Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

SomethingSimple · 29th Nov 2011, 02:59 PM

So, I hope this is an acceptable thread. If not plz kill it!

The aim of the thread is to be a FUN thread. Post a pic of the first celeb you were attracted to that made you stop and think "oh I might be <insert orientation>".

(The point of using a celeb is so no one posts personal pictures - plz DO NOT DO THIS!)

If you dont have a celeb, but a story and want to share, plz tell it. Lets focus on the fun / exciting part of it, if we can, rather than all the other reasons we are members of this forum (doubts, coming out, hard times, etc).

MINE!
Shane, the L word:

Pash from Whip it (those freckles!):

Who's your celeb crush / person who made you realise you were batting for the other team / every team!

Mimerio · 29th Nov 2011, 05:09 PM

I didn't have a celeb crush, but I do have a story, it's on my blog

but it just came to me that i was gay, no one in general

crazyhead · 29th Nov 2011, 05:12 PM

After a while, it just occurred to me that most straight guys probably do not enjoy the same "internet cinematic material" that I had been.

Pilgrim is hot · 29th Nov 2011, 05:49 PM

I guess kinda funny story of when I first knew I was different to the other guys.

When I was about 13-14 years old I coach trip around a few countries in europe with a load of other kids from school and were on the way back. So far it had been a blast, we didn't stay at hotels, just slept on the coach full of 30+ kids mucking about.

Now towards the end of the trip one of the guys (thinking back he was quite cute) randomly sat on my lap as a joke as he was saying I was enjoying it, bear in mind this was with about 20-30+ minutes left till we returned home. I never protested or moved and tbh I really enjoyed it

he kept this up along with the joke until my thighs started to go numb and I told him to stop messing around

but yeah that trip was totally awesome

Thinking back that is the first thing outside my head that let me know I was different to the other guys, don't know how funny it was but makes me laugh.

Oh and in terms of celebs who I first liked main two are:

Ryan Reynolds

Micheal Cera

Silver Sparrow · 29th Nov 2011, 06:11 PM

Lauren Lopez:

Darren Criss (Best image I could find)

Rooni321 · 29th Nov 2011, 06:16 PM

Hmm..no celebs.
BUT the moment I thought I might be gay is when YouTube channel LesbianAnswers explained the difference between bisexuals and lesbians.
Boy did THAT hit me.
I had a strong attraction towards girls and had a huge obsessive crush on this one girl before I thought 'dude..I'm so gay now'.
Ahhh memories

**Maddy** · 29th Nov 2011, 06:26 PM

When I was a kid I was mostly friends with boys. I started secondary school and was suddenly in an all-girls environment, and found my first female best friend within a few months. It was the first time I'd had an intimate, affectionate friendship with a girl, and it was just around the time hormones were starting to kick in, age 13ish. I refused to admit it even to myself, and tried to convince myself that my desire to be close to her and affectionate with her physically was just how best friendship with a girl worked, but the dreams I was having about her were certainly not platonic.

needshelp · 29th Nov 2011, 06:29 PM

well, okay. i don't remember exactly the first celeb but i'll post a few tv personalities i had crushes on that helped me along the way realize that i wasn't straight.

tommy from power rangers

danny from road rules xtreme

there's more to that celeb list but either i forgot about them or don't feel like posting them. the rest of them are everyday people. all i know is that all the guy crushes and little to no girl crushes amongst other things from the past 2 decades of my life pretty much made me question my straight card. a good looking girl doesn't have the same effect on me as a hot guy does.

Daisy1 · 29th Nov 2011, 06:58 PM

I totally remember the moment. I was in 7th grade and seeing Ricky Martin in concert. He had these sexy female backup dancers and I couldn't stop staring at them. I literally thought to myself: "oh my gosh, am I gay?"

---------- Post added 29th Nov 2011 at 09:59 PM ----------

PS. @ SomethingSimple So you're a Shane, girl? I'm much more Helena/Dana/Marina

Black Cat · 29th Nov 2011, 08:06 PM

My answer is pretty boring actually because honestly, I never had an "AH-HAH!" moment with regard to my sexuality. I just kind of always knew. For the longest time I was under the impression that in order to be with a guy, I'd have to become a girl (an idea that, between the ages of about 7 or 8 all the way through age 13 or so, I was totally okay with).

For the sake of entertainment, I knew I was different when I discovered that I was the only boy I knew who would dress up as the Disney Villianesses (particularly Maleficent and Cruella DeVil). I was a total Drag Queen as a child.

But I learned what gay was when Titanic came out and my babysitter's daughter was carrying on about how hot Leonardo Dicaprio was, and I agreed with her. I was in like, second or third grade when I discovered this... That and the same girl used to dress up as the Spice Girls with me. She always called Posh Spice first, so I'd usually be Ginger Spice. xD

starfish · 29th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM

Oh I remember the picture. It is just not appropriate to post here.

thecat06 · 29th Nov 2011, 09:18 PM

I don't have any pictures, but I have a story.
My friend, who we will call alice, posted a video on facebook about gay rights and asked people to put their opinions in the comments so she could use it for a class. My youth director put some not so nice comments (I won't go into it here). I began to research LGBT issues and then realized that I myself was somewhere on the LGBT spectrum.

query · 29th Nov 2011, 09:51 PM

this greek guy in my spanish class was taking of his sweater and part of his shirt went up and he had these gorgeous abs, and i was like "yeah i might be gay"

J Snow · 29th Nov 2011, 10:50 PM

No celeb. I've never really had much of a celeb crush on someone of either sex. The earliest media example I can think of were actually the episodes of pokemon where ash dresses as a girl to fight the plant gym leader, and the fairly odd parents where Timmy wishes to be a girl to sneak into some party or something. I remember having a weird tingly feeling wishing I could be put in those situations.

The first real thing that ever happened to me that made me feel queer I suppose was when I started pretending to be a girl in chat rooms. I was about 12 or 13 and although I was often engaging in "cyber sex" with men, I didn't really come to the conclusion I was gay then. I hadn't even gone through puberty, and I knew at the time I just liked the feeling of someone out there thinking I was a girl.

NoPlanB · 29th Nov 2011, 10:54 PM

I had a strange obsession with pictures of shirtless guys in my coloring books. XD

Shades of Gray · 30th Nov 2011, 12:38 AM

Well I didn't realize it at the time, but I've had a celebrity crush on Brad Pitt ever since I saw Se7en when I was six or so (yeah, my parents let my sister and I watch movies like that when we were kids, lol).

Random pic from Se7en:

As far as when I first knew that I might be anything but straight, it was really in the back of mind since I was 11-12. I knew I was at least bisexual at that point. It wasn't till I was 16 or so that it came to the forefront..
I was setting up my alto sax for a Homecoming Pep Rally and this freshman I knew from being a student aid jokingly asked, "*My name*, why don't you love me?" (kind of an inside joke from class).
Without even thinking about it I said "Of course I don't love you, silly. I love *best (guy) friend's name*." And then I was like :0 Oh my god did I just say that OUT LOUD?.

From that point on I really couldn't deny it to myself or keep it in the back of my mind anymore. I basically outed myself, to myself, lol

(Luckily my friends didn't hear it though).

Sadepeura · 30th Nov 2011, 01:28 AM

I didn't realise it at the time but when I was in primary and secondary school I used to really like this girl on TV:

Venla Saartamo

It didn't hit me though before I had a crush on my best friend when I was 17.

Around that time I also used to really like Alexis Bledel:

Oh, yes, I'm definitely gay.

xXPsychedelicXx · 30th Nov 2011, 08:30 AM

*

^^^

While my younger sister had pictures of Zac Efron, I had pictures of Vanessa. Hey, don't judge. She's sexy.

caughtbywitness · 30th Nov 2011, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gracieling

lauren Lopez: image

Darren Criss (best Image I Could Find) image

Avpm!

SomethingSimple · 30th Nov 2011, 04:03 PM

So many great answers!

Can you post that lesbian vs bi video?

29th Nov 2011, 02:59 PM	#1
SomethingSimple Definitely bisexual.. what now? Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Location: Ireland Posts: 21 Join Date: Nov 2011	Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? So, I hope this is an acceptable thread. If not plz kill it! The aim of the thread is to be a FUN thread. Post a pic of the first celeb you were attracted to that made you stop and think "oh I might be <insert orientation>". (The point of using a celeb is so no one posts personal pictures - plz DO NOT DO THIS!) If you dont have a celeb, but a story and want to share, plz tell it. Lets focus on the fun / exciting part of it, if we can, rather than all the other reasons we are members of this forum (doubts, coming out, hard times, etc). MINE! Shane, the L word: Pash from Whip it (those freckles!): Who's your celeb crush / person who made you realise you were batting for the other team / every team!

29th Nov 2011, 05:09 PM	#2
Mimerio Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends, Mum and Dad, teachers Location: London, England Age: 18 Posts: 229 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I didn't have a celeb crush, but I do have a story, it's on my blog but it just came to me that i was gay, no one in general

29th Nov 2011, 05:12 PM	#3
crazyhead flying away Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Texas Age: 22 Posts: 247 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? After a while, it just occurred to me that most straight guys probably do not enjoy the same "internet cinematic material" that I had been. __________________ "Dyin' is the day worth livin' for"

29th Nov 2011, 05:49 PM	#4
Pilgrim is hot Gamer Guy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to 2 family members and 1 friend Location: England - Somewhere in the middle Age: 24 Posts: 225 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I guess kinda funny story of when I first knew I was different to the other guys. When I was about 13-14 years old I coach trip around a few countries in europe with a load of other kids from school and were on the way back. So far it had been a blast, we didn't stay at hotels, just slept on the coach full of 30+ kids mucking about. Now towards the end of the trip one of the guys (thinking back he was quite cute) randomly sat on my lap as a joke as he was saying I was enjoying it, bear in mind this was with about 20-30+ minutes left till we returned home. I never protested or moved and tbh I really enjoyed it he kept this up along with the joke until my thighs started to go numb and I told him to stop messing around but yeah that trip was totally awesome Thinking back that is the first thing outside my head that let me know I was different to the other guys, don't know how funny it was but makes me laugh. Oh and in terms of celebs who I first liked main two are: Ryan Reynolds Micheal Cera __________________ "Son, we want you, be elusive, but don't walk far" - David Bowie

29th Nov 2011, 06:11 PM	#5
Silver Sparrow Proud to be a bookworm! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Nothing quite fits... Out Status: One person IRL Location: Massachusetts Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? Lauren Lopez: Darren Criss (Best image I could find) __________________ Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

29th Nov 2011, 06:16 PM	#6
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? Hmm..no celebs. BUT the moment I thought I might be gay is when YouTube channel LesbianAnswers explained the difference between bisexuals and lesbians. Boy did THAT hit me. I had a strong attraction towards girls and had a huge obsessive crush on this one girl before I thought 'dude..I'm so gay now'. Ahhh memories __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

29th Nov 2011, 06:26 PM	#7
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? When I was a kid I was mostly friends with boys. I started secondary school and was suddenly in an all-girls environment, and found my first female best friend within a few months. It was the first time I'd had an intimate, affectionate friendship with a girl, and it was just around the time hormones were starting to kick in, age 13ish. I refused to admit it even to myself, and tried to convince myself that my desire to be close to her and affectionate with her physically was just how best friendship with a girl worked, but the dreams I was having about her were certainly not platonic. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

29th Nov 2011, 06:29 PM	#8
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? well, okay. i don't remember exactly the first celeb but i'll post a few tv personalities i had crushes on that helped me along the way realize that i wasn't straight. tommy from power rangers danny from road rules xtreme there's more to that celeb list but either i forgot about them or don't feel like posting them. the rest of them are everyday people. all i know is that all the guy crushes and little to no girl crushes amongst other things from the past 2 decades of my life pretty much made me question my straight card. a good looking girl doesn't have the same effect on me as a hot guy does. Last edited by needshelp; 29th Nov 2011 at 06:43 PM..

29th Nov 2011, 06:58 PM	#9
Daisy1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Girls Out Status: Pretty much out! Location: East Coast Age: 26 Posts: 307 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I totally remember the moment. I was in 7th grade and seeing Ricky Martin in concert. He had these sexy female backup dancers and I couldn't stop staring at them. I literally thought to myself: "oh my gosh, am I gay?" ---------- Post added 29th Nov 2011 at 09:59 PM ---------- PS. @ SomethingSimple So you're a Shane, girl? I'm much more Helena/Dana/Marina

29th Nov 2011, 08:06 PM	#10
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? My answer is pretty boring actually because honestly, I never had an "AH-HAH!" moment with regard to my sexuality. I just kind of always knew. For the longest time I was under the impression that in order to be with a guy, I'd have to become a girl (an idea that, between the ages of about 7 or 8 all the way through age 13 or so, I was totally okay with). For the sake of entertainment, I knew I was different when I discovered that I was the only boy I knew who would dress up as the Disney Villianesses (particularly Maleficent and Cruella DeVil). I was a total Drag Queen as a child. But I learned what gay was when Titanic came out and my babysitter's daughter was carrying on about how hot Leonardo Dicaprio was, and I agreed with her. I was in like, second or third grade when I discovered this... That and the same girl used to dress up as the Spice Girls with me. She always called Posh Spice first, so I'd usually be Ginger Spice. xD __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

29th Nov 2011, 09:01 PM	#11
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,109 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? Oh I remember the picture. It is just not appropriate to post here. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

29th Nov 2011, 09:18 PM	#12
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I don't have any pictures, but I have a story. My friend, who we will call alice, posted a video on facebook about gay rights and asked people to put their opinions in the comments so she could use it for a class. My youth director put some not so nice comments (I won't go into it here). I began to research LGBT issues and then realized that I myself was somewhere on the LGBT spectrum. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

29th Nov 2011, 09:51 PM	#13
query Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? this greek guy in my spanish class was taking of his sweater and part of his shirt went up and he had these gorgeous abs, and i was like "yeah i might be gay"

29th Nov 2011, 10:50 PM	#14
J Snow EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Sex - Male, Gender -Female/bigender/not quite sure Orientation: Primarily interested in men. Out Status: fairly out about sexuality, gender not so much Location: Des Moines, Iowa Age: 22 Posts: 1,392 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? No celeb. I've never really had much of a celeb crush on someone of either sex. The earliest media example I can think of were actually the episodes of pokemon where ash dresses as a girl to fight the plant gym leader, and the fairly odd parents where Timmy wishes to be a girl to sneak into some party or something. I remember having a weird tingly feeling wishing I could be put in those situations. The first real thing that ever happened to me that made me feel queer I suppose was when I started pretending to be a girl in chat rooms. I was about 12 or 13 and although I was often engaging in "cyber sex" with men, I didn't really come to the conclusion I was gay then. I hadn't even gone through puberty, and I knew at the time I just liked the feeling of someone out there thinking I was a girl. __________________ "You don't need to hide my friend, for I am just like you."

29th Nov 2011, 10:54 PM	#15
NoPlanB This is a warning, a courtesy call Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homoromantic asexual Out Status: Still in the closet Location: Michigan Age: 20 Posts: 289 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I had a strange obsession with pictures of shirtless guys in my coloring books. XD __________________ We all want to be somebody We just need a taste of who we are We all want to be somebody We're willing to go, but not that far

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30th Nov 2011, 12:38 AM	#16
Shades of Gray EC's insomniac Regular Member Gender: How about...feminine bear? :P Orientation: Phys attr: bi. Sexual attr: gay. Rom. androcentric Out Status: Everyone that matters, except father and extd. fam Location: Montana or Seattle, dependent on time of year. Age: 20 Posts: 647 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? Well I didn't realize it at the time, but I've had a celebrity crush on Brad Pitt ever since I saw Se7en when I was six or so (yeah, my parents let my sister and I watch movies like that when we were kids, lol). Random pic from Se7en: As far as when I first knew that I might be anything but straight, it was really in the back of mind since I was 11-12. I knew I was at least bisexual at that point. It wasn't till I was 16 or so that it came to the forefront.. I was setting up my alto sax for a Homecoming Pep Rally and this freshman I knew from being a student aid jokingly asked, "My name, why don't you love me?" (kind of an inside joke from class). Without even thinking about it I said "Of course I don't love you, silly. I love best (guy) friend's name." And then I was like :0 Oh my god did I just say that OUT LOUD?. From that point on I really couldn't deny it to myself or keep it in the back of my mind anymore. I basically outed myself, to myself, lol (Luckily my friends didn't hear it though).

30th Nov 2011, 01:28 AM	#17
Sadepeura Bow ties are cool. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual lesbian in a heterosexual relationship Out Status: Most people Location: Scotland Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? I didn't realise it at the time but when I was in primary and secondary school I used to really like this girl on TV: Venla Saartamo It didn't hit me though before I had a crush on my best friend when I was 17. Around that time I also used to really like Alexis Bledel: Oh, yes, I'm definitely gay. __________________ "What’s the worst that could happen?" "You could get torn to pieces by a monster you can’t see." - Amy Pond

30th Nov 2011, 08:30 AM	#18
xXPsychedelicXx ... and the lesbians. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Blue, pink and purple. Out Status: A few people. Age: 16 Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? * ^^^ While my younger sister had pictures of Zac Efron, I had pictures of Vanessa. Hey, don't judge. She's sexy. __________________ ... We'll write a song that turns out the lights.

30th Nov 2011, 04:03 PM	#20
SomethingSimple Definitely bisexual.. what now? Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Location: Ireland Posts: 21 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Who/what made you think "huh, I might be gay / bi / trans"? So many great answers! Can you post that lesbian vs bi video?