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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Rooni321, Nov 22, 2011.

  1. Rooni321

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    How long was it before you got affectionate?
    (Holding hands, kissing)

    I won't go into detail but I'm freaking out.

    Anyone, anyone?

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    To anyone that is/was in a relationship
     
  2. Tiny Catastrophe

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    Well my girlfriend and I held hands and like cuddled when we were still just best friends and she waited like a week to kiss me lol
     
  3. Daisy1

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    I think it's really dependent on your age and what's customary in your area and/or at your school. At 17, I would have been kissing my boyfriends almost immediately. Waiting a few weeks or months to kiss wouldn't be weird, though, in most places. Hope that helps.

    Don't freak out, and feel free to ask more questions.
     
  4. Owen

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    He and I were dating for about a month and a half before we got affectionate. It was a longish-distance relationship, though, so it might have happened sooner if that weren't the case. We talked on the phone a lot in the intermittent time, which brought us closer together, but because of the distance, we didn't get to date often, so we didn't go on a whole lot of dates before we got intimate.
     
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    It's different from relationship to relationship. With my first boyfriend, we held hands before we actually were a couple. Then kissed a week after we started dating. My second boyfriend, we first kissed the day we met (mistake I learned from). For my third boyfriend, we held hands after a week and kissed after two.
     
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    my gf (well ex now) waited 9.5 months for me to kiss her ( i had intimacy issues and she understood them)
     
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    is it weird that I usually kiss first n then wonder if that means we're boyfriends now?
     
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    It varied sometimes I'd know the guy for a little bit THEN we became an item.

    If we just met maybe a week or 2 for the holding hands and stuff.
     
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    Well that's reasurring!
    Thank you all! My nerves are calmed :slight_smile:
     
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    Nope. Or at least, I hope not, as I've been guilty of that several times now myself. Though not being weird doesnt mean it always works. Ive had probly 4 or 5 distasterous outcomes from doing that, and one good one (which admittedly, makes that justifies that strategy for me as far as I'm concerned, but I got lucky).
     
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    For me and my bf, we waited a while. Wait for the mood to be right :slight_smile: and take it slow. After all, you need somewhere to go :slight_smile:
     
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    An ex girlfriend of mine never kissed or held hands or barely hugged me. The relationship lasted several months too.
     
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    Well when you think about it,
    That was actually worded quite perfectly!
    You're totally right!
    :slight_smile:
     
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    Aww thanks Rooni :slight_smile:
     
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    Mine was the same as Hanas. I was so scared I almost missed lol
     
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    If the first couple of dates go well, I'm very happy to get affectionate if my date's comfortable with it, though I do like to spread out the "first this" and "first that" occasions so that there's something to savor. There's not really a marker for when you should and shouldn't, though. It's a personal thing.
     
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    My ex gf and I cuddled and flirted alot before I kissed her, but after that we cuddled even more and held hands and things like that.
     
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    Tough to say, since we met online. We started with the phone sex about two months later. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    For me, like when I first got with my fiance.....before we got together we would flirt and she would hold me...(due to she is almost a foot taller than me) but after we got together...her friends knew she was into girls but mine didn't and i was scared...so i kinda tried to keep it like from telling them so it took sometime....but i'm so glad we r affectionate
     
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    Depends on who you're with. I've been in some relationships where we made out within a hour. Some others it took two months for him to kiss me.