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maverick · 2nd Oct 2011, 12:24 AM

So on the way back from the club tonight, I got a Middle-Easternish cabbie who was VERY interested in where I was coming from (I don't think he had ever done a pick-up at the gay disco before). He asked whether the club was the only club I ever went to, and I said no...that I was actually coming from the only lesbian bar in town.

He told me he thought the gay bar was a very safe place for women to dance alone. I told him I wasn't there to dance with gay men.

He asked me if I was attracted to men, and I was all, "Er, not really..."

I expected him to say something insensitive because God forgive me, I looked at him and thought religious fundamentalist - you have to keep in mind that many cab drivers will not even do pick-ups at the gay bar here - but instead, he went into this spiel about how he could totally understand how women would be attracted to other women because HE was so attracted to women, and told me that it didn't really matter what gender a person was as long as they were good together and having fun. Oral sex, kissing, touching, it's all good.

He told me he thought women dated other women because men didn't treat them as well as they deserved. I agreed on that front and said that as badly as I had seen some men treat some of the women I know personally, I wouldn't blame them for switching teams. I assured him that wasn't the case in my case, though. I'm just wired that way.

He asked me if sex was better with a man or a woman (um, PERSONAL question much?) and - although I haven't had sex with a woman - I answered woman because I KNOW that it's true.

I told him that I just didn't really feel "sparks" with men, and that it was a biological thing. He agreed it must be so, because he couldn't imagine being physically attracted to another man.

So...this is not the funniest part of the story. The funniest part is, I accidentally "butt-dialed" my house early on into this conversation...so my dad, roused from his bed at a quarter to two, got to hear the whole sordid conversation.

StarofMiyu · 2nd Oct 2011, 12:28 AM

Oh boy, damn trolll phones xD

**Gerry** · 2nd Oct 2011, 02:15 AM

WOW! That is funny... Hope you're okay with your dad hearing that at least.

But that was kind of creepy of that cab driver to be asking you so many personal questions. I guess some just make conversation to avoid an awkward silent ride but in this case it was an awkward talking ride. Lol.

RaeofLite · 2nd Oct 2011, 02:18 AM

Wow... That's definately a story to tell your future partner in the future and have them speel it off at your wedding.

I can understand where you're coming from though. We have to help change the world's prejudice one person at a time.

Mercy · 2nd Oct 2011, 04:46 AM

Nazo · 2nd Oct 2011, 05:40 AM

That sounds like something that would happen in a movie. XD

Steve712 · 2nd Oct 2011, 06:12 AM

How did he react?

Kidd · 2nd Oct 2011, 07:35 AM

Oh my god, I would just die. That was a great story though, moments like that are what win us the culture war, you know? ^_^

ANightDude · 2nd Oct 2011, 07:39 AM

You know, there was a TV show like this where they put up cameras in the cab, and the drivers talk to them and try to get some conversation going (different kinds).

There were sad ones, funny ones, happy ones, one woman gave a guy a blowjob in the backseat. You know, New York and stuff.

maverick · 2nd Oct 2011, 07:46 AM

Quote:

How did he react?

Dad: "Um...I heard you...talking to the cabbie. At first I thought you were getting pulled over but then...I didn't."

I didn't really mind discussing it with the guy...but I'll admit, a little part of me did. If I was straight, that cab driver never would have brought up things like cunnilingus to me and expected me to make civil conversation about who I like to fuck and why, as if that's all gays and lesbians talk about.

I don't really like being exoticized or fetishized for my sexual preferences. :/

heatqueen · 2nd Oct 2011, 11:32 AM

Ahahaha that made my day!

What a great reaction from the cabbie! And your dad.

Beertruck · 2nd Oct 2011, 12:17 PM

Ahahahahahah. That's the best.

Sheyceli · 2nd Oct 2011, 01:23 PM

That was a very interesting story, thanks for sharing. I would never be able to talk to some stranger like that. I'd be totally freaked out.

Zontar · 2nd Oct 2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by maverick

He asked me if sex was better with a man or a woman (um, PERSONAL question much?) and - although I haven't had sex with a woman - I answered woman because I KNOW that it's true.

I told him that I just didn't really feel "sparks" with men, and that it was a biological thing. He agreed it must be so, because he couldn't imagine being physically attracted to another man.

I thought about this same thing the other day; sex with your own gender has gotta feel better just because the both of you know precisely what you like. What do they call it...gender empathy or some shit. I guess this belongs in the "advantages of being gay" thread instead.

2nd Oct 2011, 12:24 AM	#1
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Cab driver confessions... So on the way back from the club tonight, I got a Middle-Easternish cabbie who was VERY interested in where I was coming from (I don't think he had ever done a pick-up at the gay disco before). He asked whether the club was the only club I ever went to, and I said no...that I was actually coming from the only lesbian bar in town. He told me he thought the gay bar was a very safe place for women to dance alone. I told him I wasn't there to dance with gay men. He asked me if I was attracted to men, and I was all, "Er, not really..." I expected him to say something insensitive because God forgive me, I looked at him and thought religious fundamentalist - you have to keep in mind that many cab drivers will not even do pick-ups at the gay bar here - but instead, he went into this spiel about how he could totally understand how women would be attracted to other women because HE was so attracted to women, and told me that it didn't really matter what gender a person was as long as they were good together and having fun. Oral sex, kissing, touching, it's all good. He told me he thought women dated other women because men didn't treat them as well as they deserved. I agreed on that front and said that as badly as I had seen some men treat some of the women I know personally, I wouldn't blame them for switching teams. I assured him that wasn't the case in my case, though. I'm just wired that way. He asked me if sex was better with a man or a woman (um, PERSONAL question much?) and - although I haven't had sex with a woman - I answered woman because I KNOW that it's true. I told him that I just didn't really feel "sparks" with men, and that it was a biological thing. He agreed it must be so, because he couldn't imagine being physically attracted to another man. So...this is not the funniest part of the story. The funniest part is, I accidentally "butt-dialed" my house early on into this conversation...so my dad, roused from his bed at a quarter to two, got to hear the whole sordid conversation. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

2nd Oct 2011, 12:28 AM	#2
StarofMiyu Japanese enthusiast girl Regular Member Gender: Waterbender Orientation: Asexual Panromantic Out Status: Out to whoever asks. Location: Canædia Age: 17 Posts: 209 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Cab driver confessions... Oh boy, damn trolll phones xD

2nd Oct 2011, 02:15 AM	#3
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Cab driver confessions... WOW! That is funny... Hope you're okay with your dad hearing that at least. But that was kind of creepy of that cab driver to be asking you so many personal questions. I guess some just make conversation to avoid an awkward silent ride but in this case it was an awkward talking ride. Lol. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

2nd Oct 2011, 02:18 AM	#4
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Cab driver confessions... Wow... That's definately a story to tell your future partner in the future and have them speel it off at your wedding. I can understand where you're coming from though. We have to help change the world's prejudice one person at a time. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

2nd Oct 2011, 04:46 AM	#5
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Cab driver confessions... Awh __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

2nd Oct 2011, 05:40 AM	#6
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Cab driver confessions... That sounds like something that would happen in a movie. XD __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

2nd Oct 2011, 06:12 AM	#7
Steve712 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Mostly out. Location: New Brunswick, Canada Age: 17 Posts: 1,294 Join Date: Feb 2010	Re: Cab driver confessions... How did he react? __________________ "Yet if hope has flown away / In a night, or in a day, In a vision, or in none, / Is it therefore the less gone?" - Poe

2nd Oct 2011, 07:35 AM	#8
Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Cab driver confessions... Oh my god, I would just die. That was a great story though, moments like that are what win us the culture war, you know? ^_^ __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...

2nd Oct 2011, 07:39 AM	#9
ANightDude EC's Film Moron Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Antonio, Texas Age: 17 Posts: 1,848 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Cab driver confessions... You know, there was a TV show like this where they put up cameras in the cab, and the drivers talk to them and try to get some conversation going (different kinds). There were sad ones, funny ones, happy ones, one woman gave a guy a blowjob in the backseat. You know, New York and stuff. __________________ "Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves." -- Abraham Lincoln

2nd Oct 2011, 11:32 AM	#11
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,707 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Cab driver confessions... Ahahaha that made my day! What a great reaction from the cabbie! And your dad. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

2nd Oct 2011, 12:17 PM	#12
Beertruck Drunk Homosexual Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: bromosexual Out Status: bropen! Location: new jersey Age: 24 Posts: 420 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Cab driver confessions... Ahahahahahah. That's the best.

2nd Oct 2011, 01:23 PM	#13
Sheyceli lieks Mudkipz Full Member Gender: physically female Orientation: homoromantic asexual Out Status: one friend Location: Michigan Age: 16 Posts: 541 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Cab driver confessions... That was a very interesting story, thanks for sharing. I would never be able to talk to some stranger like that. I'd be totally freaked out. __________________ "Special doesn't have many kids, so the class is very close. The family feeling is greater here than anywhere else. They call us "weirdos" and "trash", but that doesn't mean anything. Don't struggle to keep up a facade for rankings or fitting in. Just live your life to the fullest!" -T. A.

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