Sex everywere and its making me depressed.

[British Lad]

I know that sex is everywere these days in from Toothpaste ads to Dramas and well porn (derrrr thats what porn is SEX) and everything inbetween. And is depressing, as is the world saying I must get laid or you a ****ing loser and I am sick of it, as it is reminding me of something I have had no part in and proberly won't do for the forseable future. And Theres so much of it that it needs to go or be towned down as every time I try and forget I still have my V card, the world smacks it back in my face. I was watching porn and it made me depressed/jelouse because they had something I don't and proberly will not have for some time. I feel that this will lead to one of three or four ends:
1: ending my own life (highly unlikly and lifes to good for now)
2: make me more jelouse and bitter and colder
3: make me even lonly
4: nothing
My personal perferance to what I want is in reverse order (4 being perfered, 1 the very least)
I know sex sells but Why is it in everything, before you know it it will in kids toys Ads as theres a hot MILF/DILF in it. Soon after you need to have been laid by either gender just to get a job (i am not seriuse I am venting) I feel like the Worlds having one big party next door and I have not been invited but everybody else I know has and the cheeky buggers have turned up the music loud dillberaly and have extended there party in my lawn and locked me in my own house. It just seimes everybody except me is having "fun" and I am stuck bored to death, and not getting a piece of the pie that is sex. To put it simple they super car that is my sex drive Is stuck in full throtal is stuck on a tiny island were I can't even hit 5mph because the small tight short roads and i am having to manualy keep it in a hight gear so it hit go off the roads.
Sorry for the rant, I just had to get it off my chest.

[Just Passing]

This type of thing is usually to try and provoke a reaction out of people and I think it works. I wouldn't be surprised if this is the reason why so many people pre-sixteen like to brag about how they've had sex when they obviously haven't.

I wouldn't let it bother you and just have it when you're ready.

[thedreamwatch]

Like Just Passing is saying, I think you're overestimating how many people are getting laid--especially people in their teens.

It does seem that it's in everything these days, you're right, but you're not the only person who isn't at the party, I promise.

[Lexington]

"We've got kids thinking they're freaks 'cause they're not getting laid." - Action Slacks

You'd be surprised how few people are getting laid in their teen years. I know it seems like there's precisely one person not getting any, but that's not at all what it's like. I finished high school and even college without getting laid. (It didn't help that I didn't really come out until after school ended.) But I can't say as I regret it at all. I just kept up the right-hand exercises until the right time came along.

Lex

[Zontar]

If it's worth anything, I don't see too many gay people losing their virginity as early as the much more plentiful straight folk. Perhaps it's not entirely atypical to become sexually active until later when you're gay?

Nevertheless, I know precisely what you feel and you need to keep in mind that there is much more to living a successful life than simply getting laid.

[predator9089]

I hear you British Lad. FYI to the other posters, i think he's not actually talking about the reality of how many people are getting laid in their teen years, he's talking about the ridiculous impression the media is making and how it is affecting the wellbeing of people who have their V card. The more mature among us will understand the media fantasy and are able to distance ourselves and know that there is much more to life than getting laid, but younger folks may not have that perspective yet and i believe it's a real societal problem.

[Austin]

Well, no offense, but it's silly you'd consider ending your life just because you haven't had sex. Having sex isn't the only thing in life. And yes, sex sells, but that shouldn't get you depressed. Step back and think about it logically. Does it really matter if you have sex or not? Will it get you liked? If anyone cares you are a virgin they aren't worth your time. And frankly it's their problem if they care. You'll have sex eventually don't worry. Take your time. When you watch a pot it doesn't boil, or something. idk.

[Mad Man L]

I know I overestimate (sometimes) the amount of people who are in a relationship. When I'm depressed at being stuck in a shit position to get either gender, I seem to basically look at every single guy-girl interaction as a 'relationship' -> .

Sex sells, and it seems nobody gets enough of it, so by saying *Product* = sex, people will buy it. But yeah, it is annoying.

[Fugs]

Don't kill yourself over it. Just take your time and when you feel comfortable enough with it let it happen. If you rush you'll just end up regretting it later.

[Miske]

I also sometimes get a little emotional about my own personal issues temporarily. It's probably because I'm the type that loves to get problems done with.

That asides, I never really felt that way like you have maybe since I'm neutral about this whole getting laid thing. I believe it'll come at the right time with the right person. I see you have sort of cracked under pressure. Even the strong can crack at some points.

All I can recommend is that you reassure that you'll still have plenty of time. In the future you'll realize that having something special with the right person will make it all worth the wait. You don't really have to wait though. There are quite a number of other things to enjoy in life. The more busier you are, the less you'll probably have this issue running in your mind. You probably just need people to talk to and help you realize other ways of thinking so you don't have to be depressed.

[Bi As A Kite]

Maybe a lot of people who got laid as quickly as possible had a crap time with it. It's certainly not worth ending your life over. Maybe stay away from mainstream stuff for a bit? The stuff you can avoid, anyway. I completely 'get' your jealousy, though.

[Enaithor]

If you watch Skins: stop watching it
If you don't watch Skins: don't, it will make you feel 100 times as bad

And I mean it will probably take an extra long time for English gays to get laid as dating works totally differently over here to in the US. Like at least where I live, most couples were like pretty good friends before they got together. But heteros have like a lot of their friends are sort of, members of sexual interest. Whereas if you're gay you only have the other gay guys which if you live in a ghetto is not many D: and obviously you don't want to date all of your gay friends ever...

[Zontar]

I would just also like to take this time to point out how fucking annoying it is to get play-by-play updates on the loss of your friends' virginity.

Seriously, it just makes me want to turn my phone off and disconnect from AIM. This shit is worse than getting back blood test results.