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EndlessMusic · 11th Jul 2011, 06:05 AM

Been pondering about this question with a good friend.
IMO, the first impression is extremely important for any relationship/friendship etc.
Especially when your meeting new people! But that's me I tend to judge people too quickly from the first impression, then after a while I realise that they're good decent people (oops

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What about you?

Daryn · 11th Jul 2011, 06:16 AM

I usually know within the first 5 minutes I talk to someone if I want to be friends or not. I say "usually" because I was wrong about my best friend-I didn't like her at first

So, first impressions are pretty important to me, but I don't take them too seriously unless I just get a bad feeling.

GaysunshinexD · 11th Jul 2011, 01:25 PM

I think everyone tries to hard on the first impression and makes a fool of them selfs, the secound impression is what I think count's, my opinion.

Just Passing · 11th Jul 2011, 01:49 PM

First impressions are difficult. I don't know straight away if I'm going to like a person on the first meeting and sometimes the people I can't stand straight away, I grow to appreciate as friends. It's certainly happened as I've got older.

The funniest meeting I had with anyone was at a university I was visiting and I went to use the urinal toilet. It began making funny noises whilst I was using it and as someone walked in, I mentioned it was saying some strange things. After that meeting, we soon got to know each other and we still know each other now and get on.

TheWanderer · 11th Jul 2011, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GaysunshinexD

I think everyone tries to hard on the first impression and makes a fool of them selfs, the secound impression is what I think count's, my opinion.

This is usually how I feel about impressions. I say usually because there are times you just know you arent going to get along with someone.

Mr.Pushover · 12th Jul 2011, 09:34 PM

I don't think so, because some people are shy and you have to let them warm up

AllSmiles · 13th Jul 2011, 12:10 AM

Well, I always try to make a good first impression (e.g. when meeting a gay guy for the first time), because I don't always know if they're important to the new person, so I always think that it's better to be safe than sorry.
On the other hand, first impressions do matter to me, but does not mean everything to me. If the guy's really nice for the first 5 minutes and a jerk afterwards, it's not really a thing that I'd want to do more about.
But if he doesn't make a perfect first impression, it doesn't mean that I don't want to talk to him after that.
'Cos you know, first impressions can be wrong

QuestionMark · 14th Jul 2011, 01:56 PM

I think they are important to some extent, but you should not judge a person based on their first impression, you could have perceived them incorrectly, or they could just be having a bad day or something. I met this girl once and she seemed like she would be suuper mean, but she actually turned out to be extremely nice, but maybe that's just me being horrible at judging people...

Danny19 · 14th Jul 2011, 02:01 PM

i that it depends. they can be important. however, sometimes you gotta talk to someone more than once to see what they are like. you can really judge my the first impression. i do think though that it is important. but it changes as you get to know the person more

thedreamwatch · 14th Jul 2011, 02:53 PM

I feel like, at least for me, first impressions sometimes have to do if there isn't time or opportunity to get to know every single person I ever bump into in my life. But most of the time I'm a pretty good judge of character. And that isn't to say that I would start treating someone differently if they made an awkward first impression on me. I've had shitty days or social mess ups. I get it.

That being said, in general, I really like to decide how I feel about a person after spending some actual time with them. Whether it's the same day I meet them, or any time after.

So yes, first impressions matter, but should only be used to judge very rarely and very warily. At least, for me.

armisteadkunkel · 24th Jul 2011, 08:20 AM

usually, my first impression of persons is pretty right, i rapidly know if i'll get along with or not
though i tend not to get too close on the first meeting, so people find me pretty distant the first time they see me, so maybe i'm not the best example

Rinto · 24th Jul 2011, 08:30 AM

I often get impressions of people just by looking at them and I confirm them only when I talk to them.

As they say, "First impression always lasts." I stick to that.

GoinStag · 24th Jul 2011, 08:41 AM

With friends it's probably important. When it comes to friendship people tend to...uhhh...be who they are I guess? With relationships most people just bullshit and fake it at first. Their true colors come out later haha

11th Jul 2011, 06:05 AM	#1
EndlessMusic Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Some people Location: MELBOURNEEE Posts: 64 Join Date: Apr 2011	How important is the first impression? Been pondering about this question with a good friend. IMO, the first impression is extremely important for any relationship/friendship etc. Especially when your meeting new people! But that's me I tend to judge people too quickly from the first impression, then after a while I realise that they're good decent people (oops ) What about you? __________________ Hey Angel, Why so duh SEXY?

11th Jul 2011, 06:16 AM	#2
Daryn ^_^ Full Member Gender: Girl. Orientation: Girls. Out Status: whoever asks Location: Why are there eggs scrambling in the street? Age: 18 Posts: 238 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? I usually know within the first 5 minutes I talk to someone if I want to be friends or not. I say "usually" because I was wrong about my best friend-I didn't like her at first So, first impressions are pretty important to me, but I don't take them too seriously unless I just get a bad feeling. __________________ "That's the trouble with loving a wild thing: You're always left watching the door."

11th Jul 2011, 01:25 PM	#3
GaysunshinexD Gay Sunshine!~ Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay and amazeing x3 Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Vancouver Washington Age: 21 Posts: 23 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? I think everyone tries to hard on the first impression and makes a fool of them selfs, the secound impression is what I think count's, my opinion. __________________ I'm innocent!

11th Jul 2011, 01:49 PM	#4
Just Passing EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost there Location: West Midlands Age: 20 Posts: 513 Join Date: May 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? First impressions are difficult. I don't know straight away if I'm going to like a person on the first meeting and sometimes the people I can't stand straight away, I grow to appreciate as friends. It's certainly happened as I've got older. The funniest meeting I had with anyone was at a university I was visiting and I went to use the urinal toilet. It began making funny noises whilst I was using it and as someone walked in, I mentioned it was saying some strange things. After that meeting, we soon got to know each other and we still know each other now and get on. __________________ Meh.

12th Jul 2011, 09:34 PM	#6
Mr.Pushover Thinks too much Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Dude who likes dudes. Out Status: Out as gay to some Location: Maryland Age: 16 Posts: 535 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: How important is the first impression? I don't think so, because some people are shy and you have to let them warm up

13th Jul 2011, 12:10 AM	#7
AllSmiles /J Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people Location: Aalborg, Denmark Age: 18 Posts: 490 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: How important is the first impression? Well, I always try to make a good first impression (e.g. when meeting a gay guy for the first time), because I don't always know if they're important to the new person, so I always think that it's better to be safe than sorry. On the other hand, first impressions do matter to me, but does not mean everything to me. If the guy's really nice for the first 5 minutes and a jerk afterwards, it's not really a thing that I'd want to do more about. But if he doesn't make a perfect first impression, it doesn't mean that I don't want to talk to him after that. 'Cos you know, first impressions can be wrong __________________ "You're a good tripod" - Ander Blue "No one's ever said that to me!" - Me We both start laughing

14th Jul 2011, 01:56 PM	#8
QuestionMark On the way to answering them :) Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual-Kinsey 3 Out Status: Out on FB = 95% real friends/third of school Location: Toronto, Ontario Age: 15 Posts: 200 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? I think they are important to some extent, but you should not judge a person based on their first impression, you could have perceived them incorrectly, or they could just be having a bad day or something. I met this girl once and she seemed like she would be suuper mean, but she actually turned out to be extremely nice, but maybe that's just me being horrible at judging people... __________________ Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? ~Ernest Gaines "Hope will never be silent" ~Harvey Milk

14th Jul 2011, 02:01 PM	#9
Danny19 Lets see what happens Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: i love boys!!! Out Status: Some people Location: Los Angeles Age: 19 Posts: 722 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: How important is the first impression? i that it depends. they can be important. however, sometimes you gotta talk to someone more than once to see what they are like. you can really judge my the first impression. i do think though that it is important. but it changes as you get to know the person more __________________ “Whats meant to be, will always find its way"

14th Jul 2011, 02:53 PM	#10
thedreamwatch Maximum Ridiculosity Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 5. So, pretty gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Wisconsin Age: 22 Posts: 1,274 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? I feel like, at least for me, first impressions sometimes have to do if there isn't time or opportunity to get to know every single person I ever bump into in my life. But most of the time I'm a pretty good judge of character. And that isn't to say that I would start treating someone differently if they made an awkward first impression on me. I've had shitty days or social mess ups. I get it. That being said, in general, I really like to decide how I feel about a person after spending some actual time with them. Whether it's the same day I meet them, or any time after. So yes, first impressions matter, but should only be used to judge very rarely and very warily. At least, for me. __________________ "I came out laughing, I came out screaming, I came out dancing..." - T&S

24th Jul 2011, 08:20 AM	#11
armisteadkunkel Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Age: 24 Posts: 18 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? usually, my first impression of persons is pretty right, i rapidly know if i'll get along with or not though i tend not to get too close on the first meeting, so people find me pretty distant the first time they see me, so maybe i'm not the best example

24th Jul 2011, 08:30 AM	#12
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: How important is the first impression? I often get impressions of people just by looking at them and I confirm them only when I talk to them. As they say, "First impression always lasts." I stick to that. __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile.

24th Jul 2011, 08:41 AM	#13
GoinStag I'm straight now............sikeeee Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guy fetish Out Status: Parents, siblings, and therapist Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan Age: 18 Posts: 1,485 Join Date: May 2010	Re: How important is the first impression? With friends it's probably important. When it comes to friendship people tend to...uhhh...be who they are I guess? With relationships most people just bullshit and fake it at first. Their true colors come out later haha __________________ *I've been thinking 'bout this all day long, Never felt a feeling quite this strong...I can't believe how much it turns me on, Just to be your man...*

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