ever just feel uncomfortable with your attraction to someone?

[needshelp]

yesterday, i was at this little meet and i saw a couple of cute guys there but i wasn't trying to eye or stare every guy down like a piece of meat even though i was looking around. one of the guys during the meet i had my eye on the first time i entered the room where the meeting was going to take place. i didn't get a chance to see his face only the back of his head but something told me that he was probably hot. sometime when i was moving around to head to another part of the building, i got a good look at him, he was hot , i looked away from him because i felt sort of embarrassed. i kept it moving and tried to ignore everything else.


then it started to get weird, i went to the bathroom when the meeting was over and the same hot guy that i saw about a minute later goes into the bathroom and goes right next to the urinal right by me. needless to say i felt a little happy and a smile was sort of creeping across my face but at the same time the feeling of anxiety came up like "oh my god, this hot guy is right by me". here i am with all these papers in my hand and my water too, putting them down on the urinal and i'm trying to keep my composure around this hot guy that has me feeling extra embarrassed right now. it also didn't help that my cell phone started acting strange and he started laughing at that shit. i was going to talk to him a little BUT i felt real uncomfortable.

ps. i don't know if this was true because i wasn't had my eyes to my right and the guy was on the left but i think, i am not sure if he did this, this guy was kind of peaking towards my side of the urinal. you know, he was real tall so he would have. i think it was because of the cell phone. i don't know but what i do know is that my attraction towards him made me feel weird. anybody can relate?

[NoPlanB]

Doesn't every guy feel uncomfortable when another guy is using the urinal next to them? :P

[needshelp]

Originally Posted by NoPlanB

Doesn't every guy feel uncomfortable when another guy is using the urinal next to them? :P

but i'm just saying, let's say you saw a hot guy and he just happened to take a piss next to you at the urinal. you wouldn't feel a bit more uncomfortable than usual?

[lowdownweather]

Amongst all men, gay or straight, urinal etiquette is an art.

[Rooni321]

I feel like that when I accidentally hit on another girl or when another girl and I start getting 'close' but its just my nerves I guess, probably butterflies .

[Filip]

I'm wondering if there's anyone who does NOT relate?

It sounds pretty normal to me. I'm hugely self-conscious about where I'm watching (and for how long), and whether people are watching back. When you want to just take one more peek at a guy's bright blue eyes but he might just look back and see you staring, there's no way you can be entirely comfortable.

Let alone if you'd have a chance of talking. The what-if's ("what if he is gay too and is staring at me too?" "What if he finds out I stared at him and talkes offense?" etc...) are enough to make your mind overheat

Also, since we know our own thoughts, it's sometimes hard to imagine other people can't somehow sense them too. In reality, however, everyone looks at other people just to get a sense of who is where in a room, and unless you're blatantly staring for minutes at a time, will not really pick up on it.

I usually try to cultivate the thought: "hey, it's not a bad thing to appreciate nice guys. Good for him to look like he does!" (and also "yup, guess that proves I'm still gay!" )

[Mad Man L]

I avoid urinals all together, full stop. Stuff the environment, we've got enough water.

[DarkClarity]

Yep. There's this hot guy in one of my classes and sometimes I'm okay but sometimes I'm embarrased about it. Unfortunely, I think he's asexual.

[needshelp]

Originally Posted by Rooni321

I feel like that when I accidentally hit on another girl or when another girl and I start getting 'close' but its just my nerves I guess, probably butterflies .

yeah, exactly. there's nothing worse than being nervous and feeling at the same time. mixed emotions are terrible.

[Rooni321]

Originally Posted by needshelp

yeah, exactly. there's nothing worse than being nervous and feeling at the same time. mixed emotions are terrible.

Oh yes, they are just awful! I don't recall any other feeling that makes me more uncomfortable. I'm start shaking and my voice starts to quiver so it gets hard to speak or even think properly.
In other words: There's no better way to make me look weirder to other people than this

---------- Post added 7th Oct 2011 at 12:18 PM ----------

Originally Posted by Filip

I usually try to cultivate the thought: "hey, it's not a bad thing to appreciate nice guys. Good for him to look like he does!" (and also "yup, guess that proves I'm still gay!" )

Lmao! I love that train of thought, happens to me all the time! Its a relief because i never want to lose my gay ahaha