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theWorldisYours · 11th Jul 2011, 02:26 PM

so it's kind of hard to meet gay guys, especially if the type your into is the masculine type. How do you guys meet other gay people? how do you flirt with other gay people? do you flirt with the same sex if your not sure they're gay?

TheWanderer · 11th Jul 2011, 02:27 PM

>do you flirt with the same sex if your not sure they're gay?

Yup

11th Jul 2011, 03:59 PM

No way. unless if you attend a gay event/party of some sort to meet other guys or a gay sports bar??? As far as dating online goes, you can try that but you can't tell if the guy is masculine or not...so that's a dead end....maybe.
For me if I like a guy. I'll befriend him first regardless of whether or not he is gay.

Then maybe when we become closer he'll tell me he is gay later on???
Disclaimer: This method has not worked........yet... xD And no i don't flirt with other guys because a. I'm not out b. he may be a homophobe.
How do you flirt with a gay guy?>>>> Flirting is flirting. it's no different flirting with a guy than a girl unless your question is "how to flirt?" Don't think too much about it just flirt

Or make eye contact with the guy you like. If he reciprocates by smiling or coming over to you, then he's gay. If he's a homophobe and says what are you looking at? you say "nothing, i wasn't staring at you. I just spaced out" lol

starfish · 11th Jul 2011, 09:27 PM

The only way to improve it is to hang out with gay people. Over time you'll learn to pick up the little signs that we all give off.

SlickyPants · 12th Jul 2011, 09:06 PM

Try to make sure you're not getting interferance from a gay weather balloon.

I like to think I have good gaydar and often times I have been right but I seem to get it wrong a lot too. Just about every guy I had a thing for turned out to be heterosexual and the few that weren't were in a relationship/married or what have you.

11th Jul 2011, 02:26 PM	#1
theWorldisYours Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: New York Age: 20 Posts: 119 Join Date: May 2011	how can I give my gaydar a tune up. so it's kind of hard to meet gay guys, especially if the type your into is the masculine type. How do you guys meet other gay people? how do you flirt with other gay people? do you flirt with the same sex if your not sure they're gay?

11th Jul 2011, 02:27 PM	#2
TheWanderer Pork Lover of EC Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: few friends, cousin, co-workers Location: massachusetts Age: 25 Posts: 335 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: how can I give my gaydar a tune up. >do you flirt with the same sex if your not sure they're gay? Yup __________________ “Not all those who wander are lost.” - J.R.R Tolkien

11th Jul 2011, 03:59 PM	#3
Skiel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: how can I give my gaydar a tune up. No way. unless if you attend a gay event/party of some sort to meet other guys or a gay sports bar??? As far as dating online goes, you can try that but you can't tell if the guy is masculine or not...so that's a dead end....maybe. For me if I like a guy. I'll befriend him first regardless of whether or not he is gay. Then maybe when we become closer he'll tell me he is gay later on??? Disclaimer: This method has not worked........yet... xD And no i don't flirt with other guys because a. I'm not out b. he may be a homophobe. How do you flirt with a gay guy?>>>> Flirting is flirting. it's no different flirting with a guy than a girl unless your question is "how to flirt?" Don't think too much about it just flirt Or make eye contact with the guy you like. If he reciprocates by smiling or coming over to you, then he's gay. If he's a homophobe and says what are you looking at? you say "nothing, i wasn't staring at you. I just spaced out" lol

11th Jul 2011, 09:27 PM	#4
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: how can I give my gaydar a tune up. The only way to improve it is to hang out with gay people. Over time you'll learn to pick up the little signs that we all give off. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

12th Jul 2011, 09:06 PM	#5
SlickyPants EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Winnipeg, MB, Canada Age: 26 Posts: 542 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: how can I give my gaydar a tune up. Try to make sure you're not getting interferance from a gay weather balloon. I like to think I have good gaydar and often times I have been right but I seem to get it wrong a lot too. Just about every guy I had a thing for turned out to be heterosexual and the few that weren't were in a relationship/married or what have you.

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