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Old 28th Aug 2011, 07:16 PM   #1
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Default Peoples worst reaction to finding out your gay

As far as anyone knows im staight... but they will find out eventually.

What was your friends/familys worst reaction when they found out you were gay.
.. Guess I wanna kno what im getting into.
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Old 28th Aug 2011, 08:26 PM   #2
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well some time ago when I was still confused I think it was in grade 7, I came out to one of my best friends. She then got very upset and told she didnt want to be friends with a homosexual person and I got mad at her too and didnt talk to her for a year but eventually she apologized and we are now best friends again
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Old 28th Aug 2011, 08:29 PM   #3
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I've been lucky enough that my friends (and the families of my friends) have been completely supportive, apart from some silly teasing from time to time, but I don't mind that.
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Old 28th Aug 2011, 08:46 PM   #4
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Worst case senario for me was If my best friend did not want to be friends with me because Im gay. But Honestly when it comes down to it I dont want to be friends with people who are that ignorant and closed minded about the subject.

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For what it's worth, I haven't really had a bad reaction yet, beyond my mother being shocked and thinking it's a phase. She's never pushed me away because of it, though, so I don't even really count that as a negative response. People tend to be pretty ok or meh about gay people when they realize they know one personally, and those of the younger generation (I'd say 21 and under, with + or - 5 years) tend to not care at all about sexual orientation. Good luck, and don't worry too much about it!
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My mom's definitely been the worst. The thing that hurt the most that she told me was that it was worse news then finding out her dad had died, or something to the equivelence that her dad dying wasn't as bad as me being gay. The she pretty much "forbid" me from telling my sisters.

That being said, I think that's a worse reaction then most get from their parents, and the friends I've told were overall positive experiences.
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Someone who I play sport with. He's in a younger grade, and he was semi-freaked out, but generally annoys me about other things anyway. Then again, Year 8s and 9s are pig-headed and homophobic by default.

I've never had to come out to family, and a lot found out through word-of-mouth, hence why I've never really had any really bad reactions.
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Old 29th Aug 2011, 01:16 AM   #8
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Well my brother called me a faggot and imitated me performing fellatio. Of course he's all kinds of unstable and could use some anger management.

One of my best friends (who I suspect is bi as well, partially due to us hooking up once) - he was the first person I ever spoke the words out loud to. We were 17. At the time, his reaction was "I'm not hooking up with you"
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Old 29th Aug 2011, 04:03 AM   #9
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I had come out to a girl who was hitting on me. She told me I don't deserve to live and That I was a waste of a life.

I had sent a letter to my best friend (firm elementary-middle) about me being gay. He was the type who said gay people should die and the whole 9 yards with bible thumper ideology. Well he never sent me a response and deleted me from facebook. Other than that everybody loves me

The actual surprises were some peoples reaction who I never thought would be accepting.
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My worst reaction was my (no longer) best friend- I told her, and she kinda stared at me in an awkward way. I had hoped me telling her would put an end to all her homophobic remarks, but it didn't. I didn't get her bad reaction until about a month later, when she blew up at me for telling her that these remarks hurt my feelings. But since then, I've slowly been getting over it; I don't wanna be close with a homophobe.
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Old 29th Aug 2011, 05:02 AM   #11
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My parents disowned me. They got over it eventually though and we're totally cool now. I've been presenting as a guy (or at least a very butch lesbian ) almost a year, and they don't even bat an eye.

My least favorite reaction from people is the looks of disgust or disapproval I get from strangers on the street when I'm minding my own business. I just don't see where people get off making assumptions about other people they don't even know.

What pisses me off is that if I was a femme lesbian, these same people would either not even know I'm gay, or would actually approve of it in a oooo-I-saw-a-porno-like-that-once way.

But because I'm butch, I'm flagrant Godless scum.
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My co-worker stopped talking to me for a month. I didn't even notice, because I have a kick-ass life to live.

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I had good reactions from everyone. My twin sister's wasn't as I wanted it to be, but it was definitely appropriate. she cried a bit, and didn't understand, but she is accepting. I was just a little off putting because all of the friends I had told up until then were completely ok with it. After I thought about it, I completely understand how she felt, being my twin sister and all.
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Old 29th Aug 2011, 07:27 AM   #14
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I had a friend who got all passive-aggressive towards me because he doesn't like lesbians. Apparently we're man-haters who make better lovers for women than other men, so he's angsty and jealous towards me over it. Whatever.
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Old 29th Aug 2011, 11:07 AM   #15
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I haven't really had any bad reactions yet, as I'm only out to a few of my close friends, 2 of whom are gay themselves, and one has a gay sister. :P

I've just been preparing to tell my mother soon. She doesn't seem like a person that would have a horribly negative response, but she isn't exactly supportive of homosexuals either. SO, I'm gonna have to see how that goes...
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My old best friend/crush refused to acknowledge my existence after he found out I was gay. He hasn't talked to me once to this day. :l
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It wasn't an immediate thing, buuut, my (ex?)-best friend, a girl, began seeing me as a threat, and refuses to be okay with me spending time with her boyfriend, whom I have become close friends with. It led to a lot of stupid clique gossip, which has resulted in MY decision to re-evaluate out friendship. But nothing against me actually BEING gay. I think she just likes drama, and I was an excuse to create it.

(Joke's on her though... her complete disregard to how she is treating others is pushing her boyfriend toward a breakup)

P.S... this was happening anyway, because before i came out, the rumor was that I liked HER and was trying to take her away from HIM... Idiots.
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1 person had a hate campaign in my old workplace, literally telling everyone that I was gay despite me being out at the time. Highly amusing as people just said "yeah we know" which got him even more frustrated. I don't even know what I did to get this person to hate me so much, but it doesn't matter because he was one of those 'look at how impressive I am' types.
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I told my sister and she's been really weird about it.
I mean, it's not like I want her to change in front of me or something, but really.
It's like, I was sitting in my room with the door open and she was like, "Chloe, I'm coming out of the bathroom with my towel on, can you close the door?"
It's not THAT bad, and the few people I've told have been rather accepting about it.
But still. x'D

I'm actually really frightened to tell my grandparents. Dx
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I told one of my friends who said it didn't matter, proceeded to call me a faggot, Hit on me, Call me a faggot then talk about his girl troubles. It wasn't the best experience.
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