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Sethrowe · 24th Oct 2011, 07:20 PM

There is this guy in my class who is clearly, without a doubt, as gay as it comes. I asked this girl if she thought he was gay, she said of course not. Almost everyone thinks he's straight and I don't think he could possibly be any more gay. Apparently gaydars are an uncommon occurance... Do you have any gaydar stories?

Nazo · 24th Oct 2011, 07:27 PM

Hmmm...
I like to think I've got good gaydar...
Once when a new kid was being shown around the school before classes my Junior year, he walked by twice and I looked in his eyes and knew instantly he was gay. He came out to some of my friends later in the year so my suspicions were confirmed.

In my first day on campus in college I met 3 guys who I thought were gay and I have since confirmed that they are members of the LGBT club.

Lesbians, on the other hand, I have no gaydar for at all.
And I have no idea how I fare with bisexuals and transgender people or any other identities people have.

**Eric** · 24th Oct 2011, 07:33 PM

I saw Melissa Etheridge on TV once. I didn't recognize who she was and when I said that I was pretty sure she was a lesbian, her name hadn't been put up on the screen yet. Apart from having strong feelings that some other people are gay (like, people I know), she was the only instance in which what I assumed turned out to be true. Although I should add I've never technically been wrong about people.

Kidd · 24th Oct 2011, 07:47 PM

I haven't been wrong yet. You just have to know what to look for, I guess. Even the most 'masculine' gays have tells. I can't spot lesbians unless they're really obvious though.

jostle100 · 24th Oct 2011, 07:47 PM

Every since school started I always thought this Jake guy was gay. He would always walk with me to classes and put his arms around the shoulders and say I love you. Nobody knew I was gay so I just acted weirdly as if I was straight. I asked someone by my locker today and i asked him "Is Jake gay" and he replied yes and said he kissed Brennan on the lips before. That guy by my locker kids around a lot so I'm not sure if it is true or not.

RaeofLite · 24th Oct 2011, 07:50 PM

I don't have instant gaydar, but I have developed some form of it. It gets easier if I know a person, watch their body language closely etc. If they're checking out people of both sexes, the tone of their voice and gestures, eye contact, or perhaps lack of talking of past relationships may indicate their orientation.

Rooni321 · 24th Oct 2011, 08:15 PM

I only have a good gaydar if its obvious or the other girl is liking on me.
2 girls at school: I FELT someone staring at me. I got a rush of attraction coming from somewhere. When I looked in the general direction of where I felt the stare, there was a hot girl standing there smiling at me.
I later found out that both those girls are gay...like straight up lesbian lol
It was SICKKK(in a good way lol)! (:

needshelp · 24th Oct 2011, 08:43 PM

well, no. i think there's this one guy at the gym that i was at that's gay because i noticed that he was looking at one of the guys in the desk real hard with a huge smile on his face. this was the same guy that i believe was sort of watching me somewhat or gaydar had gone off on me. other than him, haven't really been paying much attention. there's been guys that i've known that act kind of feminine but that doesn't mean that they're gay. my "gaydar" really doesn't work right unless i notice something that is real obvious to the point where it's noticable.

but speaking of this thread, i'm sure that i would be the subject in other people's gaydar's stories. i've set many guys gaydars off

. yesterday, i think i set one person's gaydar off. i just gave something to one gay guy and his friend who is bisexual, i overheard them talking, giving him the

"i think he's gay" look. as soon as i saw that, i was like "oh oh". i think my coworker thinks i'm gay or he's probably gay because he keeps talking about issues in the gay community to me. i hate gaydar.

Justsomefatguy · 24th Oct 2011, 08:48 PM

I have extremely accurate gaydar, I haven't been wrong yet. Like just a week or two ago I met one of Tiny Catastrophe's friends in an Oovoo group session, I immediately IMed her to ask if her friend was bi, she said no, than her friend said yes like 5 minutes later.

Mad Man L · 25th Oct 2011, 04:55 AM

I don't really have a good gaydar. I know there's someone at my school who is definitely gay. Most of the grade suspects it, and to back it up, he started touching my leg (near my crotch) and has this "super respect" for me which developed suddenly. In fact, the only thing that changed in that time was me coming out.

So I suspect he's gay. Aside from that, my gaydar is a failure.

I can analyse someone's behaviour quite well though, so after somewhat getting to know someone, I could probably tell.

Robert · 25th Oct 2011, 04:59 AM

I suspect that everyone who I think is good looking and/or funny and charming is gay.

Thats how my gaydar works.

Sethrowe · 25th Oct 2011, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Corporal Sparks

I suspect that everyone who I think is good looking and/or funny and charming is gay.

Thats how my gaydar works.

Lol, I wish it was like that!

Alex15 · 25th Oct 2011, 05:58 AM

I know mines good when guys eye rape me (which is kinda flattering if it's just one or two people, not so much in huge groups) other then that I knew about to guys at my school and one other person who obviously is but remains to come out

Rinto · 25th Oct 2011, 06:41 AM

I'm quite good with the gaydar thing, except that I blame every single good-looking metrosexual-acting "straight" guy as gay. I just like to think they were gay; that'd be cute

thevedman · 25th Oct 2011, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by RaeofLite

perhaps lack of talking of past relationships may indicate their orientation.

I think this gives me away to anyone that I haven't actually told about my orientation...

FloatingPiano · 25th Oct 2011, 02:23 PM

I have fairly accurate gaydar. I have a friend who is transgender, and I knew he was before he even knew! lol And all my other gay friends I've be able to tell that they were gay, too.

It weird. It's just, when I look a person in the eyes sometimes I just can just tell. :P

SagaciousNJ · 25th Oct 2011, 03:13 PM

My gaydar needs calibration, but every so often I receive a flash of insight and a total certainty that the man I'm looking at isn't straight.

Anyone else get that?

Kenko · 25th Oct 2011, 09:10 PM

I'll preface my story by saying typically I don't have a really good gaydar unless it's off the scales.

At work I met someone that just joined our department. Within 10 seconds I thought to myself "He's definitely gay". I kept to myself and it seemed as though everyone else in the office was oblivious to it (making homophobic jokes, not to offend, but oblivious of us being in their presence). It's really a combination of a lisp, walk/mannerisms, and always making sexual innuendo jokes without ever once referring to a partner or current/past relationship.

Anyways one weekend I saw him at the local gay bar, and I talked to him briefly, and thought to myself "well no surprise here", but still no confirmation.

I met someone in a different department at work, (who was confirmed gay, and knew I was gay). I was talking to him when the person #1 walked by. Person #2 is like "He's gay right?" I'm like umm, I dunno. He's like "Come on look at the walk!" Over the months there was endless speculation between us but no confirmation.

One night I was at a co-ed bar with #2 and #2's boyfriend. We happen to run into #1. #2's BF at this point agrees with us "oh yeah, obviously". #2 just flat out asks him. He really tensed up, but did answer in the positive. Apparently afraid to let out the "big secret", while also apparently oblivious to the fact that he was in the company of "family" (even forgetting our previous encounter).

Revan · 25th Oct 2011, 10:44 PM

My roommate who just moved in. My bf and I walked downstairs so I could see him off and the roommate's door was open and he was chatting with his mom. Just the way he was laying on his bed and how he talked I'm like...he's gotta be gay, and the bf agreed. Turns out he has a girlfriend lol

Rinamir Mortem · 26th Oct 2011, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Revan

My roommate who just moved in. My bf and I walked downstairs so I could see him off and the roommate's door was open and he was chatting with his mom. Just the way he was laying on his bed and how he talked I'm like...he's gotta be gay, and the bf agreed. Turns out he has a girlfriend lol

You would be surprised how similar that is to one of my housemates...so confusing.

I threw my gaydar out the window. Completely useless in my opinion.

24th Oct 2011, 07:33 PM	#3
Eric EC Chat Room Mod EC Chat Mod Gender: Male Orientation: Gayyy Out Status: Open about it. Location: Ontario Age: 18 Posts: 1,374 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Gaydar stories? I saw Melissa Etheridge on TV once. I didn't recognize who she was and when I said that I was pretty sure she was a lesbian, her name hadn't been put up on the screen yet. Apart from having strong feelings that some other people are gay (like, people I know), she was the only instance in which what I assumed turned out to be true. Although I should add I've never technically been wrong about people.

24th Oct 2011, 07:47 PM	#4
Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Gaydar stories? I haven't been wrong yet. You just have to know what to look for, I guess. Even the most 'masculine' gays have tells. I can't spot lesbians unless they're really obvious though. __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...

24th Oct 2011, 07:47 PM	#5
jostle100 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 91 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? Every since school started I always thought this Jake guy was gay. He would always walk with me to classes and put his arms around the shoulders and say I love you. Nobody knew I was gay so I just acted weirdly as if I was straight. I asked someone by my locker today and i asked him "Is Jake gay" and he replied yes and said he kissed Brennan on the lips before. That guy by my locker kids around a lot so I'm not sure if it is true or not.

24th Oct 2011, 07:50 PM	#6
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gaydar stories? I don't have instant gaydar, but I have developed some form of it. It gets easier if I know a person, watch their body language closely etc. If they're checking out people of both sexes, the tone of their voice and gestures, eye contact, or perhaps lack of talking of past relationships may indicate their orientation. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

24th Oct 2011, 08:15 PM	#7
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I only have a good gaydar if its obvious or the other girl is liking on me. 2 girls at school: I FELT someone staring at me. I got a rush of attraction coming from somewhere. When I looked in the general direction of where I felt the stare, there was a hot girl standing there smiling at me. I later found out that both those girls are gay...like straight up lesbian lol It was SICKKK(in a good way lol)! (: __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

24th Oct 2011, 07:20 PM	#1
Sethrowe Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Told one person ever Posts: 33 Join Date: Oct 2011	Gaydar stories? There is this guy in my class who is clearly, without a doubt, as gay as it comes. I asked this girl if she thought he was gay, she said of course not. Almost everyone thinks he's straight and I don't think he could possibly be any more gay. Apparently gaydars are an uncommon occurance... Do you have any gaydar stories?

24th Oct 2011, 07:27 PM	#2
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Gaydar stories? Hmmm... I like to think I've got good gaydar... Once when a new kid was being shown around the school before classes my Junior year, he walked by twice and I looked in his eyes and knew instantly he was gay. He came out to some of my friends later in the year so my suspicions were confirmed. In my first day on campus in college I met 3 guys who I thought were gay and I have since confirmed that they are members of the LGBT club. Lesbians, on the other hand, I have no gaydar for at all. And I have no idea how I fare with bisexuals and transgender people or any other identities people have. __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

24th Oct 2011, 08:43 PM	#8
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? well, no. i think there's this one guy at the gym that i was at that's gay because i noticed that he was looking at one of the guys in the desk real hard with a huge smile on his face. this was the same guy that i believe was sort of watching me somewhat or gaydar had gone off on me. other than him, haven't really been paying much attention. there's been guys that i've known that act kind of feminine but that doesn't mean that they're gay. my "gaydar" really doesn't work right unless i notice something that is real obvious to the point where it's noticable. but speaking of this thread, i'm sure that i would be the subject in other people's gaydar's stories. i've set many guys gaydars off . yesterday, i think i set one person's gaydar off. i just gave something to one gay guy and his friend who is bisexual, i overheard them talking, giving him the "i think he's gay" look. as soon as i saw that, i was like "oh oh". i think my coworker thinks i'm gay or he's probably gay because he keeps talking about issues in the gay community to me. i hate gaydar.

24th Oct 2011, 08:48 PM	#9
Justsomefatguy Tiny Catastrophe's Chauffeur Regular Member Gender: Haha....I have dangly parts Orientation: Human? You're good. Out Status: Peeking through the keyhole Location: New York/Maryland Posts: 47 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I have extremely accurate gaydar, I haven't been wrong yet. Like just a week or two ago I met one of Tiny Catastrophe's friends in an Oovoo group session, I immediately IMed her to ask if her friend was bi, she said no, than her friend said yes like 5 minutes later.

25th Oct 2011, 04:55 AM	#10
Mad Man L EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Brisbane, Australia Age: 16 Posts: 1,244 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I don't really have a good gaydar. I know there's someone at my school who is definitely gay. Most of the grade suspects it, and to back it up, he started touching my leg (near my crotch) and has this "super respect" for me which developed suddenly. In fact, the only thing that changed in that time was me coming out. So I suspect he's gay. Aside from that, my gaydar is a failure. I can analyse someone's behaviour quite well though, so after somewhat getting to know someone, I could probably tell. __________________ I really should get a proper signature...

25th Oct 2011, 04:59 AM	#11
Robert EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: World Posts: 971 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I suspect that everyone who I think is good looking and/or funny and charming is gay. Thats how my gaydar works. __________________ "I am like a mirror that dares not be what nature made it, but feels obligated, always, to reflect what surrounds it." - Frederick II of Prussia. "England is a Prison" - Gerrard Winstanley

25th Oct 2011, 05:58 AM	#13
Alex15 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I think guys are hot Out Status: Siblings, cousin, 3 others Location: Surrounded by the Old Repulican Vangard (Texas) Age: 22 Posts: 95 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I know mines good when guys eye rape me (which is kinda flattering if it's just one or two people, not so much in huge groups) other then that I knew about to guys at my school and one other person who obviously is but remains to come out

25th Oct 2011, 06:41 AM	#14
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I'm quite good with the gaydar thing, except that I blame every single good-looking metrosexual-acting "straight" guy as gay. I just like to think they were gay; that'd be cute __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile.

25th Oct 2011, 02:23 PM	#16
FloatingPiano Little Monster Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I like girls. :) Out Status: Some people Location: Maryland Age: 17 Posts: 337 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? I have fairly accurate gaydar. I have a friend who is transgender, and I knew he was before he even knew! lol And all my other gay friends I've be able to tell that they were gay, too. It weird. It's just, when I look a person in the eyes sometimes I just can just tell. :P __________________ "If you don't have any shadows, you're not standing in the light." ~Lady Gaga

25th Oct 2011, 03:13 PM	#17
SagaciousNJ Admiral of the Ocean Sea Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Parents, 1 brother and 2 Friends Location: Fort Lauderale Age: 21 Posts: 36 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Gaydar stories? My gaydar needs calibration, but every so often I receive a flash of insight and a total certainty that the man I'm looking at isn't straight. Anyone else get that?

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25th Oct 2011, 09:10 PM	#18
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Gaydar stories? I'll preface my story by saying typically I don't have a really good gaydar unless it's off the scales. At work I met someone that just joined our department. Within 10 seconds I thought to myself "He's definitely gay". I kept to myself and it seemed as though everyone else in the office was oblivious to it (making homophobic jokes, not to offend, but oblivious of us being in their presence). It's really a combination of a lisp, walk/mannerisms, and always making sexual innuendo jokes without ever once referring to a partner or current/past relationship. Anyways one weekend I saw him at the local gay bar, and I talked to him briefly, and thought to myself "well no surprise here", but still no confirmation. I met someone in a different department at work, (who was confirmed gay, and knew I was gay). I was talking to him when the person #1 walked by. Person #2 is like "He's gay right?" I'm like umm, I dunno. He's like "Come on look at the walk!" Over the months there was endless speculation between us but no confirmation. One night I was at a co-ed bar with #2 and #2's boyfriend. We happen to run into #1. #2's BF at this point agrees with us "oh yeah, obviously". #2 just flat out asks him. He really tensed up, but did answer in the positive. Apparently afraid to let out the "big secret", while also apparently oblivious to the fact that he was in the company of "family" (even forgetting our previous encounter). __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

25th Oct 2011, 10:44 PM	#19
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Gaydar stories? My roommate who just moved in. My bf and I walked downstairs so I could see him off and the roommate's door was open and he was chatting with his mom. Just the way he was laying on his bed and how he talked I'm like...he's gotta be gay, and the bf agreed. Turns out he has a girlfriend lol __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.