Weirdest outing experience - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Phillip · 16th Aug 2011, 10:26 AM

Over the course of this summer I've been coming to terms with being gay, and was planning to come out to my close friend as soon as I got back from vacation. I'm sure he has considered that I might be gay, but has dismissed it. Upon waking today I was greeted by a text from my friend:
"I had a dream that you came out to me. You said you were in the closet, lol."

I'm pretty sure I just got dream-outed

. Anybody else have a similar experience where they were outed by the most random occurrence?

MyDecember · 16th Aug 2011, 10:36 AM

I was sitting in class with a co-worker. At the end of class, I don't know how it was brought up, he says "so I guess we can't have any good boob talk?"

Hes a good friend was completely open with it. Word spread faster than I thought at work.

Cheria · 16th Aug 2011, 10:45 AM

When I was a freshman last year, a guy invited me to sit at his table at my dorm where there were 2 other girls sitting as well. This is the first time I've ever seen them and before we actually got any conversation going (I think all we did was say our names at this point, actually), one of the girls commented on my heart earrings and immediately followed it with, "Are you gay?"

Good thing I was out enough to not show how awkward that was, but still.
It was also a bit rude. xD

maverick · 16th Aug 2011, 10:46 AM

Sounds like you and your bud have a touch of the ESPN.

thylvin · 16th Aug 2011, 11:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phillip

"I had a dream that you came out to me. You said you were in the closet, lol."

You and your friend must have been really close for this to have occur. This dream of your friend had is called a Telepathic Dream. Whether you were aware of it or not, but you have send a telepathic message to him. You willingness and need to come out to him must have triggered this type of dream. You could have also connected to his thoughts through a dream and that only occurs when you are really close to him (not geographical wise, the person could have just as well been on the other side of the planet).

I am an expert in dreams and what that meanings are behind it. I have done extensive research into the subject and currently busy writing a book on it

Just Adam · 16th Aug 2011, 02:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by maverick

Sounds like you and your bud have a touch of the ESPN.

We don't get that. We pay enough for tv as it is.

Phillip · 16th Aug 2011, 04:13 PM

Haha, Mean Girls <3
In fact, my friend and I are on opposite sides of the country right now. I think you make an interesting point about the connection between us, thylvin. Pretty much your whole point about me needing to come out to him rang true. I would love to hear more/read your upcoming book! If anything, I think it's a signal that my inclination to tell him was spot on. I can't wait to get back and talk to him!

musican · 16th Aug 2011, 06:14 PM

First things first, I noticed that you joined EC recently. Welcome, Phillip

Well I came out to my one friend after she was going on and on about how hot she though Robert Pattinson was. She apologized after gushing about him and then asked me which girl from Twilight I thought was hot. (She was doing a presentation on it and had a picture of the main cast.) I awkwardly told her that it was okay and to forget about it. Then later that day I said "Remember when you asked which girl from Twilight I think is cute to make me feel less awkward about your crush on Robert Pattinson? Well, you made things more awkward because I don't really like girls that way. Also, Taylor is so much more attractive than Robert."

Not quite as cool as a dream, but still a weird circumstance. Haha.

Flyers2011 · 16th Aug 2011, 06:16 PM

Everyone at my school (who weren't freshmen) knew that I was gay.

My soon to be ex didn't know until a few girls told her. She asked my good friend who was like, "Ask her. Don't ask me."

My ex started like, stalking my Facebook until she got the balls to say so.

Not too weird, but the weirdest I've had.

Phillip · 16th Aug 2011, 08:48 PM

Thanks for the welcome, musician! I'm sure when I come out I'll have many funny responses to share here on EC, many of my friends have no idea that I'm gay. I was so tempted to text my friend back then and there that I was gay. I think it'll work out better if I tell him face to face though.

Danny19 · 16th Aug 2011, 08:57 PM

oh my gad.. i havent been outed to my family. but my mom and both of my sisters have told me they had dreams of me being gay. when they would tell me i swear i felt like the blood rushed to my feet and i got extremely cold..lol. the bad part is that they wouldnt say dream they would say something like "oh my god i had a nightmare" i would say what is it about then they would say. " that you were gay" kinda sucks that they consider it a nightmare.

Phillip · 16th Aug 2011, 10:36 PM

That's exactly the feeling I got when I read the text my friend sent about his dream

. I tried to probe around a bit and see if he thought it was a bad dream, but no dice - didn't wanna make it TOO obvious I was interested. Now if more of my friends start having these dreams it's gonna be a problem, haha.

No One · 17th Aug 2011, 09:04 PM

My mom had a dream that I came out. She came down to my room in the middle of the night and was all upset and told me about the dream and followed with "That was the worst nightmare I have had in a really long time". I sure slept well.

thylvin · 18th Aug 2011, 03:39 AM

@Phillip... well the book is finished, I'm busy doing layout on it as well as add images of terms used in the book... after all it isn't called "Illustrated Dream Dictionary" for nothing. And what's more, is it will be completely for free to download in PDF format!!!!!

Hitchhiker · 18th Aug 2011, 06:36 PM

I told my parents I wanted a wallet for my back pocket.
They now make constant jokes about me being a lesbian.
(LOL I can't tell if they are serious or not..)

Noahroxursox · 18th Aug 2011, 06:44 PM

@thylvin... Awesome! It sounds like a really interesting boom, could you do us all a favour and when it's done, post a link to the PDF? Thanks so much! -smiles seductively-

Phillip · 18th Aug 2011, 09:38 PM

Awesome! I'm totally gonna print it out and put it next to my bed

wellhidden · 18th Aug 2011, 09:52 PM

I had the exact same experience with my sister about two and a half years ago and well at the time i was kinda questioning my sexuality (about 80% sure that i was gay)and she said "i had a dream that you liked men" and i denied it.
Funny thing is my sis and i have had dreams of the future alot when we were younger.

Beertruck · 18th Aug 2011, 10:01 PM

First off, I'm gonna quote this one from Funniest Coming Out Stories...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beertruck

At a party, I run into a cool former coworker who left a couple of months ago (aka before I was really out)

Me: So, I'm moving to (city in New Jersey that's close to Manhattan)
Her: WHAT?? Beertruck, you need to get in the city!
Me: Naah, this actually really nice...
Her: Yeah but you don't want to deal with those Jersey girls, we gotta get you some POON!
Me: uh.
Her: Gotta get you some POON!
Me: I'm uh.
Her: POON!!!
Me: No, I think I'll be good on the poon front, I'm not really into that anyway...
Her: NOT INTO POON??
Me: Yeah uh. I guess most people don't realize that about me.
Her: *awkward silence as the realization dawns on her*
Me: So... how's your new job?

Another time, another (straight but liberally minded) coworker and I are talking about a New Jersey pride event in her hometown. I say something along the lines of how I wish I could go - she straight up asks if I'm gay, and I say yeah, conversation goes pretty well.

So that weekend, this coworker is carpooling on a long trip with several others for a wedding (someone who left before I started there, so i didn't go). Apparently there was a lull in the conversation and the coworker went "SO WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME THAT BEERTRUCK IS GAY?"

Of course, no one else in the car knew that.

There was a collective "WHAT??????"

BeautifulStranger · 18th Aug 2011, 10:31 PM

Not really weird, but funny...

I've generally been keeping my sexuality to myself here because Korea is a little more conservative, and besides, my being gay is only one part of me. It's not all of who I am, so it's not like everyone has to know right away.

Anyways, we're at a bar with a bunch of my American friends (who aren't blind, so they knew I was gay) and some Korean friends.
The topic of is anyone dating came up and a Korean asked me if I had a girlfriend.
I laughed a bit, smiled politely and (since I had a fair bit of alcohol in my system) told him I was gay.

He was silent for a few seconds before saying, "I'm sorry."

And then I just went balls-to-the-wall queen on him.
"Gurrrrlll! Don't apologize! It's a simple mistake! And I love myself! There is nothing to be sad or sorry about at all, etc..."

For that being my weirdest experience, I would say my life has been "by the book" normal.

16th Aug 2011, 10:26 AM	#1
Phillip Vegan and Proud Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys? Yes, please! Out Status: More and more each day ;) Location: NYU, New York Age: 19 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2011	Weirdest outing experience Over the course of this summer I've been coming to terms with being gay, and was planning to come out to my close friend as soon as I got back from vacation. I'm sure he has considered that I might be gay, but has dismissed it. Upon waking today I was greeted by a text from my friend: "I had a dream that you came out to me. You said you were in the closet, lol." I'm pretty sure I just got dream-outed. Anybody else have a similar experience where they were outed by the most random occurrence?

16th Aug 2011, 10:36 AM	#2
MyDecember I pause your thread! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Florida Age: 23 Posts: 365 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience I was sitting in class with a co-worker. At the end of class, I don't know how it was brought up, he says "so I guess we can't have any good boob talk?" Hes a good friend was completely open with it. Word spread faster than I thought at work. __________________ This is my simple religion: There is no need for temples, there is no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is the temple;the philosophy is loving kindness and compassion --The XIVth Dalai Lama

16th Aug 2011, 10:45 AM	#3
Cheria にひひっ♪ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 636 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Weirdest outing experience When I was a freshman last year, a guy invited me to sit at his table at my dorm where there were 2 other girls sitting as well. This is the first time I've ever seen them and before we actually got any conversation going (I think all we did was say our names at this point, actually), one of the girls commented on my heart earrings and immediately followed it with, "Are you gay?" Good thing I was out enough to not show how awkward that was, but still. It was also a bit rude. xD __________________

16th Aug 2011, 10:46 AM	#4
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Weirdest outing experience Sounds like you and your bud have a touch of the ESPN. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

16th Aug 2011, 04:13 PM	#7
Phillip Vegan and Proud Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys? Yes, please! Out Status: More and more each day ;) Location: NYU, New York Age: 19 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience Haha, Mean Girls <3 In fact, my friend and I are on opposite sides of the country right now. I think you make an interesting point about the connection between us, thylvin. Pretty much your whole point about me needing to come out to him rang true. I would love to hear more/read your upcoming book! If anything, I think it's a signal that my inclination to tell him was spot on. I can't wait to get back and talk to him!

16th Aug 2011, 06:14 PM	#8
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Weirdest outing experience First things first, I noticed that you joined EC recently. Welcome, Phillip Well I came out to my one friend after she was going on and on about how hot she though Robert Pattinson was. She apologized after gushing about him and then asked me which girl from Twilight I thought was hot. (She was doing a presentation on it and had a picture of the main cast.) I awkwardly told her that it was okay and to forget about it. Then later that day I said "Remember when you asked which girl from Twilight I think is cute to make me feel less awkward about your crush on Robert Pattinson? Well, you made things more awkward because I don't really like girls that way. Also, Taylor is so much more attractive than Robert." Not quite as cool as a dream, but still a weird circumstance. Haha. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

16th Aug 2011, 06:16 PM	#9
Flyers2011 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. Location: O-H-I-O! Posts: 886 Join Date: Sep 2010	Re: Weirdest outing experience Everyone at my school (who weren't freshmen) knew that I was gay. My soon to be ex didn't know until a few girls told her. She asked my good friend who was like, "Ask her. Don't ask me." My ex started like, stalking my Facebook until she got the balls to say so. Not too weird, but the weirdest I've had. __________________ "We are born with a scream; we come into life with a scream, and maybe love is a mosquito net between the fear of living and the fear of death."- Francis Bacon

16th Aug 2011, 08:48 PM	#10
Phillip Vegan and Proud Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys? Yes, please! Out Status: More and more each day ;) Location: NYU, New York Age: 19 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience Thanks for the welcome, musician! I'm sure when I come out I'll have many funny responses to share here on EC, many of my friends have no idea that I'm gay. I was so tempted to text my friend back then and there that I was gay. I think it'll work out better if I tell him face to face though.

16th Aug 2011, 08:57 PM	#11
Danny19 Lets see what happens Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: i love boys!!! Out Status: Some people Location: Los Angeles Age: 19 Posts: 722 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: Weirdest outing experience oh my gad.. i havent been outed to my family. but my mom and both of my sisters have told me they had dreams of me being gay. when they would tell me i swear i felt like the blood rushed to my feet and i got extremely cold..lol. the bad part is that they wouldnt say dream they would say something like "oh my god i had a nightmare" i would say what is it about then they would say. " that you were gay" kinda sucks that they consider it a nightmare. __________________ “Whats meant to be, will always find its way"

16th Aug 2011, 10:36 PM	#12
Phillip Vegan and Proud Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys? Yes, please! Out Status: More and more each day ;) Location: NYU, New York Age: 19 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience That's exactly the feeling I got when I read the text my friend sent about his dream. I tried to probe around a bit and see if he thought it was a bad dream, but no dice - didn't wanna make it TOO obvious I was interested. Now if more of my friends start having these dreams it's gonna be a problem, haha.

17th Aug 2011, 09:04 PM	#13
No One Eternally Male Crazed! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Unofficially out to everyone but my family. Age: 18 Posts: 1,021 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Weirdest outing experience My mom had a dream that I came out. She came down to my room in the middle of the night and was all upset and told me about the dream and followed with "That was the worst nightmare I have had in a really long time". I sure slept well. __________________ Last edited by No One; 17th Aug 2011 at 09:13 PM..

18th Aug 2011, 03:39 AM	#14
thylvin Green thumb Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windhoek Age: 32 Posts: 860 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience @Phillip... well the book is finished, I'm busy doing layout on it as well as add images of terms used in the book... after all it isn't called "Illustrated Dream Dictionary" for nothing. And what's more, is it will be completely for free to download in PDF format!!!!! __________________ You are who you are, unique and a beautiful person. You are the only one of your kind and let no one tell you any diffrent, they are usualy jealous of you. F the people We are the people!!!!

18th Aug 2011, 06:36 PM	#15
Hitchhiker Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 74 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience I told my parents I wanted a wallet for my back pocket. They now make constant jokes about me being a lesbian. (LOL I can't tell if they are serious or not..)

18th Aug 2011, 06:44 PM	#16
Noahroxursox EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I can haz teh guys? Out Status: All but my extended family and the odd walrus Location: Maryland Age: 15 Posts: 338 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience @thylvin... Awesome! It sounds like a really interesting boom, could you do us all a favour and when it's done, post a link to the PDF? Thanks so much! -smiles seductively- __________________ RAINBOWS

18th Aug 2011, 09:38 PM	#17
Phillip Vegan and Proud Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boys? Yes, please! Out Status: More and more each day ;) Location: NYU, New York Age: 19 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience Awesome! I'm totally gonna print it out and put it next to my bed

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wellhidden EC's unofficial metaphysician Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 94% gay 6% bi Out Status: Getting there Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 224 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Weirdest outing experience I had the exact same experience with my sister about two and a half years ago and well at the time i was kinda questioning my sexuality (about 80% sure that i was gay)and she said "i had a dream that you liked men" and i denied it. Funny thing is my sis and i have had dreams of the future alot when we were younger. __________________ The summer is over, The harvest is in, and we are not saved... Jeremiah 8:20

18th Aug 2011, 10:31 PM	#20
BeautifulStranger GaGa's Knight in Flaming Armor Full Member Gender: 여왕 Orientation: Boys Boys Boys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Jukjeon-dong, Yongin-si Age: 20 Posts: 1,823 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Weirdest outing experience Not really weird, but funny... I've generally been keeping my sexuality to myself here because Korea is a little more conservative, and besides, my being gay is only one part of me. It's not all of who I am, so it's not like everyone has to know right away. Anyways, we're at a bar with a bunch of my American friends (who aren't blind, so they knew I was gay) and some Korean friends. The topic of is anyone dating came up and a Korean asked me if I had a girlfriend. I laughed a bit, smiled politely and (since I had a fair bit of alcohol in my system) told him I was gay. He was silent for a few seconds before saying, "I'm sorry." And then I just went balls-to-the-wall queen on him. "Gurrrrlll! Don't apologize! It's a simple mistake! And I love myself! There is nothing to be sad or sorry about at all, etc..." For that being my weirdest experience, I would say my life has been "by the book" normal. __________________ Co-Founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club EC's official Diva Extraordinaire Future 'Mr. Kellan Lutz' "Since women have vaginas, they also have drama to fill the void."