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heatqueen · 21st Sep 2011, 06:28 AM

What is everyone's worst characteristic? Have you managed to overcome it?

Mine's jealousy, I know that I've got a jealous streak and it often leads to rifts between myself and friends if I'm not careful. I try to handle such situations by asking myself whether I have a genuine reason to feel bad or if I'm being irrational. If I realize it's just jealousy getting in the way of things I try to do my utmost best to get over it and become okay with the situation, or else I'll just end up ruining things for myself.

Your turn.

**Maddy** · 21st Sep 2011, 06:54 AM

I have no self-esteem at all, and apparently that annoys people. Overcoming it really doesn't seem to be likely in the near future - I've just learned who to shut up around.

malachite · 21st Sep 2011, 08:17 AM

apathy, I'm working on it.

I find most people to cry babies, wah wah my life isn't perfect, wah wah things did go exactly as I wanted.

Allegro molto · 21st Sep 2011, 08:35 AM

Um, let's see...my self-esteem is virtually non-existant. I'm a very jealous person, especially when it comes to friends, I'm ruthless, and I'm pessimistic. I could go on, but I'll just stop now.

maverick · 21st Sep 2011, 08:44 AM

It takes an act of God for me to lay down a grudge. There is a hollow place in my soul where forgiveness should be. I might "forget," but I don't forgive...not for the big things.

Little stuff I don't get worked up about in the first place. But if I'm really wounded (like when I was rejected by my family while coming out, or in dealing with infidelity in a relationship) I completely shut down and all attempts at apology or amicable resolution are useless until I find a different headspace - if ever. At this point people have to tread carefully around me if they want reassurance that they will ever see me again. I'm a constant flight risk.

There's just some cold alien streak in me that has no sense of remorse or pity or guilt when it comes to cutting people out of my life. I'm a loner and I always feel a sense of relief when leaving people behind and moving on with my life without them.

Most of the time I am compassionate to the point of stopping to move turtles out of the road, but every once in awhile, I am surprised by my own cruelty.

As to fixing the problem, I don't have the slightest inkling how.

kanishq · 21st Sep 2011, 08:51 AM

If i try to be serious, I end up being sarcastic

I do not know why this has been stitched in me.

Also my voice, it is very loud, good for public address
not so much for gossiping

Hazel · 21st Sep 2011, 11:50 AM

I think I might have mentioned it on the forums at one point, but I'm way more high-strung and paranoid than I'm comfortable with. I don't think it really shows, but way deep down I'm always second-guessing myself and mentally preparing for the worst. I used to run myself down over it. I'm a lot more sure of myself than I used to be, and I've really mellowed out over problems and "what may be," so I guess it's been improving over the years.

Fugs · 21st Sep 2011, 12:43 PM

Low self esteem =(

And not really, no.

TwistyRainbow · 21st Sep 2011, 12:45 PM

I overthink things, a lot, especially when it comes to my social/romantic life. I'm trying to fix it, but I take a little bit of comfort in the fact that overthinking means I care.

aidan · 21st Sep 2011, 12:58 PM

i'm anxiety cat incarnate

djt820 · 21st Sep 2011, 01:29 PM

I'm just too awesome.

Bi As A Kite · 21st Sep 2011, 01:42 PM

I really over-think things. Have tried doing this less and it feels good.
Can't find a middle ground between recognizing my good points and sounding full of myself.
Burying stuff. Not dealing with it straightaway.
Wearing emotion-masks. Is "I'm fine" the most common lie ever?
Can appear cold and rude without wanting to, I just 'watch' the opportunity pass by then thinkthinkthink about rectifying it, but actually don't.
Prone to idiocy.
Foolish with money, sometimes.

Danny19 · 21st Sep 2011, 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by djt820

I'm just too awesome.

^this

and im very indecisive. also im too proud. i dont mind having pride but i think im too proud. and im stubborn. lol. and even though im kind of an ass i dont mind it because im not so mean that i hurt people. lol

Kidd · 21st Sep 2011, 02:07 PM

I'm deeply superficial, profoundly so. I'm working on it.

needshelp · 21st Sep 2011, 03:29 PM

pessimistic, indecisive, sensitive, anger issues, procrastinate, paranoid, obsessive,

Nollaig20 · 21st Sep 2011, 05:28 PM

I'm overly stubborn, over think far too much, always have to have the laugh work. I guess I need to start working on it!! =S

**Mogget** · 21st Sep 2011, 06:22 PM

I'm lazy, apathetic, and procrastinate. The bad part is that I can get away with it because I'm intelligent, so it doesn't damage my performance in class. In my personal life, however, it leads to chores never being done, errands never completed, and paperwork that piles up endlessly because I don't want to deal with it.

Hot Pink · 21st Sep 2011, 06:30 PM

I'm haughty, emotional, and have self-esteem issues.

TheLilyTribe · 21st Sep 2011, 06:46 PM

I am a huge introvert. I'm so shy I hardly talk to anyone I don't know, and people end up thinking I'm stuck up because of it. I'm finding that the drama programs at school are helping though.
But for people I love and care about I'm a bit over protective. If someone who I know is bad news starts walking towards one of my friends I put myself in between them without really realizing it...

bookworm43 · 21st Sep 2011, 07:06 PM

controlling my emotions. whatever they are, whether i let them out or keep them to myself, they kinda rage inside me and make it chaotic. im working on not being so affected by my own thoughts and drama outside me lol

21st Sep 2011, 06:28 AM	#1
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,707 Join Date: Jan 2008	Bad personality traits What is everyone's worst characteristic? Have you managed to overcome it? Mine's jealousy, I know that I've got a jealous streak and it often leads to rifts between myself and friends if I'm not careful. I try to handle such situations by asking myself whether I have a genuine reason to feel bad or if I'm being irrational. If I realize it's just jealousy getting in the way of things I try to do my utmost best to get over it and become okay with the situation, or else I'll just end up ruining things for myself. Your turn. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

21st Sep 2011, 06:54 AM	#2
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Bad personality traits I have no self-esteem at all, and apparently that annoys people. Overcoming it really doesn't seem to be likely in the near future - I've just learned who to shut up around. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

21st Sep 2011, 08:17 AM	#3
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Bad personality traits apathy, I'm working on it. I find most people to cry babies, wah wah my life isn't perfect, wah wah things did go exactly as I wanted. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

21st Sep 2011, 08:35 AM	#4
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,334 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Bad personality traits Um, let's see...my self-esteem is virtually non-existant. I'm a very jealous person, especially when it comes to friends, I'm ruthless, and I'm pessimistic. I could go on, but I'll just stop now. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

21st Sep 2011, 08:44 AM	#5
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Bad personality traits It takes an act of God for me to lay down a grudge. There is a hollow place in my soul where forgiveness should be. I might "forget," but I don't forgive...not for the big things. Little stuff I don't get worked up about in the first place. But if I'm really wounded (like when I was rejected by my family while coming out, or in dealing with infidelity in a relationship) I completely shut down and all attempts at apology or amicable resolution are useless until I find a different headspace - if ever. At this point people have to tread carefully around me if they want reassurance that they will ever see me again. I'm a constant flight risk. There's just some cold alien streak in me that has no sense of remorse or pity or guilt when it comes to cutting people out of my life. I'm a loner and I always feel a sense of relief when leaving people behind and moving on with my life without them. Most of the time I am compassionate to the point of stopping to move turtles out of the road, but every once in awhile, I am surprised by my own cruelty. As to fixing the problem, I don't have the slightest inkling how. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

21st Sep 2011, 08:51 AM	#6
kanishq New Delhi, India Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Close Friends and Family Location: New Delhi Posts: 24 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Bad personality traits If i try to be serious, I end up being sarcastic I do not know why this has been stitched in me. Also my voice, it is very loud, good for public address not so much for gossiping __________________ KanishQ

21st Sep 2011, 11:50 AM	#7
Hazel Switch to decaf? Never! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: A few people Location: Minnesota Age: 23 Posts: 129 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Bad personality traits I think I might have mentioned it on the forums at one point, but I'm way more high-strung and paranoid than I'm comfortable with. I don't think it really shows, but way deep down I'm always second-guessing myself and mentally preparing for the worst. I used to run myself down over it. I'm a lot more sure of myself than I used to be, and I've really mellowed out over problems and "what may be," so I guess it's been improving over the years.

21st Sep 2011, 12:43 PM	#8
Fugs EC's Local Furry Full Member Gender: Female, trans M-F (Wishes she was a kitty) Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bowling Green, OH Age: 18 Posts: 408 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Bad personality traits Low self esteem =( And not really, no. __________________ We love youes! Please accept a hug from us so that we can give <( ^ω^)> (≧∇≦)/ (^O^)／ (^。^) (づ｡◕‿‿◕｡)づ ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ಠ_ರೃ your face the smile that everyone around you wants to see!

21st Sep 2011, 12:45 PM	#9
TwistyRainbow Co-Captain - Rainbow Nerd Brigade Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homosexual, homoromantic Out Status: The closet's in ashes Location: From St. Louis, MO; go to school in Nashville, TN Age: 20 Posts: 204 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Bad personality traits I overthink things, a lot, especially when it comes to my social/romantic life. I'm trying to fix it, but I take a little bit of comfort in the fact that overthinking means I care. __________________ ♪You taste just like glitter mixed with rock and roll. I like you a lot, lot, think you're really hot, hot♪ ♪Together we'll find a way to make pure love work in a dirty way♪

21st Sep 2011, 12:58 PM	#10
aidan EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Walsall, United Kingdom Age: 18 Posts: 260 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Bad personality traits i'm anxiety cat incarnate __________________

21st Sep 2011, 01:29 PM	#11
djt820 Brutally Honest Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: DICKS EVERYWHERE Out Status: Like A Cock Slapping Your Face Kind-of Out. Location: SoCal Age: 19 Posts: 1,282 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Bad personality traits I'm just too awesome. __________________

21st Sep 2011, 01:42 PM	#12
Bi As A Kite EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: The pendulum swings wildly Out Status: 1 friend + mom Age: 20 Posts: 299 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Bad personality traits I really over-think things. Have tried doing this less and it feels good. Can't find a middle ground between recognizing my good points and sounding full of myself. Burying stuff. Not dealing with it straightaway. Wearing emotion-masks. Is "I'm fine" the most common lie ever? Can appear cold and rude without wanting to, I just 'watch' the opportunity pass by then thinkthinkthink about rectifying it, but actually don't. Prone to idiocy. Foolish with money, sometimes. __________________ "You wanna get what you want, you gotta come out fighting...."

21st Sep 2011, 02:07 PM	#14
Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Bad personality traits I'm deeply superficial, profoundly so. I'm working on it. __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...

21st Sep 2011, 03:29 PM	#15
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Bad personality traits pessimistic, indecisive, sensitive, anger issues, procrastinate, paranoid, obsessive,

21st Sep 2011, 05:28 PM	#16
Nollaig20 This will never define me.... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: People that are important. Location: Belfast, N Ireland Age: 20 Posts: 120 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Bad personality traits I'm overly stubborn, over think far too much, always have to have the laugh work. I guess I need to start working on it!! =S __________________ *Fear is an inadequate feeling within our hearts, and yet we allow this to tare our lives apart....... - A.S*

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bookworm43 Ketchup Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My Immediate Family, 4 friends, 1 stranger Location: NY Age: 15 Posts: 585 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Bad personality traits controlling my emotions. whatever they are, whether i let them out or keep them to myself, they kinda rage inside me and make it chaotic. im working on not being so affected by my own thoughts and drama outside me lol __________________ "A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or the others crazy?" - Albert Einstein