How do you express your feelings?

I'm much the same way as you except that I don't usually talk because I don't consider myself as good at expressing myself through speaking than I am through writing or acting out. Writing has helped me in situations such as coming out to my two best friends, because I had a lot to say (natch) and felt that I would be able to express it much more clearly in writing than I ever could over the phone.

 

In ordinary writing, in spoken language, in poetry, in music, in dancing, in reading, in what I eat, what I drink, where I live, my English accent...

 

It turned out pretty well. I actually told one of them beforehand, but decided to follow up with a letter. With the other one, I was sure that she would support me, and later learned that she did have her suspicions.

Why did it go badly with your friends?

Also, I should say that I am decent at expressing myself verbally to people with whom I have a close or trusting relationship, but I'm definitely not good at speaking to strangers.

 

i find that listening to music and going for a walk is the best way i can personaly deal with feelings also just talking openly and honestly works to for me.

 

Wow, nice question.

I also express myself in writing. For instance, poetry... only for when I'm sad though, because I just can't put 'happy' things into poems and such. I find it more difficult, whereas with sad, gut-wrenching emotions, it's much easier for me to put it all together with words. With awkward and/or weird moments I normally inject some comic relief into the atmosphere, it usually helps. Usually... :eusa_doh:
When I'm angry at someone or something, I tend to ignore them. They are completely, and utterly, dead to me. Well, until the mood subsides, then everything's fine and dandy again. I don't hold onto grudges for long, they last something like two hours, at most, then I move on. I'm just incapable of doing the whole lifetime of "you're-dead-to-me-and-I-will-screw-up-your-entire-life-the-next-chance-I-get" routine. :rolle: Meh...
Oh, and my favourite. Sarcasm. I pretty much deal with a lot of things using this. Bad news, mostly, and also with disgust towards something.
Then there's disappointment, which I'll seriously think about for a minute, figure out what went wrong, and then just let it go. Seems simple enough, why let yourself wallow in self pity, when there are other ventures to partake in?
With my fears, I tend to overreact and go ballistic... and hell no am I telling anyone what I'm scared of! :dry: You guys would just use it against me to laugh at how silly I am... so, no thanks, to that!

Everyone expresses themselves differently, I know, these are just some of mine. :eusa_eh:

 

Me too a T. My main way of working through my emotions is going for a walk and listening to music that speaks to my feelings. When I need more than that, asking a close friend if I can talk to them and then just telling them what I'm going through usually helps.

 

I usually don't. But if I do I'll write or cry about it to someone (which sucks ass!).

 

Mainly I don't bother and end up forgetting I was feeling anything. But some times i don't forget, and then it becomes problematic.

 

By bottling them up into a little dark place in my mind.

Should probably stop doing that...

 

This, and writing of course. Also singing...

 

Talking at great length, I believe you'd call it a rant

 

I'm the exact same way, tho im learning to not do that anymore..I force myself to talk about the dark stuff that I bottle up inside.

 

writing. i'm a better writer than speaker. journal writing is the shit. :icon_bigg if i can't get my anger out through my mouth, you better believe i'm going to write about it in one way or another. i can say anything even if it's wrong and not feel guilty about it.

 

I try to process the negative emotions, and do with them what needs to be done. The positive ones I just try to let show.

Lex

 

Based on my emotions:

Happy: go around smiling
Sad: bottle it in
Angry: scream into a pillow for a while
Love: poetry (I'm awesome like that)
boredom: i'll play an instrument
embarrasement: hide my face... that leads to sadness
regret: I try and fix what i'm regretting for peace of mind.

 

"Emotions are like port: to be corked up tight, left in the cellar for forty years and given to your grandson on his 21st birthday." --- Bleak Expectations :icon_wink

But yeah, I find outlets in music and even things like TV shows or movies. I'm not really that great with dealing with feelings, certainly not at expressing them, so a vicarious outlet is often quite effective.