Dude... Wait, what?! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

BlueFoxfireS8 · 15th Oct 2011, 04:30 AM

Haha, love my title. Anyways, hi guys, just got back to posting here so here goes...

I find that I'd feel weird if not oddly offended when I get called 'dude' or 'bro' and I just keep feeling like ughhh... and I'm not really getting as to why this is. On the other hand, I have been called ma'am or miss a lot over the phone and I feel somewhat flattered and endeared when it happens(mostly because they get it so wrong but I just don't have the heart to tell them that).

Basically, why do I feel more comfortable being addressed as female than male. I don't fancy the idea of me cross-dressing, mind you, so I don't get that 'I'm a woman' type of idea although I do like the way they move better, just that I won't make a good example of one. :P

I'm not looking for advice so I figured it should go here. I'm just asking for ideas or some kind of explanation or theory to explain me.

malachite · 15th Oct 2011, 04:54 AM

I too am often mistaken for a woman on the phone, though it annoys me and I've often shouted back: "I have a penis, dammit!"

Rinamir Mortem · 15th Oct 2011, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by malachite

I too am often mistaken for a woman on the phone, though it annoys me and I've often shouted back: "I have a penis, dammit!"

I have never liked being called dude or bro before....just sounds so slack. I would much prefer sir

SlickyPants · 15th Oct 2011, 11:26 AM

I'm the Dude. So that's what you call, you know... That, or uhh, his Dudeness, or uhh, Duder, or you know El Duderino if you're not into the whole brevity thing.

Allegro molto · 15th Oct 2011, 11:31 AM

I hate being mistaken for a woman...EVEN IN PERSON I get called "ma'am"...I mean, really. 6'2", broad shoulders, facial hair...and you STILL call me ma'am?! Admittedly, my voice is rather soft, but it's not that soft.

Also, I hate being called "bro" or "cuz" (short for cousin, for those of you who don't know), and I can't stand it when elderly people call me "son." I AM NOT YOUR SON. I don't mind "dude," and I use it all the time, even for females.

Basically, I just think it's a personality thing. Some people don't mind being called "dude" or similar words, and some people don't like it.

Noir · 15th Oct 2011, 11:33 AM

It's better than being a college-age girl and having an adult think you're a five-year old....=.= I sound like a little girl on the phone. Just like my mother, I'll probably be the type to be asked "Is your mother home?" when I'm fifty or so. xD

JudgeDredd · 15th Oct 2011, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Rinamir Mortem

Quote:

Originally Posted by malachite

I too am often mistaken for a woman on the phone, though it annoys me and I've often shouted back: "I have a penis, dammit!"

I have never liked being called dude or bro before....just sounds so slack. I would much prefer sir

Yeah I hate being called dude or bro. It almost sounds unintelligent. Sir sounds way better

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Quote:

Originally Posted by SlickyPants

I'm the Dude. So that's what you call, you know... That, or uhh, his Dudeness, or uhh, Duder, or you know El Duderino if you're not into the whole brevity thing.

Awesome! Love that movie

DarkClarity · 15th Oct 2011, 11:36 AM

Never been addressed as female before but maybe it's just because to some people you sound like a woman. I don't mind being called dude. I hate "bro", "bruv", "blood" and I hate most of all being called son. I'm not your son. I'm not your bruv. Don't f

ing call me that.

15th Oct 2011, 04:30 AM	#1
BlueFoxfireS8 Unstable Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I took a wrong turn somewhere. Location: Manila, PH Age: 19 Posts: 46 Join Date: Jun 2011	Dude... Wait, what?! Haha, love my title. Anyways, hi guys, just got back to posting here so here goes... I find that I'd feel weird if not oddly offended when I get called 'dude' or 'bro' and I just keep feeling like ughhh... and I'm not really getting as to why this is. On the other hand, I have been called ma'am or miss a lot over the phone and I feel somewhat flattered and endeared when it happens(mostly because they get it so wrong but I just don't have the heart to tell them that). Basically, why do I feel more comfortable being addressed as female than male. I don't fancy the idea of me cross-dressing, mind you, so I don't get that 'I'm a woman' type of idea although I do like the way they move better, just that I won't make a good example of one. :P I'm not looking for advice so I figured it should go here. I'm just asking for ideas or some kind of explanation or theory to explain me.

15th Oct 2011, 04:54 AM	#2
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Dude... Wait, what?! I too am often mistaken for a woman on the phone, though it annoys me and I've often shouted back: "I have a penis, dammit!" __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

15th Oct 2011, 11:26 AM	#4
SlickyPants EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Winnipeg, MB, Canada Age: 26 Posts: 542 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Dude... Wait, what?! I'm the Dude. So that's what you call, you know... That, or uhh, his Dudeness, or uhh, Duder, or you know El Duderino if you're not into the whole brevity thing.

15th Oct 2011, 11:31 AM	#5
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,334 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Dude... Wait, what?! I hate being mistaken for a woman...EVEN IN PERSON I get called "ma'am"...I mean, really. 6'2", broad shoulders, facial hair...and you STILL call me ma'am?! Admittedly, my voice is rather soft, but it's not that soft. Also, I hate being called "bro" or "cuz" (short for cousin, for those of you who don't know), and I can't stand it when elderly people call me "son." I AM NOT YOUR SON. I don't mind "dude," and I use it all the time, even for females. Basically, I just think it's a personality thing. Some people don't mind being called "dude" or similar words, and some people don't like it. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

15th Oct 2011, 11:33 AM	#6
Noir EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A select few Location: Missing Age: 18 Posts: 361 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Dude... Wait, what?! It's better than being a college-age girl and having an adult think you're a five-year old....=.= I sound like a little girl on the phone. Just like my mother, I'll probably be the type to be asked "Is your mother home?" when I'm fifty or so. xD __________________ The opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

15th Oct 2011, 11:36 AM	#8
DarkClarity Just a miserable pile of secrets. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 4 Bisexual. Out Status: Not out at all Location: England, UK Age: 17 Posts: 1,025 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Dude... Wait, what?! Never been addressed as female before but maybe it's just because to some people you sound like a woman. I don't mind being called dude. I hate "bro", "bruv", "blood" and I hate most of all being called son. I'm not your son. I'm not your bruv. Don't fing call me that. __________________ I'm not a human being. I am merely a product of capital. I solely exist to carry out the will of capital. I will work, comsume and die all in order to preserve the status quo, to preserve inequality, famine, poverty and injustice, to preserve individualism and materialism, to preserve Capitalism. Last edited by DarkClarity; 15th Oct 2011 at 11:40 AM..

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