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midwestgirl89 · 13th Nov 2011, 07:09 PM

Have kids asked you questions about boyfriends/girlfriends and you don't know what to say? My cousins (girl cousins) are 5, 10, and 12. They keep asking me "Do you have a boyfriend?" and "Who do you like?" They always talk about boyfriends, boys, etc.

Today we were at a restaurant and there was an attractive male waiter. My 10 year old cousin said "Oooooh you like him, don't you?" The waiter was standing nearby but was turned around. I doubt he heard. I was like "...No *laughs awkwardly* do youuuu?" She then turns around later and says "He's looking at you because he likes you."

Then my 5 year old cousin twirled my hair and said "He's (the waiter) going to think you're beeeaauuutifull." I didn't know what to say.

My 12 year old cousin often asks if I have a boyfriend. And why don't I have a boyfriend.

I'm not out to my family so I don't know what to say. It's super awkward lol to be asked questions about guys when I don't like them. I'll never have a boyfriend so I'm like... sorry kiddos.

Do you all have this happen to you? What do you say? lolz. Kids are so silly and ask such intrusive questions.

Aeon Magus · 13th Nov 2011, 08:02 PM

Hello, Midwestgirl.

I came out several years ago to family that I felt needed to know. All my cousins know... one of which was 8 at the time. She understands completely what my "deal" is in regards to what gender I prefer to have as a partner. Although, on the down side, she has started calling me AUNTIE Alex ever since then.

If you feel your cousins need to know, you could either always say "No, I don't like him" to their suggestions of boyfriends and whatnot, or you could break it to them gently in a way they'll understand (of course, you'll probably need their parents' consent, some people don't like having their kids "influenced"... Meh).

Good luck.

thedreamwatch · 13th Nov 2011, 08:07 PM

This is always an awkward situation...

My suggestion is that you keep dodging it like you're doing now--until you come out to your family.

Other than that, I'm drawing a blank--the same blank I was drawing before I was fully out.

Danny19 · 13th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM

oh yea.. i get that a lot.. my cousins always want to know about gfs and who i like. but i dont answer or i just say no one.

Rooni321 · 14th Nov 2011, 04:17 AM

Well my sister will storm out of the room if I mention getting a gf or wife(especially when I'm referring to Sara Quin). Lol!
Does that count?

midwestgirl89 · 14th Nov 2011, 05:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rooni321

Well my sister will storm out of the room if I mention getting a gf or wife(especially when I'm referring to Sara Quin). Lol!
Does that count?

Does your sister want to marry her so she gets jealous or does she not like you wanting to marry girls? lol.

caughtbywitness · 14th Nov 2011, 08:43 AM

It's just awkward, can't really get round it unfortunately.

Drowzee64 · 14th Nov 2011, 01:34 PM

Out of all the intrusive things my many little cousins ask me, surprisingly I don't remember them ever asking if I liked a girl.

Family members and family friends ages 40 and up tend to ask me if I have a girlfriend A LOT, though. I remember my Memaw (southern speak for grandma :P) once asked my dad if I was into the girls yet, and he said no, and she said "They always come around!". It made me feel uncomfortable but it's funny in hindsight.

Rinto · 15th Nov 2011, 05:34 AM

My cousins are always like that. Fortunately, I can say something. The only thing is that they get too invasive sometimes.

13th Nov 2011, 07:09 PM	#1
midwestgirl89 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Interested in Women Out Status: Some people Age: 23 Posts: 559 Join Date: Jul 2011	Kids' Questions.. Have kids asked you questions about boyfriends/girlfriends and you don't know what to say? My cousins (girl cousins) are 5, 10, and 12. They keep asking me "Do you have a boyfriend?" and "Who do you like?" They always talk about boyfriends, boys, etc. Today we were at a restaurant and there was an attractive male waiter. My 10 year old cousin said "Oooooh you like him, don't you?" The waiter was standing nearby but was turned around. I doubt he heard. I was like "...No laughs awkwardly do youuuu?" She then turns around later and says "He's looking at you because he likes you." Then my 5 year old cousin twirled my hair and said "He's (the waiter) going to think you're beeeaauuutifull." I didn't know what to say. My 12 year old cousin often asks if I have a boyfriend. And why don't I have a boyfriend. I'm not out to my family so I don't know what to say. It's super awkward lol to be asked questions about guys when I don't like them. I'll never have a boyfriend so I'm like... sorry kiddos. Do you all have this happen to you? What do you say? lolz. Kids are so silly and ask such intrusive questions.

13th Nov 2011, 08:02 PM	#2
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,260 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. Hello, Midwestgirl. I came out several years ago to family that I felt needed to know. All my cousins know... one of which was 8 at the time. She understands completely what my "deal" is in regards to what gender I prefer to have as a partner. Although, on the down side, she has started calling me AUNTIE Alex ever since then. If you feel your cousins need to know, you could either always say "No, I don't like him" to their suggestions of boyfriends and whatnot, or you could break it to them gently in a way they'll understand (of course, you'll probably need their parents' consent, some people don't like having their kids "influenced"... Meh). Good luck. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

13th Nov 2011, 08:07 PM	#3
thedreamwatch Maximum Ridiculosity Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 5. So, pretty gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Wisconsin Age: 22 Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. This is always an awkward situation... My suggestion is that you keep dodging it like you're doing now--until you come out to your family. Other than that, I'm drawing a blank--the same blank I was drawing before I was fully out. __________________ "I came out laughing, I came out screaming, I came out dancing..." - T&S

13th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM	#4
Danny19 Lets see what happens Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: i love boys!!! Out Status: Some people Location: Los Angeles Age: 19 Posts: 722 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: Kids' Questions.. oh yea.. i get that a lot.. my cousins always want to know about gfs and who i like. but i dont answer or i just say no one. __________________ “Whats meant to be, will always find its way"

14th Nov 2011, 04:17 AM	#5
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. Well my sister will storm out of the room if I mention getting a gf or wife(especially when I'm referring to Sara Quin). Lol! Does that count? __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

14th Nov 2011, 08:43 AM	#7
caughtbywitness Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I really don't know anymore Out Status: Most people (: Location: Shropshire Age: 16 Posts: 131 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. It's just awkward, can't really get round it unfortunately.

14th Nov 2011, 01:34 PM	#8
Drowzee64 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone that matters except for extended family. Location: Houston, TX Posts: 114 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. Out of all the intrusive things my many little cousins ask me, surprisingly I don't remember them ever asking if I liked a girl. Family members and family friends ages 40 and up tend to ask me if I have a girlfriend A LOT, though. I remember my Memaw (southern speak for grandma :P) once asked my dad if I was into the girls yet, and he said no, and she said "They always come around!". It made me feel uncomfortable but it's funny in hindsight.

15th Nov 2011, 05:34 AM	#9
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Kids' Questions.. My cousins are always like that. Fortunately, I can say something. The only thing is that they get too invasive sometimes. __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile.

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