"I'm ok with gays, not the fairies though"

[Enaithor]

What is this argument!? Quite frankly it's ridiculous, but because of its nature, it's almost impossible to argue against as well! How do you guys normally respond when people say this?

[Steve712]

"While we're on the subject ... I'm okay with you being alive and all, but not when you talk."

[RaeofLite]

I'm ok with straight bigots, as long as they don't try to tell me I need a man, or that I'm mentally challenged.

[malachite]

I have no problem with biggots, just when they talk

[flymetothemoon]

I guess it's sort of like some people saying it's okay that you are gay. You can't help that. It's the homosexual sex that I'm not okay with. I just want to look at them and go oh...well in that case, I think it's just fine that you're straight, but man, that straight sex...it's pretty awful, so you should probably stop having it.

[Zontar]

Hey, I ain't the one missing out on their big dicks and awesome bottoming skills.

Well, actually I am, but not because I hate 'em. Flamers rule.

[RedState]

Originally Posted by Zontar

Hey, I ain't the one missing out on their big dicks and awesome bottoming skills.

Well, actually I am, but not because I hate 'em. Flamers rule.

>>>Flamers rule.

When I'm drunk at a gay bar they do come in handy

[Shmoe]

I've had some one try and argue that they "don't hate gays, They just don't want to see them". I usually just laugh at them because they sounds so silly.

[ICTOAUN]

hey kirby, youre awesome.

[sanguine]

i hate the term fairy, i find it really offensive, especially when all bigots use this to stereotype every gay male, i remember watching on youtube where this macho straight guy says how he doesnt mind gays and isnt a homophobe at all, but then completely degrades how there are many gay men out there who act like girls and telling them to butch up and stop making a bad name for all the rest, by all means in not effeminate or camp but that doesnt take away the right to be your own self!

everyone deserves to be them no matter what

Originally Posted by flymetothemoon

I guess it's sort of like some people saying it's okay that you are gay. You can't help that. It's the homosexual sex that I'm not okay with. I just want to look at them and go oh...well in that case, I think it's just fine that you're straight, but man, that straight sex...it's pretty awful, so you should probably stop having it.

i hate the fact that they even judge you about your sex life which is stupid, its not like you think about them having sex with their girlfriend or boyfriend so why do they have to be perverted and say they dont like homosexual gay sex!

in my opinion its just an excuse, a real poor one, id rather them come out and say it to my face then being all shifty about it

[Jewel]

What bothers me is that those so-called fairies are automatically associated with gays. Because I happen to know a lot of feminine guys who are not gay. And all the gays I know are actually very masculine.
Like sanguine said: everyone deserves to be themselves, no matter what.

Oh, and this is just a funny vid about how gays are more masculine than straight men:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=in9Si...eature=related
'Straight is the new gay'
LOL

[AutumnSnow]

Well, I mean, I think you may be taking it sort of the wrong way. I suppose many non-LGBT people lack understanding of the tact to express what they're actually feeling. Just about every time I've heard this argument, what my interlocutor really meant is that he doesn't like having it "shoved in his face".

When I hear the "I'm O.K. with gays, just not the fairies" argument, I ask for clarification if what he means is a distaste for those who shove their sexuality down others' throats. If it is, I politely suggest that it may simply be an inextricable personality trait and have nothing really to do with sexuality or being gay (and everyone DOES deserve to be whoever they want, any time, any where). If he really is simply bigoted against feminine gay boys, well, I just walk away. It's not worth my time.

But, uh, I wouldn't want a straight person shoving his sexuality down my throat, so why would a straight person want a gay person doing the same?

[Mad Man L]

People saying that generally are OK with the idea of gay people, they just don't like the personality which comes with it.

However, I hate the straight males who say "I love lesbians, but not gays." If a guy walked up to me and said that, I'd probably kick him in the balls. Repeatedly.

[maverick]

I'm okay with breeders, not the bigots though.

However, I hate the straight males who say "I love lesbians, but not gays." If a guy walked up to me and said that, I'd probably kick him in the balls. Repeatedly.

Even worse to me are those straight guys who (having watched too much porn) say, "I love lesbians, but only hot ones."

Um, a) "Hot" is extremely subjective, and b) what does it matter if they're hot or not, one thing they're most definitely not is attracted to you, straight boy. :/

[TheEdend]

Originally Posted by AutumnSnow

But, uh, I wouldn't want a straight person shoving his sexuality down my throat, so why would a straight person want a gay person doing the same?

I totally get what you are saying, but how exactly do you define shoving your sexuality down someone's throat? Does kissing or showing affection count? Posters around your room of the people you find good looking? Talking about the people that you like? Having shirts that state it?

If people in our society truly didn't "advertise" their sexuality then you wouldn't have posters of people kissing, calendars of "sexy" people, shirts with sexual innuendos, etc.
In our society sex sells and much of the advertisement that you see around is geared towards people's sexuality. Thinking that we should keep our sexuality "hidden" or "private" is a ridiculous concept.

[maverick]

Thinking that we should keep our sexuality "hidden" or "private" is a ridiculous concept.

^ This.

Take the issue with Leisha Hailey getting kicked off of Southwest for sharing one chaste kiss with her monogamous partner. You think it would have been an issue if she had kissed her husband? You think a flight attendant would have come over to tell her to knock it off in that case?

Many straight people would consider that kiss to be "flaunting it," yet feel perfectly entitled to things like "Mile High Clubs" for the heterosexual. So I can't kiss my partner on the plane without having the morality police step in and tell me to stop displaying affection for my partner, but heteros think it's funny and appropriate to have sex in the bathroom with theirs?

It's straight privilege. Straight up.

[AutumnSnow]

Originally Posted by TheEdend

I totally get what you are saying, but how exactly do you define shoving your sexuality down someone's throat? Does kissing or showing affection count? Posters around your room of the people you find good looking? Talking about the people that you like? Having shirts that state it?

If people in our society truly didn't "advertise" their sexuality then you wouldn't have posters of people kissing, calendars of "sexy" people, shirts with sexual innuendos, etc.
In our society sex sells and much of the advertisement that you see around is geared towards people's sexuality. Thinking that we should keep our sexuality "hidden" or "private" is a ridiculous concept.

What constitutes shoving your sexuality down someone's throat is completely subjective. I mean, consider that all people are entitled to their opinion; after all, it generally isn't THEIR fault that gay things make them uncomfortable. But that doesn't mean people should be kicked off airplane flights. I think it's only crossing the line if a similar behavior from a straight couple would also be considered inappropriate in context. Elsewise, it IS just biggotry toward ALL gays/gay couples.

[Mad Man L]

Originally Posted by AutumnSnow

What constitutes shoving your sexuality down someone's throat is completely subjective. I mean, consider that all people are entitled to their opinion; after all, it generally isn't THEIR fault that gay things make them uncomfortable. But that doesn't mean people should be kicked off airplane flights. I think it's only crossing the line if a similar behavior from a straight couple would also be considered inappropriate in context. Elsewise, it IS just biggotry toward ALL gays/gay couples.

But generally, nobody has an issue with a man and a woman holding hands, kissing etc. There is a place in Brisbane called South Bank, and part of that area is Green space - one space seems to always have couples lying down holding hands, hugging etc.

If there were two gays (of either gender, but probably more so males), they'd probably be frowned upon, harassed and even spat on. It's generally due to the large amount of 11 to 14 year olds who hate gays because 'their sex is ewwww!!!11!!!!', and that some parents may not want their kids seeing gay people because it is "unnatural".

Heteros go off screwing willy nilly and everyone laughs and gossips (and maybe aside from the girl being called a slut if she did a lot of guys) and there's no harm done. Gays go off screwing, everyone treats you like you just raped the Queen or something.

[wellhidden]

As long as it does not concern me or affect me in any way then i am fine with people being "fairies". Yea sure they can be annoying but who are you to judge?

[GuiltyConscious]

lol, I find it kinda funny.
I know it should offend me, but it really doesn't. Maybe I watch too much stand up comedy?