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Revan · 23rd Jul 2011, 05:04 PM

Hi again guys. I'm just having a bit of a problem. I work with Rogers Television in my city, and as such they're going to be involved with my city's Pride Parade. Some will film it, some will work a booth, and some will walk with/be on the float. The thing is I at first signed up to work the booth because i didn't want to upset my mom, she's all about "remember Gramps is humble, I'm private about stuff" blah blah blah. So I did it to be accommodating for my mom, she's still only really known and accepted me for 5 months. However a couple weeks ago I got word from my "boss" that I've been put on the float crew and I said okay. Because I mean while it's volunteering, it's still something I've dedicated my time to and I'm not going to just say "NO" even though I mean they are very accommodating themselves. But basically I'm a bit frustrated because when I was talking to Mom today, she said "make sure to not be on the news" >_> And I'm just frustrated by this. I mean I know, I could wind up seen but I mean my mother is in Florida right now until mid August, and while my grandfather does sometimes watch the news, he might not even watch the Pride part (he is accepting but of course not necessarily understanding of it). But yeah basically I dunno what to do, I mean our float will probably be very tame, I mean it's Rogers TV, I doubt there are going to be half nude men dancing on our float, I know I'm not lol. So basically I'm just asking, what do I do, should I just go ahead and if Mom finds out, tell her that they asked me to do the float when I got there because they were short on people (I know, lying is bad) and i said okay because it is a "job"? Or do I when I get there ask if I can instead work the booth or something? Any suggestions?

MyDecember · 23rd Jul 2011, 05:29 PM

Your life. Your job asked and you said yes. Tell your mom your going to be on the float because your job asked you to. If she doesn't like it then she doesn't have to watch the parade.

crazyhead · 23rd Jul 2011, 06:44 PM

You're 23. Your mom shouldn't even have a say in this. You do what you want and say you were done being a kid have a decade ago. She doesn't have to like it, but she can't control it.

Random Dent · 23rd Jul 2011, 06:59 PM

Your t.v. crew is going to be at the parade and your BOSS assigned you to the float. You can't really argue with your mom about that. If your grandfather has a problem with it tell him it was required of you for your JOB.

Sorry, but this makes me so happy I never had grandparents or relatives.

Revan · 23rd Jul 2011, 07:07 PM

Sigh yeah it'll be fine im sure but doesn't mean its not frustrating lol

Markio · 23rd Jul 2011, 07:51 PM

You could wait until she brings it up, and just say your boss reassigned you to "float crew." That sounds like you could be working on the float's maintenance or construction, or clean-up or something, without necessarily being on the float. I doubt anyone will be able to spot you out on a float if you even appear on the news, although you could wear a hat to make yourself look a little different.

**Chip** · 23rd Jul 2011, 09:32 PM

I wouldn't stress about it. The entire feature on any given news station is going to be like 2 minutes unless it's an incredibly slow news day so *maybe* if they just *happened* to cover the Rogers float in the parade, you'd be on for a second or two.

Your mom is creating a mountain out of a molehill. As long as you don't do a 5 minute interview talking about buttsex or something controversial, they're unlikely to put any emphasis on you in the news. Tell her to chill.

Gravity Defyer · 23rd Jul 2011, 10:06 PM

It's your job and it happened you were assigned to do a specific task by your boss. Your mom doesn't seem to fit in this situation. I mean, she can be mad at you but after all It's your life, your job and your desiciontt

Revan · 24th Jul 2011, 10:15 PM

I just wanted to give a sort of update. My mom was fine with me marching after all, long as I wasn't being flamboyant and other stupid shit as she often can say lol. And I have to say, marching in the Pride parade minus it being quite sweltering, was the most fun I've had in quite some time. It just was so liberating, so thrilling, so exhilarating, so FUN.

I'm so glad I went through with it.

Emberstone · 24th Jul 2011, 11:24 PM

just promise not to appear wearing nothing except bedazzled underwear, and you should be fine.

xequar · 25th Jul 2011, 12:11 PM

"Mom, I appreciate your concern, but honestly, I'll be fine, and it's not your decision."

23rd Jul 2011, 05:04 PM	#1
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	UGH - Pride Problem - Parents Hi again guys. I'm just having a bit of a problem. I work with Rogers Television in my city, and as such they're going to be involved with my city's Pride Parade. Some will film it, some will work a booth, and some will walk with/be on the float. The thing is I at first signed up to work the booth because i didn't want to upset my mom, she's all about "remember Gramps is humble, I'm private about stuff" blah blah blah. So I did it to be accommodating for my mom, she's still only really known and accepted me for 5 months. However a couple weeks ago I got word from my "boss" that I've been put on the float crew and I said okay. Because I mean while it's volunteering, it's still something I've dedicated my time to and I'm not going to just say "NO" even though I mean they are very accommodating themselves. But basically I'm a bit frustrated because when I was talking to Mom today, she said "make sure to not be on the news" >_> And I'm just frustrated by this. I mean I know, I could wind up seen but I mean my mother is in Florida right now until mid August, and while my grandfather does sometimes watch the news, he might not even watch the Pride part (he is accepting but of course not necessarily understanding of it). But yeah basically I dunno what to do, I mean our float will probably be very tame, I mean it's Rogers TV, I doubt there are going to be half nude men dancing on our float, I know I'm not lol. So basically I'm just asking, what do I do, should I just go ahead and if Mom finds out, tell her that they asked me to do the float when I got there because they were short on people (I know, lying is bad) and i said okay because it is a "job"? Or do I when I get there ask if I can instead work the booth or something? Any suggestions? __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

23rd Jul 2011, 05:29 PM	#2
MyDecember I pause your thread! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Florida Age: 23 Posts: 365 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents Your life. Your job asked and you said yes. Tell your mom your going to be on the float because your job asked you to. If she doesn't like it then she doesn't have to watch the parade. __________________ This is my simple religion: There is no need for temples, there is no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is the temple;the philosophy is loving kindness and compassion --The XIVth Dalai Lama

23rd Jul 2011, 06:44 PM	#3
crazyhead flying away Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Texas Age: 22 Posts: 247 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents You're 23. Your mom shouldn't even have a say in this. You do what you want and say you were done being a kid have a decade ago. She doesn't have to like it, but she can't control it. __________________ "Dyin' is the day worth livin' for"

23rd Jul 2011, 06:59 PM	#4
Random Dent Liebe ist für alle da! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: La la la ladies Out Status: I don't care who knows Location: California Age: 27 Posts: 1,692 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents Your t.v. crew is going to be at the parade and your BOSS assigned you to the float. You can't really argue with your mom about that. If your grandfather has a problem with it tell him it was required of you for your JOB. Sorry, but this makes me so happy I never had grandparents or relatives. __________________ No government has the right to tell its citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody Rita Mae Brown

23rd Jul 2011, 07:07 PM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents Sigh yeah it'll be fine im sure but doesn't mean its not frustrating lol __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

23rd Jul 2011, 07:51 PM	#6
Markio EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family, friends, and staff! Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,140 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents You could wait until she brings it up, and just say your boss reassigned you to "float crew." That sounds like you could be working on the float's maintenance or construction, or clean-up or something, without necessarily being on the float. I doubt anyone will be able to spot you out on a float if you even appear on the news, although you could wear a hat to make yourself look a little different. __________________ Celebrate diversity!

23rd Jul 2011, 09:32 PM	#7
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,580 Join Date: May 2008	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents I wouldn't stress about it. The entire feature on any given news station is going to be like 2 minutes unless it's an incredibly slow news day so maybe if they just happened to cover the Rogers float in the parade, you'd be on for a second or two. Your mom is creating a mountain out of a molehill. As long as you don't do a 5 minute interview talking about buttsex or something controversial, they're unlikely to put any emphasis on you in the news. Tell her to chill.

23rd Jul 2011, 10:06 PM	#8
Gravity Defyer Wicked Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people. I realized number doesn't matter Posts: 45 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents It's your job and it happened you were assigned to do a specific task by your boss. Your mom doesn't seem to fit in this situation. I mean, she can be mad at you but after all It's your life, your job and your desiciontt __________________ I'm through with playing by the rules of someone else's game

24th Jul 2011, 10:15 PM	#9
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents I just wanted to give a sort of update. My mom was fine with me marching after all, long as I wasn't being flamboyant and other stupid shit as she often can say lol. And I have to say, marching in the Pride parade minus it being quite sweltering, was the most fun I've had in quite some time. It just was so liberating, so thrilling, so exhilarating, so FUN. I'm so glad I went through with it. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

24th Jul 2011, 11:24 PM	#10
Emberstone Flappychap Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon, USA Age: 28 Posts: 5,595 Join Date: May 2008	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents just promise not to appear wearing nothing except bedazzled underwear, and you should be fine. __________________ TYPE YOUR NAME: Cory. TYPE YOUR NAME WITH YOUR ELBOW: vcoiptryu SLAM YOUR FACE ON THE KEYBOARD: About three things I was absolutely positive. First, Edward was a vampire. Second, there was a part of him - and I didn't know how potent that part might be - that thirsted for my blood. And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him.

25th Jul 2011, 12:11 PM	#11
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: UGH - Pride Problem - Parents "Mom, I appreciate your concern, but honestly, I'll be fine, and it's not your decision." __________________

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