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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by jostle100, Aug 26, 2011.

  1. jostle100

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    I'm gay and I'm in middle school. For those gay guys, as being gay do you want to have sex and have bj's and all that? I don't want to do all of that, I just to wanna give like a friendly hug, nothing weird, just a normal hug to a guy. I might also think I'm bi, there is only been 1 girl that caught my eye before and she talked to me more than the other girls do (I'm not very popular) and she's actually nice to me. I had a friend on Facebook admitted to me that he was bi. I'm just so frustrated now :bang:
     
  2. Phoenix

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    Well, yeah. But that's not the only thing I ever want and I'm sure many others will tell you the same.
     
  3. jostle100

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    what else?
     
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    do you want to do anything sexual with guys? would you date them over dating girls?
     
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    Anything people in heterosexual relationships would typically do.

    Being gay (or bi) isn't exclusively about sex, if that's what you're wondering. And it's completely fine that at your age, you aren't interested in sex. For a pretty decent amount of time, I wasn't interested in sex either, and that's changed. Give it time, you'll figure out what you want out of relationships eventually. You're only in middle school, so you've got time to burn.
     
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    Until I had my first intimate experience, I couldn't envision myself enjoying any kind of sex with a guy. Once I had my first experience, it was much easier to see myself enjoying it, but definitely not before. So believe me, it's far from unheard of to not want to anything particularly sexual with a guy at your age.

    Hugging, kissing, resting my head on his shoulder (or the other way around), sitting arm in arm, have him play with my hair, nuzzling his beard*, stroking his belly*, lightly stroking his face and having him return the favor, rubbing cheeks, and that's just for starters. There's a lot more to the world of physical intimacy than sex and blow jobs.

    *I might be alone in those ones, but we're all unique in what we want to do.
     
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    Lots of people feel that way. Its somewhat normal. Buts there's nothing wrong with a hug, it cannot actually be quite reassuring and emotional. And I would like to say, that although most teenagers are horny bastards, its not ALL they think about.
     
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    I just wanna hug, rest my head on his shoulder, sitting arm to arm, the farthest I'll go will probably kissing. I'm not thinking about sex yet.
     
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    I was like you when I was in middle school. As I got older, the idea of sex became more appealing. It might not for you, but it did for me. Sex would be swell, but that's definitely not the only thing I want - I'm not that shallow.
     
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    Everyone's different. I've never wanted anything more than sex, personally. I think that's contributed to my never having got any. =p
     
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    I am gay as in i personally would like to be in a relationship with a man rather than just "sex with a man", and i would have to have the romantic attraction not just sexual/physical attraction, however after a time just as in a straight relationship, sex would become a part of the relationship i guess. But i do want to kiss a guy :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Same. I don't really want to have sex, just a relationship. no kissing would be fine too.
     
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    Of course I want that. But I also want to have an emotional relationship too. I just want to beable to do all the normal relationship things with a guy.