damn, i gotta get out of here. my father almost caught me looking at gay porn

[needshelp]

man, the thing that really got ME heated is that his ass didn't even bother knocking. he just opens my door as if he owns my fucking room telling me to go get my dinner. i had my computer screen on gay porn and i don't know if he saw it or not but one thing is, how the fuck he's going to come into my room like that without even knocking. what the fuck, man. he has no respect for me acting like i'm some 15 year old. i'm very mad right now.

[Mogget]

The teenage years involve a lot of tension. They key, if you have good parents, is to communicate in ways that don't provoke your parents. So, tell your dad you don't want him coming into your room, but don't do so in a confrontational manner. Use "I" statements. For example, "Dad, I feel like my privacy is being ignored when you come into my room without knocking."

[Porphyrogenitus]

If you're living at home and you parents won't let you get a lock on your door, you should consider rearranging your furniture so your computer screen isn't visible from the doorway.

[needshelp]

Originally Posted by Liam

The teenage years involve a lot of tension. They key, if you have good parents, is to communicate in ways that don't provoke your parents. So, tell your dad you don't want him coming into your room, but don't do so in a confrontational manner. Use "I" statements. For example, "Dad, I feel like my privacy is being ignored when you come into my room without knocking."

believe it or not, i've tried to do this and there's no form of reasoning with him at all. he's set in his ways and anybody that tries to talk to him. he feels that people are challenging him as if he runs the show. he pretty much feels it's his business to be in everybody's business from my mom to my brother's to the neighbors across the street yet he doesn't want anybody up in his business. this isn't the first time he's done this too. in fact, a year before, he just ran into my room randomly in a fit of anger for something i had nothing to do with while i was masturbating. he saw what i was doing and stepped out embarrassed. then later on in the day, he wants to talk to me as if i'm some damn 15 year old about it being okay for me to watch porn and wants to talk to me about it. i'm looking at him like "are you for real?" my father and me even though we live in the same household and may do things here and there together. we're distances apart because he basically lives in his own world away from everybody else.

[kellymporta]

The best solution I've found to avoid those types of awkward situations is to do that private stuff late at night and lock the door. The advantages of doing that is that you never get interrupted, and you get a good night's sleep.

[Chip]

Get a lock for your door. Simple and will solve the problem. You can probably go to Home Depot with your old lock and find a nearly identical one that has a lock on it for only a few bucks.

It's clear your dad has boundary problems and probably won't honor your requests no matter what so the lock will both solve the problem and send a message.

[Bi As A Kite]

Get an old shirt or sweater and stuff it in the gap between the door and the floor - when someone tries to open it, it'll get stuck.

[Yuya]

lol your dad sounds like my dad. Though my situation was a tad worse, he came in while I was nekkid in bed with my then-bf and in that moment I was outed.

[British Lad]

Originally Posted by Yuya

lol your dad sounds like my dad. Though my situation was a tad worse, he came in while I was nekkid in bed with my then-bf and in that moment I was outed.

ouch, I hope he was ok with it, if not that's tough and theres no way around it.

[Rinto]

I share a room with my sister and this room happens to be also the central of almost all entries and exits so it's hard to do those kinds of stuff. I'm still a teen but my parents have loose control to me regarding these things. But what it makes hard for me is to do "it".

Just use your alone time leisurely next time when nobody's home, or get some lock for the doors. Staying up late at night also is good yahaha~

[Allegro molto]

My family is the same way...apparently, it's okay for them to open my door without knocking, but n0t 0k for me... I usually keep my door locked as a result. My sister probably saw me looking up an adult gay film actor when she busted in one time, but thankfully, I had safe-search turned on on Google, so she probably just saw a shirtless guy and pondered for a couple of seconds as to why I was looking. x.x

But yeah, I would definitely invest in getting a lock for your door if you dad isn't listening to your concerns about your privacy. Or find someway to block your door so nobody can get in. The lock on my sister's bedroom door doesn't work, so she positions her school bag against the door so that if the door is opened from the outside, it'll catch and will take awhile to finally force it open. Gotta be inventive.

[CrazyAntFarm]

Wow, that sucks. I've never had a run in with my folks like that. Then again, I waited until late at night to handle my business, lol.

[Lexington]

Feel free to put a lock on the door. But as my dad liked to point out, "I pays the rent". It's his house. He's free to do what he wants to in it, and if that means tearing the lock off, that's his call. The only way to get true privacy is to get your own place. I realize that's not always feasible, but that IS the way it is, sadly enough.

Lex

[ok455]

Just change your room around so the computer is not facing the door

[GuardianKitten]

You're 25. Is moving out a possibility?

[Fugs]

Macro a key you never use on your keyboard (or a combination of key strokes) to minimize or close the current window. These actions come standard on your computer (alt+ F4 for example) but pressing a single key is usually quicker.

You could also lock your computer which should (if you have a password set) bring you to a screen where only the user name and password slot would be visible (Which is Windows Key + L)

You can re-macro these keys as well and if you aren't sure how there are plenty of guides on Google <3

It sucks having parents like that but it's better to have brains than brawn in this situation so little tactics that are easy to remember and quicker to enact than moving the mouse to the top corner and closing the window out are very useful to stop snooping parents from seeing your porn ^.^

ALSO, almost forgot. They do sell monitor screens that block light from angles other than right in front of the monitor. So if you have the computer monitor slanted from the door he won't be able to see anything until he gets close enough as to where the light is no longer blocked.

Sorry if this is too technical, feel free to chat me up if you need any help <3

[Doctor Faustus]

As Liam suggests, if this is something that's really bugging you, you really need to get your own place. Otherwise try to diplomatically remind your parents that you're no longer legally a minor and ought to be afforded the privacy you deserve.

Hope this helps.

F.