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Trudog · 24th Jul 2011, 07:45 PM

i dont want to be gay!!!!!!!!!

IT DRIVES ME CRAZY IM ONLY 12!!!!!! Not yet please what do i do?! IF MY FAMILY finds out i will be ignored for the rest of my life!!!!

robertplace93 · 24th Jul 2011, 08:09 PM

Calm down dude. You are ONLY 12. So maybe it's just a phase. Try things out and see if you really are attracted to guys. Who knows? Maybe you will be, but don't assume so quickly. And I'm sure that your family will love you just the same if you are.

Revan · 24th Jul 2011, 08:14 PM

Okay, first take a deep breath. You are who you are. It's not something you can change and I think it's great that you know how you are early, you have your whole life in front of you and you can live it knowing you are gay and not struggling with your sexuality.

Secondly, you don't have to come out right now. It is NOT necessary for you to come out as soon as you know you're gay. You can take your time with this, and you should never think you have to rush.

And thirdly, your family. How do you know they are homophobic? Has there been signs they would ignore you the rest of your life? They can really help and you can contact them both by phone and e-mail if you're worried about it appearing on your phone bill. I know you'll be okay, just relax and take some deep breaths.

24th Jul 2011, 07:45 PM	#1
Trudog Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Posts: 1 Join Date: Jul 2011	Help! i dont want to be gay!!!!!!!!! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY IM ONLY 12!!!!!! Not yet please what do i do?! IF MY FAMILY finds out i will be ignored for the rest of my life!!!!

24th Jul 2011, 08:09 PM	#2
robertplace93 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like boys Out Status: Not out at all Location: Louisiana Age: 19 Posts: 24 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Help! Calm down dude. You are ONLY 12. So maybe it's just a phase. Try things out and see if you really are attracted to guys. Who knows? Maybe you will be, but don't assume so quickly. And I'm sure that your family will love you just the same if you are.

24th Jul 2011, 08:14 PM	#3
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Help! Okay, first take a deep breath. You are who you are. It's not something you can change and I think it's great that you know how you are early, you have your whole life in front of you and you can live it knowing you are gay and not struggling with your sexuality. Secondly, you don't have to come out right now. It is NOT necessary for you to come out as soon as you know you're gay. You can take your time with this, and you should never think you have to rush. And thirdly, your family. How do you know they are homophobic? Has there been signs they would ignore you the rest of your life? They can really help and you can contact them both by phone and e-mail if you're worried about it appearing on your phone bill. I know you'll be okay, just relax and take some deep breaths. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.