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26th Nov 2011, 11:29 AM

So I went to a gay restaurant with my friend. We got there, the food was delicious except for one thing the server was gay and he kept on flirting/hitting on me. I'm 16 my friend she is also 16 too. The server I assume was probably in his late 30s early 40s. So anyway he kept on winking at me, smiling, and talking in a creepy way. He also called us "ladies". Uh.. I'm a dude. The food was good. Other than that it was awkward for me getting hit on by an old man.

Comments suggestions advice?

Rooni321 · 26th Nov 2011, 11:37 AM

1) Those exist?!?! Gay restaurants really???

2) Attitude is key, just act uninterested or snotty or do something really unattractive. Haha
he might have also been trying to get a good tip. Waiters are crafty these days!

26th Nov 2011, 11:40 AM

Yes! There are gay restaurants! They are usually next to g bars or clubs or like a gay district.

But yeah I did act uninterested and he might've acted like that for a better tip. But dude you're like 30 years older than me haha

Valley Cactus · 26th Nov 2011, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

1) Those exist?!?! Gay restaurants really???

My thinking exactly.. No idea they existed, haha. That's really gross.. If you go back there try and make sure you get a different server. Or tip him with a piece of paper with a random phone number on it.

Mimerio · 26th Nov 2011, 01:06 PM

Gay restaurants? Sounds fun

Would love to try it one day

kellymporta · 26th Nov 2011, 04:49 PM

Well, as long as you go with other friends you won't have to worry about that waiter trying to hit on you.

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

He also called us "ladies". Uh.. I'm a dude.

I would really feel offended that someone thinks I'm a lady just because I'm gay.

Z3ni · 26th Nov 2011, 04:54 PM

Gay restraunts!?? cool!!! Makes sense though being in a "Gay" area.

GoinStag · 26th Nov 2011, 05:04 PM

Lol am I the only one who knew about them? Apparently there are a bunch in Midtown Atlanta.

26th Nov 2011, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by kellymporta

Well, as long as you go with other friends you won't have to worry about that waiter trying to hit on you.

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

He also called us "ladies". Uh.. I'm a dude.

I would really feel offended that someone thinks I'm a lady just because I'm gay.

Yeah exactly. I was going to say excuse me? because he would say it more than once. But I didn't. I'm a dude man.

Noir · 26th Nov 2011, 05:38 PM

Yay! Gay restaurant! xD I've had the same thing happen to me about two years ago...it was creepy, but I agree--just act completely uninterested. Eventually, he'll go away (if not until after you pay your bill).

RedState · 26th Nov 2011, 06:14 PM

Well, I wouldn't be too creeped out about it...the dude was probably fishing for a good tip. Look at it this way...when mid-aged men go to a Hooters, do you think the waitresses there flirt with them because they want to get in their pants? No...they are hoping to add a little more percentage to their bottom line.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

**Gerry** · 26th Nov 2011, 06:16 PM

I have never heard of a gay restaurant either. Sounds like fun though.

26th Nov 2011, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by RedState

Well, I wouldn't be too creeped out about it...the dude was probably fishing for a good tip. Look at it this way...when mid-aged men go to a Hooters, do you think the waitresses there flirt with them because they want to get in their pants? No...they are hoping to add a little more percentage to their bottom line.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But hitting on a 16 y/o..? Cmon isnt that illegal lol

Rooni321 · 26th Nov 2011, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

But hitting on a 16 y/o..? Cmon isnt that illegal lol

HA! I know exactly what you mean, old men always hit on me. Its weird, actually a lot of old people do. I don't look my age either though, I'm not sure if you do or not but that can be why older guys hit on you and I. Its gross.

26th Nov 2011, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

But hitting on a 16 y/o..? Cmon isnt that illegal lol

HA! I know exactly what you mean, old men always hit on me. Its weird, actually a lot of old people do. I don't look my age either though, I'm not sure if you do or not but that can be why older guys hit on you and I. Its gross.

you're a female it's different lol. you get hit on a lot probs

Rooni321 · 27th Nov 2011, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

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Originally Posted by omgnoway

But hitting on a 16 y/o..? Cmon isnt that illegal lol

HA! I know exactly what you mean, old men always hit on me. Its weird, actually a lot of old people do. I don't look my age either though, I'm not sure if you do or not but that can be why older guys hit on you and I. Its gross.

you're a female it's different lol. you get hit on a lot probs

That's true. But getting hit on by old people is not fun either way

crazyhead · 27th Nov 2011, 12:57 AM

Whenever you go someplace and the people who work there are flirting with you, it's just to be friendly so they can get your service again and/or get a good tip. I don't see any reason not to play along with it until they give you their phone number. Or ask for yours. Even then, there's no reason to do anything other than politely say you're not interested. Unless he (in the unlikely case) he stalks you. Then call the police.

And no. As far as I know, flirting with someone underage is not illegal. Just trying to have sex with them is.

**Lexington** · 27th Nov 2011, 08:19 AM

There's actually a chain of them - Hamburger Mary's.

It's campy and fun, and even my rather conservative brother has no problem bringing his wife and five-year-old daughter there. There's a place nearby that has Drag Queen Brunch and so forth.

As far as the flirting goes, you can easily put an end to it. If he calls you ladies, just roll your eyes and say "Well, this 'lady' is going to have the cheeseburger." They're used to dealing with people, and will pick up on the hint that you're not interested in anything like that.

Lex

Kenko · 3rd Dec 2011, 06:33 PM

Maybe not a restaurant per se, but when I was in Toronto I very much enjoyed the Gay Pubs I went to for Supper. The only gay licensed establishment I've been to before are the dirty dance clubs in my city.

J Snow · 3rd Dec 2011, 11:44 PM

I have never really heard of gay restaurants... This pleases me.

26th Nov 2011, 11:29 AM	#1
omgnoway Guest Posts: n/a	Went to a gay restaurant So I went to a gay restaurant with my friend. We got there, the food was delicious except for one thing the server was gay and he kept on flirting/hitting on me. I'm 16 my friend she is also 16 too. The server I assume was probably in his late 30s early 40s. So anyway he kept on winking at me, smiling, and talking in a creepy way. He also called us "ladies". Uh.. I'm a dude. The food was good. Other than that it was awkward for me getting hit on by an old man. Comments suggestions advice? Last edited by omgnoway; 26th Nov 2011 at 11:41 AM..

26th Nov 2011, 11:37 AM	#2
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Went to a gay restaurant 1) Those exist?!?! Gay restaurants really??? 2) Attitude is key, just act uninterested or snotty or do something really unattractive. Haha he might have also been trying to get a good tip. Waiters are crafty these days! __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

26th Nov 2011, 11:40 AM	#3
omgnoway Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Yes! There are gay restaurants! They are usually next to g bars or clubs or like a gay district. But yeah I did act uninterested and he might've acted like that for a better tip. But dude you're like 30 years older than me haha

26th Nov 2011, 01:06 PM	#5
Mimerio Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends, Mum and Dad, teachers Location: London, England Age: 18 Posts: 229 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Gay restaurants? Sounds fun Would love to try it one day

26th Nov 2011, 04:54 PM	#7
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,083 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Gay restraunts!?? cool!!! Makes sense though being in a "Gay" area. __________________ Through pain, lies success.

26th Nov 2011, 05:04 PM	#8
GoinStag I'm straight now............sikeeee Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guy fetish Out Status: Parents, siblings, and therapist Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan Age: 18 Posts: 1,485 Join Date: May 2010	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Lol am I the only one who knew about them? Apparently there are a bunch in Midtown Atlanta. __________________ *I've been thinking 'bout this all day long, Never felt a feeling quite this strong...I can't believe how much it turns me on, Just to be your man...*

26th Nov 2011, 05:38 PM	#10
Noir EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A select few Location: Missing Age: 18 Posts: 361 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Yay! Gay restaurant! xD I've had the same thing happen to me about two years ago...it was creepy, but I agree--just act completely uninterested. Eventually, he'll go away (if not until after you pay your bill). __________________ The opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

26th Nov 2011, 06:14 PM	#11
RedState The Grendel to Everyone's Beowulf Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: 2 Location: The Southeastern Conference Age: 30 Posts: 1,448 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Well, I wouldn't be too creeped out about it...the dude was probably fishing for a good tip. Look at it this way...when mid-aged men go to a Hooters, do you think the waitresses there flirt with them because they want to get in their pants? No...they are hoping to add a little more percentage to their bottom line. I wouldn't worry too much about it. __________________

26th Nov 2011, 06:16 PM	#12
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Went to a gay restaurant I have never heard of a gay restaurant either. Sounds like fun though. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

27th Nov 2011, 12:57 AM	#17
crazyhead flying away Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Texas Age: 22 Posts: 247 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Whenever you go someplace and the people who work there are flirting with you, it's just to be friendly so they can get your service again and/or get a good tip. I don't see any reason not to play along with it until they give you their phone number. Or ask for yours. Even then, there's no reason to do anything other than politely say you're not interested. Unless he (in the unlikely case) he stalks you. Then call the police. And no. As far as I know, flirting with someone underage is not illegal. Just trying to have sex with them is. __________________ "Dyin' is the day worth livin' for"

27th Nov 2011, 08:19 AM	#18
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Went to a gay restaurant There's actually a chain of them - Hamburger Mary's. It's campy and fun, and even my rather conservative brother has no problem bringing his wife and five-year-old daughter there. There's a place nearby that has Drag Queen Brunch and so forth. As far as the flirting goes, you can easily put an end to it. If he calls you ladies, just roll your eyes and say "Well, this 'lady' is going to have the cheeseburger." They're used to dealing with people, and will pick up on the hint that you're not interested in anything like that. Lex

3rd Dec 2011, 06:33 PM	#19
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Went to a gay restaurant Maybe not a restaurant per se, but when I was in Toronto I very much enjoyed the Gay Pubs I went to for Supper. The only gay licensed establishment I've been to before are the dirty dance clubs in my city. __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

3rd Dec 2011, 11:44 PM	#20
J Snow EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Sex - Male, Gender -Female/bigender/not quite sure Orientation: Primarily interested in men. Out Status: fairly out about sexuality, gender not so much Location: Des Moines, Iowa Age: 22 Posts: 1,391 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Went to a gay restaurant I have never really heard of gay restaurants... This pleases me. __________________ "You don't need to hide my friend, for I am just like you."

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