Official Holiday Frustrations Thread - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

J Snow · 30th Nov 2011, 09:25 PM

Okay, so since this is bound to pop up sooner or later anyway... Here's a free place to vent about anything that's bugging you about this time of year. I have a couple.

1) Christmas shopping with my bf has been taking me into a lot of Victoria's Secrets and places like that where I've been feeling disturbing amounts of jealousy toward the women shoppers and models =/

2) I came out as gay last year a couple years before Christmas. My parents and I have just kind of avoided talking about it again since then, so I'm really starting to feel a little depressed for showing no progress of being accepted in that time. Plus it brings up memories of me feeling like I ruined Christmas =/

So if you've got something you wanna get off your chest about the holidays, here's your place to let it out.

gonecountry · 30th Nov 2011, 10:10 PM

ok the holidays are approaching and i'm 18 and still haven't had a real relationship. i haven't fond a relatinoship of any kind period. i'm only out to noe person and i figured i wanted to come out to a few more over winter break and i still don't feel like i can. i guess i might just have to force myself cuz that's sorta the best way to break out of the closet, no?

Cymbrii · 30th Nov 2011, 10:33 PM

I always think about how nice it would be to spend the holidays with friends... sharing a special time with someone special to me, if not a mate then at least a good friend that I could show my appreciation for, and enjoy being around.

Of course, that all crumbles down when I remember I don't have any friends. x.x

fiddledeedee · 1st Dec 2011, 05:46 AM

Can't my family EVER make an arrangement that we are all happy with since Mum and Dad split? This year, I am at home with Mum for all of Christmas and then go to the grandparents' with Dad on Boxing Day. Dad and his girlfriend are at their house with her kids the whole time, until Dad takes my brother(s) and I to his parents. I would RATHER be with Dad, grandparents, and step-family the whole time, but then poor little Mother would feel left out.

malachite · 1st Dec 2011, 09:47 AM

Am I the only one who hates Christmas?

I feel its been ruined by corporations, greed, and the need to get get get.

This season is so hypocritical it drives me nuts!

Goodwill towward your fellow man, but beat the living hell outta each other for the last tickle me Furby, or whatever damn toy the give "have to have" this year.

Everyone should be happy this time of year, yet the suicide rate is always the highest.

If I could I'd invent a cryogenic chamber and just skip Dec all together.

Zontar · 1st Dec 2011, 10:13 AM

I go through the trouble of putting up my tree only to find out it doesn't light. :c

thecat06 · 1st Dec 2011, 11:16 AM

I hate that every year my grandma gets me something that is really girly in an attempt to make me girly.

We usually take it back to the store that she got it at.

Cymbrii · 1st Dec 2011, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by malachite

Everyone should be happy this time of year, yet the suicide rate is always the highest.

It's actually not. #1 in this article: The 6 Most Frequently Quoted Bullsh*t Statistics | Cracked.com

**Eleanor Rigby** · 1st Dec 2011, 12:19 PM

I hate that my grand-father won't spent Christmas at home this year. I hate that I'm going to wish him a merry christmas in his hospital bed. I hate that he won't be able to wish me a merry christmas because he can't talk anymore. And I hate more than anything the idea that it might be my last christmas with him.
I adore my grand-father. He always had been the sweetest, the most loving and supportive person in my life and I have no idea how christmas will ever feel like christmas again without him.

Rooni321 · 1st Dec 2011, 09:39 PM

People are so angry around the holidays.
I'm specifically talking about drivers and shoppersm
Yikes.

---------- Post added 1st Dec 2011 at 09:40 PM ----------

People are so angry around the holidays.
I'm specifically talking about drivers and shoppersm
Yikes.

suninthesky · 1st Dec 2011, 09:56 PM

Everyone has someone to be with as a couple, and I feel kind of alone. I know I'm just 18, but it would be nice to be able to experience being with someone.

11 11 11 · 3rd Dec 2011, 11:14 AM

^ You're not the only one suninthesky.

alex2020 · 3rd Dec 2011, 11:16 AM

I'm not looking forward to the holiday traffic. The highways will be clogged with a mix of angry drivers, speeding maniacs, and those creeping along 20mph below the speed limit. Throw in the usual amount of trucks, along with an abundance of RVs, and you've got the recipe for a fun drive.

thecat06 · 3rd Dec 2011, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by alex2020

I'm not looking forward to the holiday traffic. The highways will be clogged with a mix of angry drivers, speeding maniacs, and those creeping along 20mph below the speed limit. Throw in the usual amount of trucks, along with an abundance of RVs, and you've got the recipe for a fun drive.

I have to drive home from school in that traffic... it's normally a 2 and a half hour drive..

alex2020 · 3rd Dec 2011, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by thecat06

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Originally Posted by alex2020

I'm not looking forward to the holiday traffic. The highways will be clogged with a mix of angry drivers, speeding maniacs, and those creeping along 20mph below the speed limit. Throw in the usual amount of trucks, along with an abundance of RVs, and you've got the recipe for a fun drive.

I have to drive home from school in that traffic... it's normally a 2 and a half hour drive..

I know... my drive is usually 4 hours. Last year it turned into 6 hours.

J Snow · 3rd Dec 2011, 01:21 PM

Wow, so I was just looking at my OP and realized this made no sense.

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I came out as gay last year a couple years before Christmas.

That should have said, I came out as gay last year a couple weeks before Christmas.

thecat06 · 3rd Dec 2011, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by alex2020

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Originally Posted by thecat06

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Originally Posted by alex2020

I'm not looking forward to the holiday traffic. The highways will be clogged with a mix of angry drivers, speeding maniacs, and those creeping along 20mph below the speed limit. Throw in the usual amount of trucks, along with an abundance of RVs, and you've got the recipe for a fun drive.

I have to drive home from school in that traffic... it's normally a 2 and a half hour drive..

I know... my drive is usually 4 hours. Last year it turned into 6 hours.

That really sucks... hopefully since I'm leaving my school a little late (I have an exam on the last day of exams), I'll miss a lot of the school traffic. But I still have to deal with the increased shopping/travel traffic.

Noir · 3rd Dec 2011, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by 11 11 11

^ You're not the only one suninthesky.

I agree! I always feel left out when one of my older college friends invites me to her party every year where she basically rubs it in my face that I'm still a child and she's got a girlfriend.

jimL · 5th Dec 2011, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by thecat06

I hate that every year my grandma gets me something that is really girly in an attempt to make me girly.

We usually take it back to the store that she got it at.

Don't take it back! I'm sure there are lots of guys here that would love to have some of the stuff that Grammy gave you, including me!

J Snow · 7th Dec 2011, 02:15 AM

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Originally Posted by thecat06

I hate that every year my grandma gets me something that is really girly in an attempt to make me girly.

We usually take it back to the store that she got it at.

I'll take it :3

30th Nov 2011, 10:10 PM	#2
gonecountry Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people here on campus, almost nobody at home. Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 38 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread ok the holidays are approaching and i'm 18 and still haven't had a real relationship. i haven't fond a relatinoship of any kind period. i'm only out to noe person and i figured i wanted to come out to a few more over winter break and i still don't feel like i can. i guess i might just have to force myself cuz that's sorta the best way to break out of the closet, no?

30th Nov 2011, 10:33 PM	#3
Cymbrii Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Internet Location: Virginia Age: 18 Posts: 99 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread I always think about how nice it would be to spend the holidays with friends... sharing a special time with someone special to me, if not a mate then at least a good friend that I could show my appreciation for, and enjoy being around. Of course, that all crumbles down when I remember I don't have any friends. x.x

1st Dec 2011, 05:46 AM	#4
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread Can't my family EVER make an arrangement that we are all happy with since Mum and Dad split? This year, I am at home with Mum for all of Christmas and then go to the grandparents' with Dad on Boxing Day. Dad and his girlfriend are at their house with her kids the whole time, until Dad takes my brother(s) and I to his parents. I would RATHER be with Dad, grandparents, and step-family the whole time, but then poor little Mother would feel left out. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

1st Dec 2011, 09:47 AM	#5
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread Am I the only one who hates Christmas? I feel its been ruined by corporations, greed, and the need to get get get. This season is so hypocritical it drives me nuts! Goodwill towward your fellow man, but beat the living hell outta each other for the last tickle me Furby, or whatever damn toy the give "have to have" this year. Everyone should be happy this time of year, yet the suicide rate is always the highest. If I could I'd invent a cryogenic chamber and just skip Dec all together. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

1st Dec 2011, 10:13 AM	#6
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,539 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread I go through the trouble of putting up my tree only to find out it doesn't light. :c __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

30th Nov 2011, 09:25 PM	#1
J Snow EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Sex - Male, Gender -Female/bigender/not quite sure Orientation: Primarily interested in men. Out Status: fairly out about sexuality, gender not so much Location: Des Moines, Iowa Age: 22 Posts: 1,392 Join Date: Aug 2011	Official Holiday Frustrations Thread Okay, so since this is bound to pop up sooner or later anyway... Here's a free place to vent about anything that's bugging you about this time of year. I have a couple. 1) Christmas shopping with my bf has been taking me into a lot of Victoria's Secrets and places like that where I've been feeling disturbing amounts of jealousy toward the women shoppers and models =/ 2) I came out as gay last year a couple years before Christmas. My parents and I have just kind of avoided talking about it again since then, so I'm really starting to feel a little depressed for showing no progress of being accepted in that time. Plus it brings up memories of me feeling like I ruined Christmas =/ So if you've got something you wanna get off your chest about the holidays, here's your place to let it out. __________________ "You don't need to hide my friend, for I am just like you."

1st Dec 2011, 11:16 AM	#7
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread I hate that every year my grandma gets me something that is really girly in an attempt to make me girly. We usually take it back to the store that she got it at. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

1st Dec 2011, 12:19 PM	#9
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out as straight ally Location: France Age: 32 Posts: 5,401 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread I hate that my grand-father won't spent Christmas at home this year. I hate that I'm going to wish him a merry christmas in his hospital bed. I hate that he won't be able to wish me a merry christmas because he can't talk anymore. And I hate more than anything the idea that it might be my last christmas with him. I adore my grand-father. He always had been the sweetest, the most loving and supportive person in my life and I have no idea how christmas will ever feel like christmas again without him. __________________ "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means." Immanuel Kant

1st Dec 2011, 09:39 PM	#10
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread People are so angry around the holidays. I'm specifically talking about drivers and shoppersm Yikes. ---------- Post added 1st Dec 2011 at 09:40 PM ---------- People are so angry around the holidays. I'm specifically talking about drivers and shoppersm Yikes. __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

1st Dec 2011, 09:56 PM	#11
suninthesky Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Posts: 122 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread Everyone has someone to be with as a couple, and I feel kind of alone. I know I'm just 18, but it would be nice to be able to experience being with someone.

3rd Dec 2011, 11:14 AM	#12
11 11 11 No longer human. Regular Member Gender: No idea in the slightest... Orientation: Need a gender first. Out Status: Well at least I tried right? Location: Ponyville - Equestria Age: 18 Posts: 305 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread ^ You're not the only one suninthesky. __________________ "If the brain we're so simple we could understand it, we would be so simple we couldn't." - Lyall Watson.

3rd Dec 2011, 11:16 AM	#13
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Official Holiday Frustrations Thread I'm not looking forward to the holiday traffic. The highways will be clogged with a mix of angry drivers, speeding maniacs, and those creeping along 20mph below the speed limit. Throw in the usual amount of trucks, along with an abundance of RVs, and you've got the recipe for a fun drive. __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

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