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fiddledeedee · 21st Aug 2011, 02:03 PM

...does anyone else feel pressure (not sure if this is the right word here) to be in a same-sex relationship, at least for a long term one? I don't think I'm making much sense here, but I mean like if you are with someone of the opposite sex do people comment on how you are effectively straight, it was not worth coming out, you have got over your sexuality, etc.? In a way that they don't if you are in a same-sex relationship? For me I feel like if I come out to my mum and then marry a man when I am an adult she will say/think those things, and having come out at school they will be the same way if my first relationship is with a boy. Does anyone else feel/sense/have that pressure?

Robert · 21st Aug 2011, 02:07 PM

Coming out isnt about dating people. Its about becoming comfortable with who you really are.

If you like looking at members of the same gender sometimes, it isnt something that you should have to hide.

21st Aug 2011, 02:03 PM	#1
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	To bi/pan people... ...does anyone else feel pressure (not sure if this is the right word here) to be in a same-sex relationship, at least for a long term one? I don't think I'm making much sense here, but I mean like if you are with someone of the opposite sex do people comment on how you are effectively straight, it was not worth coming out, you have got over your sexuality, etc.? In a way that they don't if you are in a same-sex relationship? For me I feel like if I come out to my mum and then marry a man when I am an adult she will say/think those things, and having come out at school they will be the same way if my first relationship is with a boy. Does anyone else feel/sense/have that pressure? __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

21st Aug 2011, 02:07 PM	#2
Robert EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: World Posts: 971 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: To bi/pan people... Coming out isnt about dating people. Its about becoming comfortable with who you really are. If you like looking at members of the same gender sometimes, it isnt something that you should have to hide. __________________ "I am like a mirror that dares not be what nature made it, but feels obligated, always, to reflect what surrounds it." - Frederick II of Prussia. "England is a Prison" - Gerrard Winstanley

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