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rocking23 · 27th Oct 2011, 05:12 PM

Hey!
I'm just on the search for some opinions here:

Right now I live in residence at my university, but next year I'm 90% going to have to get my own place. I just don't feel into the whole roommate thing. I know we could have our own rooms and all, but I'm more of a person who likes to be by themselves, but I'm not a loner (if that makes sense).

My parents would pay my rent, but it wouldn't be able to be a whole lot more than the residence rent.

Because of that, I'm looking at Bachelor Apartments!

What are your opinions/experiences/rants on Bachelor Apartments??

Thanks

Revan · 27th Oct 2011, 06:14 PM

Probably quite good for having a friend over

No I'm just joking. Personally I think it's your own space, the only downside is you can get lonely pretty easy.

Blkrsn · 28th Oct 2011, 01:33 AM

I've lived alone for 2 years now with my cats... it gets lonely, but so much better then living with a roommate. Good luck finding a place!

**Filip** · 28th Oct 2011, 02:45 AM

I'm pretty happy with my own setup at the moment. It's pretty tiny (as my mom never fails to point out when she's over), but I have a small living room with a desk and a comfortable chair, a bedroom that is basically just big enough to fit a bed in, and a kitchen with just enough room to prepare anything I have the skill to cook up.

Main benefit for me is the total privacy. If I want to read a book or watch a movie or hang around on the internet undisturbed, I can. As I need two or three hours of total privacy a day just to get my thoughts in order, I couldn't live without that. (actually, even if I lived with a boyfriend I would probably insist on having a spacious enough place to not be forced to sit on each other's lap)

Also, it does make it easier to follow your own schedule. No waiting for showers/getting angry about the mess/deciding who cooks.
Though that's also one of the drawbacks: no shared responsability. Everything falls squarely on your shoulders. It's best to adapt a good schedule, or you end up eating instant noodles most evenings, while a whole week's worth of dishes piles up in your sink behind you and you have to do them at 11PM on friday

Another drawback: you do want to make sure you have a decent landlord. If you're rooming together and something is amiss, you can present a unified front. If you live alone and don't have a lot of contact with the guys/girls in other appartments, it's much harder to get anything done if you have a bad landlord.

Social life does need a bit more proactiveness. No whacky spur-of-the-moment thing is going to happen with a roommate barging in and dragging you along (or you dragging them along). If I didn't actively arrange things with friends, I think I would sit in my room all day, every day (well, excepting work). I actually did do that at first. So there is a balance you want to strike between enjoying your privacy and not drifting away from friends.

All in all, though, for me the benefits massively outweigh the drawbacks. After a year of it, I got most of the schedule for daily chores right, and it's rare for me not to have any social activities in a week, even if I have to actively make those happen.

rocking23 · 28th Oct 2011, 05:11 PM

Wow! Thanks so much for the posts guys, definitely gives me some things to think about. But I'm definitely still leaning to having my own private place!

Revan · 28th Oct 2011, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Blkrsn

I've lived alone for 2 years now with my cats... it gets lonely, but so much better then living with a roommate. Good luck finding a place!

Hehe sorry...2 cats, crazy cat lady?

I'm just teasing of course Blkrsn

I just kinda had to. But yeah I may live alone some day...dunno though. Depends where my relationship goes lol

27th Oct 2011, 05:12 PM	#1
rocking23 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 19 Posts: 452 Join Date: May 2008	Bachelor / Studio Apartments Hey! I'm just on the search for some opinions here: Right now I live in residence at my university, but next year I'm 90% going to have to get my own place. I just don't feel into the whole roommate thing. I know we could have our own rooms and all, but I'm more of a person who likes to be by themselves, but I'm not a loner (if that makes sense). My parents would pay my rent, but it wouldn't be able to be a whole lot more than the residence rent. Because of that, I'm looking at Bachelor Apartments! What are your opinions/experiences/rants on Bachelor Apartments?? Thanks

27th Oct 2011, 06:14 PM	#2
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Bachelor / Studio Apartments Probably quite good for having a friend over No I'm just joking. Personally I think it's your own space, the only downside is you can get lonely pretty easy. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

28th Oct 2011, 01:33 AM	#3
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Bachelor / Studio Apartments I've lived alone for 2 years now with my cats... it gets lonely, but so much better then living with a roommate. Good luck finding a place!

28th Oct 2011, 02:45 AM	#4
Filip Cecile's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Belgium, EU Age: 28 Posts: 3,366 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Bachelor / Studio Apartments I'm pretty happy with my own setup at the moment. It's pretty tiny (as my mom never fails to point out when she's over), but I have a small living room with a desk and a comfortable chair, a bedroom that is basically just big enough to fit a bed in, and a kitchen with just enough room to prepare anything I have the skill to cook up. Main benefit for me is the total privacy. If I want to read a book or watch a movie or hang around on the internet undisturbed, I can. As I need two or three hours of total privacy a day just to get my thoughts in order, I couldn't live without that. (actually, even if I lived with a boyfriend I would probably insist on having a spacious enough place to not be forced to sit on each other's lap) Also, it does make it easier to follow your own schedule. No waiting for showers/getting angry about the mess/deciding who cooks. Though that's also one of the drawbacks: no shared responsability. Everything falls squarely on your shoulders. It's best to adapt a good schedule, or you end up eating instant noodles most evenings, while a whole week's worth of dishes piles up in your sink behind you and you have to do them at 11PM on friday Another drawback: you do want to make sure you have a decent landlord. If you're rooming together and something is amiss, you can present a unified front. If you live alone and don't have a lot of contact with the guys/girls in other appartments, it's much harder to get anything done if you have a bad landlord. Social life does need a bit more proactiveness. No whacky spur-of-the-moment thing is going to happen with a roommate barging in and dragging you along (or you dragging them along). If I didn't actively arrange things with friends, I think I would sit in my room all day, every day (well, excepting work). I actually did do that at first. So there is a balance you want to strike between enjoying your privacy and not drifting away from friends. All in all, though, for me the benefits massively outweigh the drawbacks. After a year of it, I got most of the schedule for daily chores right, and it's rare for me not to have any social activities in a week, even if I have to actively make those happen. __________________ To the world, you're somebody, but to somebody, you're the world...

28th Oct 2011, 05:11 PM	#5
rocking23 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 19 Posts: 452 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Bachelor / Studio Apartments Wow! Thanks so much for the posts guys, definitely gives me some things to think about. But I'm definitely still leaning to having my own private place!