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Daisy1 · 24th Nov 2011, 09:11 PM

My friend is taking me to my first lesbian bars tomorrow night! Does anyone know goods ones in NYC? So far Cubby Hole is on the list, but we'd love to go to several.
Thank you!

kiersten · 24th Nov 2011, 09:27 PM

That's so awesome for you! I hope you have a wonderful time & that it's such a positve experience for you! Sadly, I don't live in the NYC area, but in cases like this Daisy, Google is a girl's best friend!!! I can't wait to hear how well it goes for you!

And on a side note, I gotta say, I'm just a little bit jealous too! :P

Beertruck · 24th Nov 2011, 09:29 PM

My favorite gay bar is actually just across the Hudson. It's called Pint! Tends to be an older crowd - a bit more of a neighborhood beer bar with a gay clientele rather than the stereotypical club. But if this is your first time in the city, going to a gay bar, that's probably not what you want. XD

I've been actually dying to go with my lesbian friend over to this place called Boxers, which is essentially a gay sports bar - not trying to be stereotypical, I swear, neither of us give a shit about sports and are just interested in the entire concept of it! The only lesbian bar I know of is this place I pass every once in a while on the way to the train called Henrietta Hudson. Checked it out, does not look that sketchy, so... good luck! Hope you enjoy!

Rooni321 · 24th Nov 2011, 09:31 PM

Yes tell us how it goes, I'm totally curious about what goes on in there (:

Sadepeura · 24th Nov 2011, 09:54 PM

I'm afraid I'm not going to be much help either. I've only been to NYC ones and I was 20, so the one time I was in a bar, I had to go and hide in a toilet for a bit...

And it was just a normal boring straight bar. Next time, I'll be old enough and go somewhere more interesting! Please let us know how it went!

RedState · 24th Nov 2011, 09:59 PM

Oh I've been to Posh, Splash, Boxers, insert gay hotspot here, and whatever the name was of the last bar I went to...they are all about the same...all were good.

There are so many gay spots in NYC I think it would be hard to find "the best" spot. Actually, one of the first gay bars I ever went to was in some bricked basement in lower Manhattan...I was so nervous

But I sure did have fun trying to find out what was the best place

Falling · 24th Nov 2011, 11:29 PM

I've never actually been to one either but have fun!!!

Daisy1 · 25th Nov 2011, 08:06 AM

Thanks, everyone! I will let you know how it goes. I'm really excited!

Since I'm nervous, I'm getting hung up on the details. My friend is straight, and I don't want everyone to think I am too. I'm on the fem end of the spectrum (but not super fem), and I'll probably be wearing skinny jeans, boots, and a sweater. Does that sound ok? Will people be able to tell I'm gay? (Obviously the choice of bars is a hint.) If not, how can I make it more clear?

greatfulyslow · 25th Nov 2011, 12:29 PM

Dasy1 I'm not an expert but you don't have to look the part to go to a gay bar! Your outfit sounds fine and I'm sure you'll have the ladies line up for based on your post you seem to have a great personality and I'm sure it will shine through any outfit you have on! Just remember to be yourself and everything will fall into place! If I was in NY and at the same bar I would ask you out for sure! Have a good time!

Beertruck · 25th Nov 2011, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy1

Thanks, everyone! I will let you know how it goes. I'm really excited!

Since I'm nervous, I'm getting hung up on the details. My friend is straight, and I don't want everyone to think I am too. I'm on the fem end of the spectrum (but not super fem), and I'll probably be wearing skinny jeans, boots, and a sweater. Does that sound ok? Will people be able to tell I'm gay? (Obviously the choice of bars is a hint.) If not, how can I make it more clear?

Dress as though you'd be going out to a regular night on the town! If you walk into a lesbian bar, they'll assume you're there because you're either a lesbian or won't freak out if someone hits on you. And like the poster above me said, make sure to have fun!

needshelp · 25th Nov 2011, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Beertruck

My favorite gay bar is actually just across the Hudson. It's called Pint! Tends to be an older crowd - a bit more of a neighborhood beer bar with a gay clientele rather than the stereotypical club. But if this is your first time in the city, going to a gay bar, that's probably not what you want. XD

I've been actually dying to go with my lesbian friend over to this place called Boxers, which is essentially a gay sports bar - not trying to be stereotypical, I swear, neither of us give a shit about sports and are just interested in the entire concept of it! The only lesbian bar I know of is this place I pass every once in a while on the way to the train called Henrietta Hudson. Checked it out, does not look that sketchy, so... good luck! Hope you enjoy!

where's pint at for future references?

Beertruck · 25th Nov 2011, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by needshelp

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Originally Posted by Beertruck

My favorite gay bar is actually just across the Hudson. It's called Pint! Tends to be an older crowd - a bit more of a neighborhood beer bar with a gay clientele rather than the stereotypical club. But if this is your first time in the city, going to a gay bar, that's probably not what you want. XD

I've been actually dying to go with my lesbian friend over to this place called Boxers, which is essentially a gay sports bar - not trying to be stereotypical, I swear, neither of us give a shit about sports and are just interested in the entire concept of it! The only lesbian bar I know of is this place I pass every once in a while on the way to the train called Henrietta Hudson. Checked it out, does not look that sketchy, so... good luck! Hope you enjoy!

where's pint at for future references?

Pint is located in beautiful downtown Jersey City, NJ.

needshelp · 25th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Beertruck

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Originally Posted by needshelp

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Originally Posted by Beertruck

My favorite gay bar is actually just across the Hudson. It's called Pint! Tends to be an older crowd - a bit more of a neighborhood beer bar with a gay clientele rather than the stereotypical club. But if this is your first time in the city, going to a gay bar, that's probably not what you want. XD

I've been actually dying to go with my lesbian friend over to this place called Boxers, which is essentially a gay sports bar - not trying to be stereotypical, I swear, neither of us give a shit about sports and are just interested in the entire concept of it! The only lesbian bar I know of is this place I pass every once in a while on the way to the train called Henrietta Hudson. Checked it out, does not look that sketchy, so... good luck! Hope you enjoy!

where's pint at for future references?

Pint is located in beautiful downtown Jersey City, NJ.

oh, alright. it looks like it's very easy to get to too. that's what's up. can't hit that up yet though.

24th Nov 2011, 09:11 PM	#1
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	NY Gay Bars My friend is taking me to my first lesbian bars tomorrow night! Does anyone know goods ones in NYC? So far Cubby Hole is on the list, but we'd love to go to several. Thank you!

24th Nov 2011, 09:27 PM	#2
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars That's so awesome for you! I hope you have a wonderful time & that it's such a positve experience for you! Sadly, I don't live in the NYC area, but in cases like this Daisy, Google is a girl's best friend!!! I can't wait to hear how well it goes for you! And on a side note, I gotta say, I'm just a little bit jealous too! :P __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

24th Nov 2011, 09:29 PM	#3
Beertruck Drunk Homosexual Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: bromosexual Out Status: bropen! Location: new jersey Age: 24 Posts: 420 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: NY Gay Bars My favorite gay bar is actually just across the Hudson. It's called Pint! Tends to be an older crowd - a bit more of a neighborhood beer bar with a gay clientele rather than the stereotypical club. But if this is your first time in the city, going to a gay bar, that's probably not what you want. XD I've been actually dying to go with my lesbian friend over to this place called Boxers, which is essentially a gay sports bar - not trying to be stereotypical, I swear, neither of us give a shit about sports and are just interested in the entire concept of it! The only lesbian bar I know of is this place I pass every once in a while on the way to the train called Henrietta Hudson. Checked it out, does not look that sketchy, so... good luck! Hope you enjoy!

24th Nov 2011, 09:31 PM	#4
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars Yes tell us how it goes, I'm totally curious about what goes on in there (: __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

24th Nov 2011, 09:54 PM	#5
Sadepeura Bow ties are cool. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual lesbian in a heterosexual relationship Out Status: Most people Location: Scotland Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars I'm afraid I'm not going to be much help either. I've only been to NYC ones and I was 20, so the one time I was in a bar, I had to go and hide in a toilet for a bit... And it was just a normal boring straight bar. Next time, I'll be old enough and go somewhere more interesting! Please let us know how it went! __________________ "What’s the worst that could happen?" "You could get torn to pieces by a monster you can’t see." - Amy Pond

24th Nov 2011, 09:59 PM	#6
RedState The Grendel to Everyone's Beowulf Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: 2 Location: The Southeastern Conference Age: 30 Posts: 1,448 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: NY Gay Bars Oh I've been to Posh, Splash, Boxers, insert gay hotspot here, and whatever the name was of the last bar I went to...they are all about the same...all were good. There are so many gay spots in NYC I think it would be hard to find "the best" spot. Actually, one of the first gay bars I ever went to was in some bricked basement in lower Manhattan...I was so nervous But I sure did have fun trying to find out what was the best place __________________ Last edited by RedState; 24th Nov 2011 at 10:04 PM..

24th Nov 2011, 11:29 PM	#7
Falling Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: New York Posts: 10 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars I've never actually been to one either but have fun!!!

25th Nov 2011, 08:06 AM	#8
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars Thanks, everyone! I will let you know how it goes. I'm really excited! Since I'm nervous, I'm getting hung up on the details. My friend is straight, and I don't want everyone to think I am too. I'm on the fem end of the spectrum (but not super fem), and I'll probably be wearing skinny jeans, boots, and a sweater. Does that sound ok? Will people be able to tell I'm gay? (Obviously the choice of bars is a hint.) If not, how can I make it more clear?

25th Nov 2011, 12:29 PM	#9
greatfulyslow Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: USA Age: 27 Posts: 52 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: NY Gay Bars Dasy1 I'm not an expert but you don't have to look the part to go to a gay bar! Your outfit sounds fine and I'm sure you'll have the ladies line up for based on your post you seem to have a great personality and I'm sure it will shine through any outfit you have on! Just remember to be yourself and everything will fall into place! If I was in NY and at the same bar I would ask you out for sure! Have a good time!

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