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Rooni321 · 8th Nov 2011, 10:23 PM

Do you all have anything you could absolutely NOT deal with in a partner?

I don't have many but I guess bad mannerisms, bad feet, and close mindedness would be some.

Oh and male parts. HA!

NoPlanB · 8th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM

I'm a Christian so I'd prefer my partner to be so too, but they still should be open-minded.

I wouldn't be able to date anyone who smokes or drinks. That's just not attractive to me at all.

Colton · 8th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM

Smoking x_x ew ew ew ew ew ew ew.

alex2020 · 8th Nov 2011, 11:14 PM

I really can't stand self-obsessed, egotistical people. Also, close-mindedness is not something I like. Smoking is unappealing at best, but it wouldn't quite be a deal breaker.

Chouchou · 8th Nov 2011, 11:35 PM

Smoking, drinking (beyond mere social or casual drinking), close-mindedness, lack of curiosity, irrational dislike of children, irrational dislike of pets, self-aggrandizing behavior, self-righteous airs, bossiness, obsession with reality TV

Yuya · 8th Nov 2011, 11:45 PM

Few months ago I had an online date site conversation with a guy that grilled me about my job, my years of experience, whether i had a car. I felt like I was having an interview rather than a conversation. Total turn off.

**Mogget** · 8th Nov 2011, 11:47 PM

I probably couldn't date someone who was passionately into conservative or libertarian politics. I wouldn't refuse to, but I suspect that our beliefs would clash too strongly for us to work together (sorry, RedState, our love can never be). I won't date someone who isn't into cuddling and physical affection. I couldn't date someone who was opposed to intellectual pursuits (uninterested, maybe, but not opposed). I could date someone who was very neat, but he probably couldn't date me.

Physically, there are certain things that are initial turn-offs, but I suspect if I got to know and like the person, things could change. The guy I'd most like to be in a relationship with is not really my type physically.

Rinto · 9th Nov 2011, 04:41 AM

I really don't want a very self-centered freak that's just too conscious of his/her self. I'd hate him/her if he/she acts like a mascot, overly extroverted and yeah, if he/she is too judgmental and biased towards things...>.>

ShebbsIsAwesome · 9th Nov 2011, 05:17 AM

Can't be two different people-sweet with you and then a total D-Bag to other people/with their friends.

Shevanel · 9th Nov 2011, 06:09 AM

Vegetarianism

Allegro molto · 9th Nov 2011, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Shevanel

Vegetarianism

Oh, Joey xD

For me, smoking, doing drugs (especially weed and ecstasy...that broke up my family), signs of violent temper, excessive drinking, super health-obsessed people (I'm okay with vegetarians or vegans; just don't try to force me into your lifestyle

), recklessness, pets (sorry, I have REALLY bad dog/cat fur allergies...plus, I don't really like animals), people who want kids (I've helped raise ENOUGH children...), men who are overly passionate about politics and/or certain causes, men who don't respect my love of Classical music (yeah, I'm being serious), men who don't respect my love for the fine arts in general, and lastly, MEN WHO DON'T RESPECT ME.

Shevanel · 9th Nov 2011, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Allegro molto

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Originally Posted by Shevanel

Vegetarianism

Oh, Joey xD

Whaaaaaaaaaat? It's true!

Nykoru · 9th Nov 2011, 07:46 AM

Add another closemindedness; especially when it comes to speciesism. If you can't get over the fact that humans aren't the be-all and then end-all, then you won't get very far with me. Also, vag-obsession. I shouldn't have one, so don't try to make it the focus of the relationship. Besides, sex shouldn't be a day-to-day activity without significant meaning. Act like it is, and you get squished.

Zontar · 9th Nov 2011, 07:58 AM

Prudish, in particular religiously prudish. Waiting for marriage. Not liking or wanting sex in general.

A close second is shyness.

Morphim · 9th Nov 2011, 08:43 AM

If he's not vegan or vegetarian, it won't work sorry. Smoking is an absolute no as well.

Drowzee64 · 9th Nov 2011, 09:07 AM

-Must be atheist like me. I'm very set on my lack of belief, and I don't want any drama down the line. I might accept someone of an atheist religion.
-Has cheated on other partners in the past
-Looking for excessive amounts of sex. No matter how much I like you, at some point doing you is going to start feeling like a chore. Go to the grocery store, take out the garbage, jack off sexually needy boyfriend who can't fucking do it himself, do laundry.
-Jerkasses and elitists

**Lexington** · 9th Nov 2011, 10:50 AM

Abusiveness, or a lack of a sense of humor. Everything else I'll at least consider.

Lex

malachite · 9th Nov 2011, 10:56 AM

IF they're no fun or full of themselves no thanks

TwistyRainbow · 9th Nov 2011, 10:57 AM

They like to play mind games (with me or anyone else). I'm direct and empathic person, and that kind of stuff seriously makes me physically sick.

Kidd · 9th Nov 2011, 12:33 PM

I will never date a gay republican or a smoker, or someone who has an extensive criminal record.

Everything else is negotiable.

8th Nov 2011, 10:23 PM	#1
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Deal Breakers Do you all have anything you could absolutely NOT deal with in a partner? I don't have many but I guess bad mannerisms, bad feet, and close mindedness would be some. Oh and male parts. HA! __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

8th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM	#2
NoPlanB This is a warning, a courtesy call Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homoromantic asexual Out Status: Still in the closet Location: Michigan Age: 20 Posts: 289 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Deal Breakers I'm a Christian so I'd prefer my partner to be so too, but they still should be open-minded. I wouldn't be able to date anyone who smokes or drinks. That's just not attractive to me at all. __________________ We all want to be somebody We just need a taste of who we are We all want to be somebody We're willing to go, but not that far

8th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM	#3
Colton Hit the Lights Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Any one who wants to know Location: California Age: 15 Posts: 1,210 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Deal Breakers Smoking x_x ew ew ew ew ew ew ew. __________________ "It's always been about me, myself, and I. I thought relationships were nothing but a waste of time. I never wanted to be anybody's other half. I was happy saying I know love, it wouldn't last." <3

8th Nov 2011, 11:14 PM	#4
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Deal Breakers I really can't stand self-obsessed, egotistical people. Also, close-mindedness is not something I like. Smoking is unappealing at best, but it wouldn't quite be a deal breaker. __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

8th Nov 2011, 11:35 PM	#5
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Deal Breakers Smoking, drinking (beyond mere social or casual drinking), close-mindedness, lack of curiosity, irrational dislike of children, irrational dislike of pets, self-aggrandizing behavior, self-righteous airs, bossiness, obsession with reality TV

8th Nov 2011, 11:45 PM	#6
Yuya Scout Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends Location: Melbourne Age: 27 Posts: 588 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Deal Breakers Few months ago I had an online date site conversation with a guy that grilled me about my job, my years of experience, whether i had a car. I felt like I was having an interview rather than a conversation. Total turn off.

8th Nov 2011, 11:47 PM	#7
Mogget Mad and dead as nails EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 or 6. It varies Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Alaska Age: 22 Posts: 2,024 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Deal Breakers I probably couldn't date someone who was passionately into conservative or libertarian politics. I wouldn't refuse to, but I suspect that our beliefs would clash too strongly for us to work together (sorry, RedState, our love can never be). I won't date someone who isn't into cuddling and physical affection. I couldn't date someone who was opposed to intellectual pursuits (uninterested, maybe, but not opposed). I could date someone who was very neat, but he probably couldn't date me. Physically, there are certain things that are initial turn-offs, but I suspect if I got to know and like the person, things could change. The guy I'd most like to be in a relationship with is not really my type physically. __________________ "As to what I am, I once was many things but now I am only several." - Mogget in Sabriel by Garth Nix "The world is quiet here." - VFD

9th Nov 2011, 04:41 AM	#8
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Deal Breakers I really don't want a very self-centered freak that's just too conscious of his/her self. I'd hate him/her if he/she acts like a mascot, overly extroverted and yeah, if he/she is too judgmental and biased towards things...>.> __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile.

9th Nov 2011, 05:17 AM	#9
ShebbsIsAwesome EC Addict Full Member Gender: Florida Orientation: Out to anybody who cares to ask, Facebook, Family Out Status: Kinsey 6 Location: Male Age: 17 Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Deal Breakers Can't be two different people-sweet with you and then a total D-Bag to other people/with their friends.

9th Nov 2011, 06:09 AM	#10
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Deal Breakers Vegetarianism __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

9th Nov 2011, 07:46 AM	#13
Nykoru Rawrawrawr! Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: -flails- I don't know anymore! Out Status: Some people Location: Winnipeg -> Saskatoon Age: 20 Posts: 304 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Deal Breakers Add another closemindedness; especially when it comes to speciesism. If you can't get over the fact that humans aren't the be-all and then end-all, then you won't get very far with me. Also, vag-obsession. I shouldn't have one, so don't try to make it the focus of the relationship. Besides, sex shouldn't be a day-to-day activity without significant meaning. Act like it is, and you get squished.

9th Nov 2011, 07:58 AM	#14
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,539 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Deal Breakers Prudish, in particular religiously prudish. Waiting for marriage. Not liking or wanting sex in general. A close second is shyness. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

9th Nov 2011, 08:43 AM	#15
Morphim EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ♂ + ♂ Out Status: All but family Location: Kerava, Finland Age: 18 Posts: 438 Join Date: May 2010	Re: Deal Breakers If he's not vegan or vegetarian, it won't work sorry. Smoking is an absolute no as well. __________________

9th Nov 2011, 09:07 AM	#16
Drowzee64 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone that matters except for extended family. Location: Houston, TX Posts: 114 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Deal Breakers -Must be atheist like me. I'm very set on my lack of belief, and I don't want any drama down the line. I might accept someone of an atheist religion. -Has cheated on other partners in the past -Looking for excessive amounts of sex. No matter how much I like you, at some point doing you is going to start feeling like a chore. Go to the grocery store, take out the garbage, jack off sexually needy boyfriend who can't fucking do it himself, do laundry. -Jerkasses and elitists

9th Nov 2011, 10:50 AM	#17
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Deal Breakers Abusiveness, or a lack of a sense of humor. Everything else I'll at least consider. Lex

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malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Deal Breakers IF they're no fun or full of themselves no thanks __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

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TwistyRainbow Co-Captain - Rainbow Nerd Brigade Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homosexual, homoromantic Out Status: The closet's in ashes Location: From St. Louis, MO; go to school in Nashville, TN Age: 20 Posts: 204 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Deal Breakers They like to play mind games (with me or anyone else). I'm direct and empathic person, and that kind of stuff seriously makes me physically sick. __________________ ♪You taste just like glitter mixed with rock and roll. I like you a lot, lot, think you're really hot, hot♪ ♪Together we'll find a way to make pure love work in a dirty way♪

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Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Deal Breakers I will never date a gay republican or a smoker, or someone who has an extensive criminal record. Everything else is negotiable. __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...