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Daisy1 · 9th Nov 2011, 10:05 PM

Just found out my straight crush is sleeping with some guy, and I'm surprised by the sense of loss I feel. I knew it was unattainable, but she was honestly the hottest woman I've ever met, and I just enjoyed being around her. I guess it ruins the fantasy.

Rooni321 · 9th Nov 2011, 10:15 PM

Oh god I see that all the time.
And usually the guy is NOT worthy.

midwestgirl89 · 9th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM

I'm sorry.... Straight crushes suck.. But don't worry, you'll find someone way better and way hotter.

kiersten · 9th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM

I can sympathize. There's a girl I go to college with I'm attracted to who jokes all the time about becoming a lesbian if it doesn't work out with her bf but then goes on & on about him & how much she love him, etc. Especially since I came out to her now. She likes hanging out with me & everything still & we talk all the time & sit next to each other in all of our classes together, it's just when the conversation goes over to her bf, I feel just a bit depressed....

Jess142 · 10th Nov 2011, 02:57 AM

that sucks

on the flip side, you gotta think about what your friend wants as well..if she's happy try and be happy for her? idk babe but i've been in the same situation and i get how hard it is, maybe it's best that she stays as just a friend?

Daisy1 · 10th Nov 2011, 05:17 AM

Thanks guys

Daisy1 · 10th Nov 2011, 01:15 PM

Further reflection: I think part of why I'm disappointed is because I'm embarrassed to have become so attached. I told myself that I knew she was straight and I just appreciated getting to look at her and be around her in a completely "rational," distant sense, while it was actually a bit deeper than that.

Anyone else fall into that trap?

9th Nov 2011, 10:05 PM	#1
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Straight crush bummer Just found out my straight crush is sleeping with some guy, and I'm surprised by the sense of loss I feel. I knew it was unattainable, but she was honestly the hottest woman I've ever met, and I just enjoyed being around her. I guess it ruins the fantasy.

9th Nov 2011, 10:15 PM	#2
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer Oh god I see that all the time. And usually the guy is NOT worthy. __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

9th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM	#3
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer I'm sorry.... Straight crushes suck.. But don't worry, you'll find someone way better and way hotter.

9th Nov 2011, 10:27 PM	#4
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer I can sympathize. There's a girl I go to college with I'm attracted to who jokes all the time about becoming a lesbian if it doesn't work out with her bf but then goes on & on about him & how much she love him, etc. Especially since I came out to her now. She likes hanging out with me & everything still & we talk all the time & sit next to each other in all of our classes together, it's just when the conversation goes over to her bf, I feel just a bit depressed.... __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

10th Nov 2011, 02:57 AM	#5
Jess142 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone but my parents Location: Brisbane Age: 16 Posts: 23 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer that sucks on the flip side, you gotta think about what your friend wants as well..if she's happy try and be happy for her? idk babe but i've been in the same situation and i get how hard it is, maybe it's best that she stays as just a friend? __________________ "we all can only be who we are, no more, no less". <3 <3

10th Nov 2011, 05:17 AM	#6
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer Thanks guys

10th Nov 2011, 01:15 PM	#7
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Straight crush bummer Further reflection: I think part of why I'm disappointed is because I'm embarrassed to have become so attached. I told myself that I knew she was straight and I just appreciated getting to look at her and be around her in a completely "rational," distant sense, while it was actually a bit deeper than that. Anyone else fall into that trap?

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