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wallrose · 20th Nov 2011, 03:34 AM

Do any same sex couples out there have children? And if so, does it ever get confusing, moniker wise, being dad and dad?
I was thinking about it today, and I'm not sure how I'd differentiate between the two if I had same sex parents. It gets confusing enough at family christmas parties with my brother William and my uncle William.

fiddledeedee · 20th Nov 2011, 07:20 AM

I don't know where to find them, but one family does a video series of "gay family values" or something like that. There are a son ans a daughter, who refer to their fathers as "Daddy (name)" and "Daddy (other one's name)". In the paper once, I also heard of a family that used "Daddy" for one father and "Father" for the other. Both of these could be used by lesbian couples as well, and there is also the option that even some straight families use, of just calling parents by their first name.

---------- Post added 20th Nov 2011 at 03:25 PM ----------

Oh, and there are loads of same sex couples with children; thousands at least, though I can't find a figure.

Kidd · 20th Nov 2011, 09:34 AM

One of my best friends in high school was adopted by a lesbian couple and I asked her this question a really long time ago and she said that she just shouts "MOM!" and whoever was closest would answer, and then she said that when she got older she just started calling them by their names--which wouldn't bother me any, honestly.

orlaith · 20th Nov 2011, 01:46 PM

I've thought about this too! My solution would be to use different forms of parent terms - I was born to a straight, English couple but my siblings and I call our Mum 'Mutti' (German) because my older sister started doing it when she first took German at school. My girlfriend is Mexican and who knows if we'll have a family but I like the idea of our children calling us Mum in English and Spanish!

starfish · 20th Nov 2011, 02:09 PM

It is fairly easy.

From 2-12 it is Daddy, no other daddy.
From 13-19 it is I hate you, you ruined my life.

Rinto · 21st Nov 2011, 01:45 AM

Hmm, near the place where I live, there's always someone who has to be someone in that same sex relationship who would volunteer to be the "Mommy". I saw it on TV a long time ago, one of the guys (the submissive and more feminine one) told their daughter he is to be called "Mommy", the other being "Daddy" by default. I think that'll be okay.... when not in public...

20th Nov 2011, 03:34 AM	#1
wallrose Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family. Location: Canberra Age: 18 Posts: 181 Join Date: Nov 2010	Just a thought. Do any same sex couples out there have children? And if so, does it ever get confusing, moniker wise, being dad and dad? I was thinking about it today, and I'm not sure how I'd differentiate between the two if I had same sex parents. It gets confusing enough at family christmas parties with my brother William and my uncle William.

20th Nov 2011, 07:20 AM	#2
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Just a thought. I don't know where to find them, but one family does a video series of "gay family values" or something like that. There are a son ans a daughter, who refer to their fathers as "Daddy (name)" and "Daddy (other one's name)". In the paper once, I also heard of a family that used "Daddy" for one father and "Father" for the other. Both of these could be used by lesbian couples as well, and there is also the option that even some straight families use, of just calling parents by their first name. ---------- Post added 20th Nov 2011 at 03:25 PM ---------- Oh, and there are loads of same sex couples with children; thousands at least, though I can't find a figure. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

20th Nov 2011, 09:34 AM	#3
Kidd You'll love me! Full Member Gender: ♂ Orientation: ♂ ♥ ♂ Out Status: Out Location: N.W. Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 1,430 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Just a thought. One of my best friends in high school was adopted by a lesbian couple and I asked her this question a really long time ago and she said that she just shouts "MOM!" and whoever was closest would answer, and then she said that when she got older she just started calling them by their names--which wouldn't bother me any, honestly. __________________ I feel a hunger. Take my picture by the pool, because I'm the next big thing. Fingers crossed, my time is coming now...

20th Nov 2011, 01:46 PM	#4
orlaith Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Out to everyone who matters Location: Oxford, UK Posts: 25 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Just a thought. I've thought about this too! My solution would be to use different forms of parent terms - I was born to a straight, English couple but my siblings and I call our Mum 'Mutti' (German) because my older sister started doing it when she first took German at school. My girlfriend is Mexican and who knows if we'll have a family but I like the idea of our children calling us Mum in English and Spanish! __________________ If I had words to make a day for you I'd sing you a morning golden and true I would make this day last for all time Give you a night deep in moonshine

20th Nov 2011, 02:09 PM	#5
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,109 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Just a thought. It is fairly easy. From 2-12 it is Daddy, no other daddy. From 13-19 it is I hate you, you ruined my life. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

21st Nov 2011, 01:45 AM	#6
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Just a thought. Hmm, near the place where I live, there's always someone who has to be someone in that same sex relationship who would volunteer to be the "Mommy". I saw it on TV a long time ago, one of the guys (the submissive and more feminine one) told their daughter he is to be called "Mommy", the other being "Daddy" by default. I think that'll be okay.... when not in public... __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile.

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