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Charni · 22nd Nov 2011, 11:51 PM

Hi! If you are reading this post on the thread! Lets talk!

Rooni321 · 23rd Nov 2011, 08:43 AM

Hello! You added me!

xXPsychedelicXx · 23rd Nov 2011, 11:59 AM

Hey!!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:22 PM

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Hello! You added me!

Yes I did add you! Right now I am seeing hoe exclemation marks affect conversations!

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Hey!!

HI! How are you!

kiersten · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:34 PM

Hi James!!!

Congrats on coming out! It does feel so good. I know whenn I came out as trans, I had so many female friends that we so amazing, understanding & supportive & even more surprising - at the ready with clothes to give me, fashion advice & a total excitement to do hair, makeup & everything in between with me! One of my friends even took me clothes shopping last week for the first time, which was also the very first time I have ever gotten to go shopping for anything I wanted to buy & wear for me. It feels amazing to have my friends, to just be one of the girls & dress however I want now. I know it's a bit different for you, but still, it's a BIG step coming out so congrats!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:40 PM

Thanks! I came out to my parents a while ago but it didn't go well.

Yeah it is a bit different but different is awesome!

kiersten · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:47 PM

I know how you feel. When I came out to my parents & basically told them I was a girl (just told my mum I'm also a lesbian just last week, which I think she's having a very hard time with), it did not at all go well for me either. It sucks, but I did what I needed to to get thru it & things are a bit better now. Try giving it some time. After a while, I think my mum finally realized that I really am female & I wasnt making it up, as I can noow talk to her fairly openly about it & she doesnt freak or anything now. Sometimes people just need time to adjust & realize that the person they care about is still the same person. Personaly tho, I stopped wearing mens jeans & pretty much dress female in public every day now, with the exception of tops, since I am a college girl of limited funds at the moment. But I do get maam'd from time to time, which is nice but isnt happening quite as much as I want yet! lol!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by kiersten

I know how you feel. When I came out to my parents & basically told them I was a girl (just told my mum I'm also a lesbian just last week, which I think she's having a very hard time with), it did not at all go well for me either. It sucks, but I did what I needed to to get thru it & things are a bit better now. Try giving it some time. After a while, I think my mum finally realized that I really am female & I wasnt making it up, as I can noow talk to her fairly openly about it & she doesnt freak or anything now. Sometimes people just need time to adjust & realize that the person they care about is still the same person. Personaly tho, I stopped wearing mens jeans & pretty much dress female in public every day now, with the exception of tops, since I am a college girl of limited funds at the moment. But I do get maam'd from time to time, which is nice but isnt happening quite as much as I want yet! lol!

I don't think my parents are going to accept it. They were really angry about it. Random quesion: Is there a difference between boy and girl jeans? Good luck maam!

Doctor Faustus · 23rd Nov 2011, 01:59 PM

Um... they're both jeans. Maybe I'm the wrong person to ask. xD

Hello hello! (again xD)

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 02:43 PM

I have heard that there is a difference but I don't know if there really is.

Rooni321 · 23rd Nov 2011, 07:32 PM

Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (:

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (:

I sometimes do experements like this.

starfish · 23rd Nov 2011, 07:43 PM

Give your parents some time. You have had a lot more time to get used to being gay, than they have had.

kiersten · 23rd Nov 2011, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by kiersten

I know how you feel. When I came out to my parents & basically told them I was a girl (just told my mum I'm also a lesbian just last week, which I think she's having a very hard time with), it did not at all go well for me either. It sucks, but I did what I needed to to get thru it & things are a bit better now. Try giving it some time. After a while, I think my mum finally realized that I really am female & I wasnt making it up, as I can noow talk to her fairly openly about it & she doesnt freak or anything now. Sometimes people just need time to adjust & realize that the person they care about is still the same person. Personaly tho, I stopped wearing mens jeans & pretty much dress female in public every day now, with the exception of tops, since I am a college girl of limited funds at the moment. But I do get maam'd from time to time, which is nice but isnt happening quite as much as I want yet! lol!

I don't think my parents are going to accept it. They were really angry about it. Random quesion: Is there a difference between boy and girl jeans? Good luck maam!

Yeah, there is a bit of a difference. Women's jeans tend to be more form fitting. I love how my crotch area (sorry all) seems more like it should look in these jeans too. I was ecstatic when I found I actually had a bit of a butt in my skinny jeans versus my baggy men's relaxed fit jeans. And best thing is that guys do wear skinny jeans too, so I can get away with wearing girls' jeans without anyone really thinking too much about it. I stopped wearing guys jeans on Oct 31st & yet to have anyone say anything negative about it yet. Quite the opposite, some of my female friends Im out to say I look sooo great in my jeans now!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by kiersten

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Originally Posted by James H

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Originally Posted by kiersten

I know how you feel. When I came out to my parents & basically told them I was a girl (just told my mum I'm also a lesbian just last week, which I think she's having a very hard time with), it did not at all go well for me either. It sucks, but I did what I needed to to get thru it & things are a bit better now. Try giving it some time. After a while, I think my mum finally realized that I really am female & I wasnt making it up, as I can noow talk to her fairly openly about it & she doesnt freak or anything now. Sometimes people just need time to adjust & realize that the person they care about is still the same person. Personaly tho, I stopped wearing mens jeans & pretty much dress female in public every day now, with the exception of tops, since I am a college girl of limited funds at the moment. But I do get maam'd from time to time, which is nice but isnt happening quite as much as I want yet! lol!

I don't think my parents are going to accept it. They were really angry about it. Random quesion: Is there a difference between boy and girl jeans? Good luck maam!

Yeah, these is a bit of a difference. Women's jeans tend to be more form fitting. I was ecstatic when I found I actually had a bit of a butt in my skinny jeans versus my baggy men's relaxed fit jeans. And best thing is that guys do wear skinny jeans too, so I can get away with wearing girls' jeans without anyone really thinking too much about it. I stopped wearing guys jeans on Oct 31st & yet to have anyone say anything negative about it yet. Quite the opposite, some of my female friends Im out to say I look sooo great in my jeans now!

Do they physically feel more comfortable?

kiersten · 23rd Nov 2011, 08:47 PM

OMG, I feel sooo much more comfy in them! Honestly, I find them to be soo much more better of a fit for me. I just get mine at a second hand place, but my first 3 pairs were given to me by a female friend I had come out to. I feel so much better in women's jeans. Plus I was talking with a friend of a friend, who said that he wears them sometimes too. He said he wasnt a crossdresser or trans or any of that, but he just found women's jeans much more comfortable & that was all he cared about! Once you figure out your size, go out & buy a couple of pairs. Jeans are so widespread in society these days, that I switched from men's to women's & no one really said anything to me. But I know Im wearing jeans appropriate to my gender now, so Im happy that I can dress the way I want in public whenever I want!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 11:01 PM

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Originally Posted by kiersten

OMG, I feel sooo much more comfy in them! Honestly, I find them to be soo much more better of a fit for me. I just get mine at a second hand place, but my first 3 pairs were given to me by a female friend I had come out to. I feel so much better in women's jeans. Plus I was talking with a friend of a friend, who said that he wears them sometimes too. He said he wasnt a crossdresser or trans or any of that, but he just found women's jeans much more comfortable & that was all he cared about! Once you figure out your size, go out & buy a couple of pairs. Jeans are so widespread in society these days, that I switched from men's to women's & no one really said anything to me. But I know Im wearing jeans appropriate to my gender now, so Im happy that I can dress the way I want in public whenever I want!

Awesome! I want to try some now but mum and dad said I am forbidden to cross dress any more

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That's good you can be comfy in public!

Rooni321 · 23rd Nov 2011, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by James H

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (:

I sometimes do experements like this.

Whyyy??
And what kind?!

Charni · 23rd Nov 2011, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

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Originally Posted by James H

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (:

I sometimes do experements like this.

Whyyy??
And what kind?!

Because I just think of them and do them. I have ADHD so that also makes me very impulsive, but I NEVER use it as an excuse. I tried using a smiley after EVERY sentance once.

Rooni321 · 24th Nov 2011, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by James H

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

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Originally Posted by James H

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (:

I sometimes do experements like this.

Whyyy??
And what kind?!

Because I just think of them and do them. I have ADHD so that also makes me very impulsive, but I NEVER use it as an excuse. I tried using a smiley after EVERY sentance once.

Actually experiments are quite fun! I do a lot of social experiments and the results are really strange every time.
Oh man I used to do the smileys a lot freshman year, but it just didn't do anything for me after a while

22nd Nov 2011, 11:51 PM	#1
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Hi! Hi! If you are reading this post on the thread! Lets talk!

23rd Nov 2011, 08:43 AM	#2
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Hi! Hello! You added me! __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

23rd Nov 2011, 11:59 AM	#3
xXPsychedelicXx ... and the lesbians. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Blue, pink and purple. Out Status: A few people. Age: 16 Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Hi! Hey!! __________________ ... We'll write a song that turns out the lights.

23rd Nov 2011, 12:34 PM	#5
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Hi! Hi James!!! Congrats on coming out! It does feel so good. I know whenn I came out as trans, I had so many female friends that we so amazing, understanding & supportive & even more surprising - at the ready with clothes to give me, fashion advice & a total excitement to do hair, makeup & everything in between with me! One of my friends even took me clothes shopping last week for the first time, which was also the very first time I have ever gotten to go shopping for anything I wanted to buy & wear for me. It feels amazing to have my friends, to just be one of the girls & dress however I want now. I know it's a bit different for you, but still, it's a BIG step coming out so congrats! __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

23rd Nov 2011, 12:40 PM	#6
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hi! Thanks! I came out to my parents a while ago but it didn't go well. Yeah it is a bit different but different is awesome!

23rd Nov 2011, 12:47 PM	#7
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Hi! I know how you feel. When I came out to my parents & basically told them I was a girl (just told my mum I'm also a lesbian just last week, which I think she's having a very hard time with), it did not at all go well for me either. It sucks, but I did what I needed to to get thru it & things are a bit better now. Try giving it some time. After a while, I think my mum finally realized that I really am female & I wasnt making it up, as I can noow talk to her fairly openly about it & she doesnt freak or anything now. Sometimes people just need time to adjust & realize that the person they care about is still the same person. Personaly tho, I stopped wearing mens jeans & pretty much dress female in public every day now, with the exception of tops, since I am a college girl of limited funds at the moment. But I do get maam'd from time to time, which is nice but isnt happening quite as much as I want yet! lol! __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

23rd Nov 2011, 01:59 PM	#9
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Hi! Um... they're both jeans. Maybe I'm the wrong person to ask. xD Hello hello! (again xD) __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

23rd Nov 2011, 02:43 PM	#10
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hi! I have heard that there is a difference but I don't know if there really is.

23rd Nov 2011, 07:32 PM	#11
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Hi! Yes they help, I like using exclamations better than smileys! But sometimes I use both (: __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

23rd Nov 2011, 07:43 PM	#13
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,109 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Hi! Give your parents some time. You have had a lot more time to get used to being gay, than they have had. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

23rd Nov 2011, 08:47 PM	#16
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Hi! OMG, I feel sooo much more comfy in them! Honestly, I find them to be soo much more better of a fit for me. I just get mine at a second hand place, but my first 3 pairs were given to me by a female friend I had come out to. I feel so much better in women's jeans. Plus I was talking with a friend of a friend, who said that he wears them sometimes too. He said he wasnt a crossdresser or trans or any of that, but he just found women's jeans much more comfortable & that was all he cared about! Once you figure out your size, go out & buy a couple of pairs. Jeans are so widespread in society these days, that I switched from men's to women's & no one really said anything to me. But I know Im wearing jeans appropriate to my gender now, so Im happy that I can dress the way I want in public whenever I want! __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.