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Justme123 · 24th Aug 2011, 07:16 PM

I recently changed my interest in to men... I am def. not someone people would expect that from... what can I expect from this point forward? Is there a way for people to search other people by interested in?

Nazo · 24th Aug 2011, 07:25 PM

90% of people who change it never hear anything about it from anyone.
And if it does get out, you're gay already and apparently pretty comfortable with it. What do you have to worry about?

**Lexington** · 24th Aug 2011, 07:38 PM

What can you expect? Next-to-nothing, because that bit of info is on a page that people almost never look at.

Lex

**Owen** · 24th Aug 2011, 07:42 PM

There isn't a way for people to search for other people via their answer on "interested in". You can't even filter your friends that way.

Justme123 · 24th Aug 2011, 07:43 PM

I ask bc i changed it a few days ago and today i got a really really random post from someone who was rumored to b gay... I was wondering if he was able to search somehow to see who had changed that section on their profile

**Lexington** · 24th Aug 2011, 07:44 PM

Chances are he didn't do a search specifically...but chances are decent-to-good that he decided to check out some profiles, and check out that page on each of them.

Lex

24th Aug 2011, 07:49 PM

I don't think that anybody noticed when I changed my status like that on facebook. Its one of those areas that you don't really look at, I don't think that I've looked at anyone else's information part from what I can remember. Several people have come out on facebook through a status saying it, I even did it myself. I wouldn't worry too much, you've put it there which means you must be comfortable with it in some respect.

midwestgirl89 · 24th Aug 2011, 11:41 PM

Sometimes when you change your relationship status or interested in section it pops up on the facebook newsfeed. I wouldn't worry too much and I don't think you can look up people based on their sexual orientation. Your friend may have either seen it on the newsfeed or just looked to see on your page because he was curious. You probably won't deal with anything bad at all and I'm happy for you that you got up the courage to change your facebook "interested in" section.

Mad Man L · 25th Aug 2011, 01:26 AM

I did that when I first came out, I had it set to that for weeks and only my best friend noticed until I began telling people. Some noticed that way, but once some noticed, it went viral. So meh.

Veronica · 25th Aug 2011, 03:09 PM

I only check people's "interest in" when I'm wondering what they are interested in. Usually I find that they haven't answered that particular question

Unless they're out of course ...

24th Aug 2011, 07:16 PM	#1
Justme123 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Posts: 11 Join Date: Feb 2011	Facebook I recently changed my interest in to men... I am def. not someone people would expect that from... what can I expect from this point forward? Is there a way for people to search other people by interested in?

24th Aug 2011, 07:25 PM	#2
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Facebook 90% of people who change it never hear anything about it from anyone. And if it does get out, you're gay already and apparently pretty comfortable with it. What do you have to worry about? __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

24th Aug 2011, 07:38 PM	#3
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Facebook What can you expect? Next-to-nothing, because that bit of info is on a page that people almost never look at. Lex

24th Aug 2011, 07:42 PM	#4
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,873 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Facebook There isn't a way for people to search for other people via their answer on "interested in". You can't even filter your friends that way. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

24th Aug 2011, 07:43 PM	#5
Justme123 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Posts: 11 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Facebook I ask bc i changed it a few days ago and today i got a really really random post from someone who was rumored to b gay... I was wondering if he was able to search somehow to see who had changed that section on their profile

24th Aug 2011, 07:44 PM	#6
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Facebook Chances are he didn't do a search specifically...but chances are decent-to-good that he decided to check out some profiles, and check out that page on each of them. Lex

24th Aug 2011, 07:49 PM	#7
Giorria Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Facebook I don't think that anybody noticed when I changed my status like that on facebook. Its one of those areas that you don't really look at, I don't think that I've looked at anyone else's information part from what I can remember. Several people have come out on facebook through a status saying it, I even did it myself. I wouldn't worry too much, you've put it there which means you must be comfortable with it in some respect.

24th Aug 2011, 11:41 PM	#8
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Facebook Sometimes when you change your relationship status or interested in section it pops up on the facebook newsfeed. I wouldn't worry too much and I don't think you can look up people based on their sexual orientation. Your friend may have either seen it on the newsfeed or just looked to see on your page because he was curious. You probably won't deal with anything bad at all and I'm happy for you that you got up the courage to change your facebook "interested in" section.

25th Aug 2011, 01:26 AM	#9
Mad Man L EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Brisbane, Australia Age: 16 Posts: 1,244 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Facebook I did that when I first came out, I had it set to that for weeks and only my best friend noticed until I began telling people. Some noticed that way, but once some noticed, it went viral. So meh. __________________ I really should get a proper signature...

25th Aug 2011, 03:09 PM	#10
Veronica Princess of darkness Full Member Gender: Female (MtF) Orientation: ❤ women Out Status: A few friends Location: Europe Age: 35 Posts: 704 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Facebook I only check people's "interest in" when I'm wondering what they are interested in. Usually I find that they haven't answered that particular question Unless they're out of course ... __________________ "When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others."

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