Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Blkrsn · 26th Nov 2011, 11:49 PM

The other day, while my sister was over, we were watching stuff on TV, and someone said, "We're Queer! We're Here! Get used to it!"

well, she laughed and looked at me and said,

"Well, I'm Straight! Its Great! Get used to it!"

I burst out laughing so hard I nearly fell ff the couch.

After coming out of the closet, I've had to put up with a lot more Gay jokes at my expense, but its ok, because the family I come from is like that, we tease each other all the time. Usually after that I respond, "Yeah well, Girls are cuter anyway." and one of my sisters would reply, "Yes we are!"

But... I have been reading so many stories so far on EC where people have not gotten a good response...

I even got a good response from my Type A, Christian, Nana... who literally hates everything...

I have not come across a single person who hasn't been ok with the fact that I am gay. But, I have not seen one article where someone else's family was ok with it...

Everyone either knew already, or are completely fine. My mother was a little shocked, but now she's fine with it... in fact, she has told EVERY SINGLE PERSON WILLING TO LISTEN. Apparently all of her work place knows, as well as all my extended family, all that is left if to come out to the rest of the world...

I feel so bad for everyone else, and I honestly wish there was something I could do to help you, as for people waiting to come out, I wish you have this easy of a time coming out as well.

Hana Solo · 26th Nov 2011, 11:56 PM

I'm so glad people took it well for you

I love your sister! XD

Rooni321 · 27th Nov 2011, 12:31 AM

Ditto. Everyone has been cool with it so far!

<3

crazyhead · 27th Nov 2011, 01:02 AM

Congratulations. I also had a good response from my friends and family. I run into the occasional idiot, but it's not a big deal. Even my boyfriend's Christian parents are okay with it and have mentioned the possibility of us getting married and having kids in the future.

needshelp · 27th Nov 2011, 01:12 AM

well yeah.

Blkrsn · 27th Nov 2011, 01:55 AM

Yay! I was starting to think I was an outcast even in the LGBT society.

query · 27th Nov 2011, 02:52 AM

wish my family was like yours, my mom actually was this close from an all caps rage just from seeing a 'love takes courage' gay billboard, and my dad says he just trys to remember lgbt used to be people. my parents are the best! (loooots of sarcasm)

FoxFire11 · 27th Nov 2011, 02:56 AM

im really fortunate the people Ive told have been really cool, and of course my friends have been dropping a lot more (perhaps too many

) gay jokes.

Colton · 27th Nov 2011, 03:05 AM

Lol everyone I've told has been perfectly fine with this

Blkrsn · 27th Nov 2011, 04:46 AM

I'm honestly surprised myself at my parents reactions XD I thought my Dad was going to start hating me... but his response was not an ALL CAPS RAGE but 'I already knew that.' To tell you the truth, even though it was a great answer, it was a bit of a 'disappointment' since I thought it was going to be much more dramatic. But in the end, it was my Mom who had more trouble accepting then my Dad XD

**Owen** · 27th Nov 2011, 05:30 AM

I have yet to have a single person react badly to it. My dad was a bit disbelieving at first, but since then, he has been okay with it. All of my friends, classmates who know, relatives who know, etc. have all been okay with it. It has reached the point where I don't think twice when telling people because I can't fathom the idea of someone reacting badly. I'm extremely lucky in that regard, and I wish we could all be so fortunate.

Danielle · 27th Nov 2011, 06:05 AM

Everyone who matters has been ok with it.

Zontar · 27th Nov 2011, 06:55 AM

Well, I've been fortunate enough that the worst my parents have done was sweep it under the rug.

**Lexington** · 27th Nov 2011, 07:57 AM

The only negative reactions I got were people I hardly knew, so they don't matter.

Lex

Chouchou · 27th Nov 2011, 08:06 AM

I've gotten nothing but positive responses from people I've told. My parents don't know yet, so that remains to be seen.

Mad Man L · 27th Nov 2011, 02:25 PM

I haven't got any negative responses. Most of the responses have either been positive, or sometimes neutral. This being said, I haven't told any of my family, and they're the people who will most likely think negatively of it.

yeahyeah · 27th Nov 2011, 02:36 PM

It's great that your family took it well. Actually my parents took it well too C: My dad even asked me one day: What about your boy? (meaning how was he and what's new) haha actually his expresion was in spanish and it was like: y tu morrito?
LOL it sounded weird when he asked me but I love how he wanted to know how was my relationship.

26th Nov 2011, 11:49 PM	#1
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? The other day, while my sister was over, we were watching stuff on TV, and someone said, "We're Queer! We're Here! Get used to it!" well, she laughed and looked at me and said, "Well, I'm Straight! Its Great! Get used to it!" I burst out laughing so hard I nearly fell ff the couch. After coming out of the closet, I've had to put up with a lot more Gay jokes at my expense, but its ok, because the family I come from is like that, we tease each other all the time. Usually after that I respond, "Yeah well, Girls are cuter anyway." and one of my sisters would reply, "Yes we are!" But... I have been reading so many stories so far on EC where people have not gotten a good response... I even got a good response from my Type A, Christian, Nana... who literally hates everything... I have not come across a single person who hasn't been ok with the fact that I am gay. But, I have not seen one article where someone else's family was ok with it... Everyone either knew already, or are completely fine. My mother was a little shocked, but now she's fine with it... in fact, she has told EVERY SINGLE PERSON WILLING TO LISTEN. Apparently all of her work place knows, as well as all my extended family, all that is left if to come out to the rest of the world... I feel so bad for everyone else, and I honestly wish there was something I could do to help you, as for people waiting to come out, I wish you have this easy of a time coming out as well. __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

26th Nov 2011, 11:56 PM	#2
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? I'm so glad people took it well for you I love your sister! XD __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

27th Nov 2011, 12:31 AM	#3
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Ditto. Everyone has been cool with it so far! <3 __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

27th Nov 2011, 01:02 AM	#4
crazyhead flying away Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Texas Age: 22 Posts: 247 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Congratulations. I also had a good response from my friends and family. I run into the occasional idiot, but it's not a big deal. Even my boyfriend's Christian parents are okay with it and have mentioned the possibility of us getting married and having kids in the future. __________________ "Dyin' is the day worth livin' for"

27th Nov 2011, 01:12 AM	#5
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? well yeah.

27th Nov 2011, 01:55 AM	#6
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Yay! I was starting to think I was an outcast even in the LGBT society. __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

27th Nov 2011, 02:52 AM	#7
query Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? wish my family was like yours, my mom actually was this close from an all caps rage just from seeing a 'love takes courage' gay billboard, and my dad says he just trys to remember lgbt used to be people. my parents are the best! (loooots of sarcasm)

27th Nov 2011, 02:56 AM	#8
FoxFire11 Here be Dragons! Full Member Gender: Physically Male. Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Victoria, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 72 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? im really fortunate the people Ive told have been really cool, and of course my friends have been dropping a lot more (perhaps too many ) gay jokes. __________________

27th Nov 2011, 03:05 AM	#9
Colton Hit the Lights Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Any one who wants to know Location: California Age: 15 Posts: 1,210 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Lol everyone I've told has been perfectly fine with this __________________ "It's always been about me, myself, and I. I thought relationships were nothing but a waste of time. I never wanted to be anybody's other half. I was happy saying I know love, it wouldn't last." <3

27th Nov 2011, 04:46 AM	#10
Blkrsn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender ( FtM ) Orientation: Since I'm trans, I guess I'm straight :) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada Posts: 138 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? I'm honestly surprised myself at my parents reactions XD I thought my Dad was going to start hating me... but his response was not an ALL CAPS RAGE but 'I already knew that.' To tell you the truth, even though it was a great answer, it was a bit of a 'disappointment' since I thought it was going to be much more dramatic. But in the end, it was my Mom who had more trouble accepting then my Dad XD __________________ Frozen and broken. Don't know where you're going. Losing your identity. You're so caught up in hiding, but everybody sees. You're never gonna feel, you're never gonna heal, you're never gonna know what's fake or real 'Til you know who you are.

27th Nov 2011, 05:30 AM	#11
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,873 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? I have yet to have a single person react badly to it. My dad was a bit disbelieving at first, but since then, he has been okay with it. All of my friends, classmates who know, relatives who know, etc. have all been okay with it. It has reached the point where I don't think twice when telling people because I can't fathom the idea of someone reacting badly. I'm extremely lucky in that regard, and I wish we could all be so fortunate. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

27th Nov 2011, 06:05 AM	#12
Danielle EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Most people Location: NSW, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 525 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Everyone who matters has been ok with it. __________________ Homophobia is gay.

27th Nov 2011, 06:55 AM	#13
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,539 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? Well, I've been fortunate enough that the worst my parents have done was sweep it under the rug. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

27th Nov 2011, 07:57 AM	#14
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? The only negative reactions I got were people I hardly knew, so they don't matter. Lex

27th Nov 2011, 08:06 AM	#15
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Am I the only person where EVERYONE is ok with it? I've gotten nothing but positive responses from people I've told. My parents don't know yet, so that remains to be seen. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

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