must be very hard.

butlerbabygirl9 · 10th Jul 2011, 08:43 PM

yes it is very hard on me ....ty

Albertal · 10th Jul 2011, 08:46 PM

everything can be better.

Revan · 10th Jul 2011, 08:52 PM

You're going to make it through, but I understand. I'm sorry for your loss.

butlerbabygirl9 · 10th Jul 2011, 08:57 PM

I hope so...its so hard

**Mogget** · 11th Jul 2011, 10:27 AM

I lost my mother four years ago. The pain does lessen over time. If you can afford it, you might want to go to a grief counselor, someone who can help you handle your grief properly. If you're religious, your faith community should provide someone who can help. If not, there's plenty of secular counselors.

Don't be afraid to feel the grief and sadness and longing. Allow yourself to feel it, to be filled up with it, and allow yourself to put it down and pick it up later. Light a candle on NShrine. Remember and cherish the memories.

Reach out to others, spend time with people. Don't isolate. You don't have to talk about your mother with them, though it's perfectly okay to. And try to enjoy life as much as possible.

Just Passing · 11th Jul 2011, 10:32 AM

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm still lucky to have both of my parents, but I have a friend who's mother passed away very suddenly and while he is over it now, he was very upset at the time and this was only back in March, so not too long ago.

Despite how bad it looks now, things will get better. Good luck with everything the future has to offer and I hope your mother rests in peace.

LucasJack · 12th Jul 2011, 10:12 PM

i have a slight idea as to what you're going through (im not you, and i know everyone fells these kinds of things differently) . my mom passed away last november after fighting for her life and against alcoholism for about four years. now that its been a while and ive had time for my life to settle its only hitting me now that shes gone. nothing i do or feel seems real because she isnt there. we had to take care of each other since i was 12. it still feels like i just havent talked to her in a long time.

in no way am i comparing my situation to yours, and im sure the words 'im sorry' arent what you want to hear right now. but i do want to say that things will eventually get better. i am most cirtain of that

it will take a hell-a long time but i know things can get better. the first year will hurt, that i know. i hope things really work out for you hun if i could i would give you the biggest hug in the world in person but instead ill give i to you on here *insert HUGE hug here*

she never going to be gone forever as long as you remember her

10th Jul 2011, 07:47 PM	#1
butlerbabygirl9 Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Posts: 3 Join Date: Jul 2011	Missing my mom ..... well on January 8th, 2011 my mom had past away ..suddenly...i didnt know what to do ....I have always depended on my mom for everything !! I never thought i would lose my mom anytime soon...i miss her so much , it hurts sometimes...i have music that i have dedicated to her ....i wish there was a way to bring her back ...to me...i am pregnant again with my second n its so hard with anyone that doesnt have there mom when you go through pain...but i am trying to get over her but i really dont think its going to be possible ....

10th Jul 2011, 08:31 PM	#2
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Missing my mom ..... I'm sorry for your loss. That must be very hard.

10th Jul 2011, 08:43 PM	#3
butlerbabygirl9 Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Posts: 3 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Missing my mom ..... yes it is very hard on me ....ty

10th Jul 2011, 08:46 PM	#4
Albertal Beautiful World Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I guess I'm bisexual... Out Status: close friends Location: Taipei Age: 17 Posts: 16 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Missing my mom ..... everything can be better.

10th Jul 2011, 08:52 PM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Missing my mom ..... You're going to make it through, but I understand. I'm sorry for your loss. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

10th Jul 2011, 08:57 PM	#6
butlerbabygirl9 Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Posts: 3 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Missing my mom ..... I hope so...its so hard

11th Jul 2011, 10:27 AM	#7
Mogget Mad and dead as nails EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 or 6. It varies Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Alaska Age: 22 Posts: 2,024 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Missing my mom ..... I lost my mother four years ago. The pain does lessen over time. If you can afford it, you might want to go to a grief counselor, someone who can help you handle your grief properly. If you're religious, your faith community should provide someone who can help. If not, there's plenty of secular counselors. Don't be afraid to feel the grief and sadness and longing. Allow yourself to feel it, to be filled up with it, and allow yourself to put it down and pick it up later. Light a candle on NShrine. Remember and cherish the memories. Reach out to others, spend time with people. Don't isolate. You don't have to talk about your mother with them, though it's perfectly okay to. And try to enjoy life as much as possible. __________________ "As to what I am, I once was many things but now I am only several." - Mogget in Sabriel by Garth Nix "The world is quiet here." - VFD

11th Jul 2011, 10:32 AM	#8
Just Passing EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost there Location: West Midlands Age: 20 Posts: 513 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Missing my mom ..... I'm sorry to hear this. I'm still lucky to have both of my parents, but I have a friend who's mother passed away very suddenly and while he is over it now, he was very upset at the time and this was only back in March, so not too long ago. Despite how bad it looks now, things will get better. Good luck with everything the future has to offer and I hope your mother rests in peace. __________________ Meh.

12th Jul 2011, 10:12 PM	#9
LucasJack Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Denver Posts: 1 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Missing my mom ..... i have a slight idea as to what you're going through (im not you, and i know everyone fells these kinds of things differently) . my mom passed away last november after fighting for her life and against alcoholism for about four years. now that its been a while and ive had time for my life to settle its only hitting me now that shes gone. nothing i do or feel seems real because she isnt there. we had to take care of each other since i was 12. it still feels like i just havent talked to her in a long time. in no way am i comparing my situation to yours, and im sure the words 'im sorry' arent what you want to hear right now. but i do want to say that things will eventually get better. i am most cirtain of that it will take a hell-a long time but i know things can get better. the first year will hurt, that i know. i hope things really work out for you hun if i could i would give you the biggest hug in the world in person but instead ill give i to you on here insert HUGE hug here she never going to be gone forever as long as you remember her

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