Anyone here not into hook ups?

[fiddlemiddle]

Anyone not into hook ups? Me I not into them. For me sex is supposed to be with that special person rather than an random stranger. I can understand why people are into hookups yet sex is not just the most important thing. I need the connection with someone first before. Anyone else think this way too?

[malachite]

Not a hookup guy myself. Though I won't lie I have, though never with a stranger.

I can say from exerience sex with someone you're into on physical and emtional level is pretty damn sweet

[Chouchou]

Yes, absolutely. I want my first relationship to be my only one, but I'm afraid of entering into a relationship for fear it will not work out.

Don't even mention the physical aspect, because I'm terrified of that, though I'll be willing to give it a try once the right person comes along.

[Kidd]

I'm not going to lie; I've thought about it and I've done it before, and I really regret it now. It honestly makes me feel cheap, and if I could take it back I would. I've decided that I'm just going to be a born-again virgin from this point forward.

[Owen]

It's easy to say I'd never do it when I've never been offered the opportunity, but regardless, the idea really doesn't appeal to me. When I think about sex in the abstract, what appeals to me the most is either the emotional connection, or some specific aspect of it that isn't possible without that bond.

[Zontar]

Hook-ups would be pleasurable as long as they were somewhat high-class and with someone who I actually felt attracted to.

[Lexington]

Oddly, it's only after being out of the closet for so long, and becoming very comfortable with who and what I am and what I like...that I feel I could really enjoy one-night-stands. But I'm in a committed relationship.

Lex

[Mitchell]

I am NOT into them, either

[Austin]

I can do hookups just fine.... but not with random strangers. I mean, I could enjoy it, but I don't want to do it with random strangers for fear of catching something mostly.

[Yuya]

I use to be very promiscuous when I was younger because I did not believe that I would ever find someone.

[Ben]

I think that the stigma that often comes with hooking up is something that should be reconsidered. If people are being safe and doing something that they enjoy, then I really don't think there's a problem.

I enjoy hook-ups, I think that they can be fun and exciting. And being 'that kind of person' hasn't affected my relationship at all, it's probably helped me be more adventurous and confident when loving comes. That said, I have total respect for people who save themselves for the right person, I think it's an honourable thing to do.

[Filip]

Personally, I don't think I'm the kind of guy that would enjoy one. I'm definitely not motivated enough to find one, even if I'm told I live at a minute walk of one of Belgium's premier hook-up spots.
I do also already have a problem at even standing too close to a stranger, so I can only regard the idea of being naked with a stranger as pure horror xD

In fact, while I do (very much ) like the idea of having sex eventually, it's not really a motivation for me. A benefit of being close with someone, and not something that I'd want to consciously work towards.

I do think it can work for some people, though. For example, a good friend of mine seems to get most satisfaction from hookups and is horrified by having other obligations to someone, so the occasional hookup seems like a good fit for him.

[alex2020]

Nope, I'm not into hookups.

I tried once and left after barely five minutes. We didn't even have our clothes off. I just have to have some kind of emotional connection with a guy to be able to have sex.

But hey, to each his own; I know some people who hookup a lot and enjoy that much more than being in a relationship (sort of like Filip's friend). But that's just not me.

[Allegro molto]

The idea is a huge turnoff to me. And even if I did, I'd probably wind up getting emotionally attached, even if it were a stranger.

[zeratul]

I would never do hook ups when I am sitting here and thinking about it objectively. But if offered the opportunity by a person that I'm into and have known for a while, I don't think I can resist. It's the delusion of being liked, and whims and wishes of it being more than just sex that lures me into failing to uphold my values. I'm merely a human being and even if the act of one-night-stands destroys me emotionally the next day, I can't say that I regret it and wish it never happened.

[Owen]

Originally Posted by Filip

In fact, while I do (very much ) like the idea of having sex eventually, it's not really a motivation for me. A benefit of being close with someone, and not something that I'd want to consciously work towards.

Them's my thoughts on the matter, too.

[fiddlemiddle]

Originally Posted by Owen

Them's my thoughts on the matter, too.

same here. it appears only an minority of gays out there are like that

[Messed Up]

For me, yarrrg... although I’d do it for a Jo Bro...maybe not Kevin though. He’s taken. LOL

But seriously, I feel the idea of making love to someone you love is better than the sex itself. Hooking up is okay if it’s okay for you (BE SAFE, I BEG OF YOU!) but doing the deed with a stranger doesn’t appeal to me. I wouldn’t recommend though. Any stranger can say “I’m clean”. So, unless you have telepathy you can’t tell if he’s/she’s lying and that’s a risk too risky to take.

[starfish]

Yeah it's not my thing either.

[Maddy]

I'm not a very sexual person, and can't get into the idea of sex that doesn't mean anything, because for me that would be pretty pointless - I don't have any desiret o have sex just for the sake of it. It also takes a lot for me to trust someone. There's only been once in my life I've even kissed someone who wasn't already a good friend, and she was someone I really connected with, not just a random.