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Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:04 PM

I have recently learnt I am genderfluid and I have two "versions" of me. I am James when I feel like a boy and when I feel like a girl my name is Charni. My personality is exactly the same except I am a bit more sensative as Charni and the only way to distinguish between wether I am James or Charni is when I am Charni I hold my hands together in front of my stomach. On EC I will have the writng under my namesaying if I am James or Charni. Thanks for listening! I just wanted to get that out there.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:07 PM

No worries! As long as you're happy and comfortable being yourself on EC.

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:18 PM

I am! It feels strange when I am "changing" between Charni and James and vice versa.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:20 PM

So being genderfluid is a real possibility for you? When you say 'strange', can you describe what's happening in your mind?

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:24 PM

I think I am genderfluid yes. Um not really. It's like I have two people in me and they both want control. That is the best way to describe it I think.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:26 PM

Sounds almost like split personalities???

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:27 PM

But the thing is all that changes is my gender. I only have one personality. Inside I know it isn't split personality.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:31 PM

Okay, cool.

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:32 PM

I am so glad my girlfriend is pansexual. It's funny. She doesn't care about gender and I can't make up my mind which one I want to be.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:34 PM

Okay, try this:

"Gender: N/A"

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:37 PM

Hmm. I like how it is. Besides I actually want a gender.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:39 PM

Ah lol ofc... "N/A" doesn't mean you get one xD

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:40 PM

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:44 PM

of course

How often do you change between genders? Once every... ?

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:50 PM

Um it varies. Sometimes I stay the same for a whole day, but sometimes I can change after a few hours. I will stay the same for a while.

Doctor Faustus · 6th Dec 2011, 06:52 PM

Damn! Doesn't help the boys' cause against the girls over on "Boys vs. Girls"!

Play for our team when it matters! Disloyal fiend!

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:52 PM

I can't choose when I am Charni!

Hana Solo · 6th Dec 2011, 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Doctor Faustus

Damn! Doesn't help the boys' cause against the girls over on "Boys vs. Girls"!

Play for our team when it matters! Disloyal fiend!

Muahahaha!!!

she's ours

Charni · 6th Dec 2011, 06:56 PM

For now.

J Snow · 6th Dec 2011, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Doctor Faustus

Damn! Doesn't help the boys' cause against the girls over on "Boys vs. Girls"!

Play for our team when it matters! Disloyal fiend!

Sometimes I think that game does more harm then good on a site like this. I know that I used to avoid it because I didn't want to have to vote for the guys. Now that I vote for the girls it feels good, but I feel kind of like a liar or traitor at time.

I've heard another user expressing uncertainty on what side to vote for as well, and I think it makes them feel a bit uncomfortable. *shrug*

6th Dec 2011, 06:04 PM	#1
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Two people in one I have recently learnt I am genderfluid and I have two "versions" of me. I am James when I feel like a boy and when I feel like a girl my name is Charni. My personality is exactly the same except I am a bit more sensative as Charni and the only way to distinguish between wether I am James or Charni is when I am Charni I hold my hands together in front of my stomach. On EC I will have the writng under my namesaying if I am James or Charni. Thanks for listening! I just wanted to get that out there.

6th Dec 2011, 06:07 PM	#2
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one No worries! As long as you're happy and comfortable being yourself on EC. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:18 PM	#3
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one I am! It feels strange when I am "changing" between Charni and James and vice versa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:20 PM	#4
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one So being genderfluid is a real possibility for you? When you say 'strange', can you describe what's happening in your mind? __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:24 PM	#5
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one I think I am genderfluid yes. Um not really. It's like I have two people in me and they both want control. That is the best way to describe it I think.

6th Dec 2011, 06:26 PM	#6
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one Sounds almost like split personalities??? __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:27 PM	#7
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one But the thing is all that changes is my gender. I only have one personality. Inside I know it isn't split personality.

6th Dec 2011, 06:31 PM	#8
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one Okay, cool. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:32 PM	#9
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one I am so glad my girlfriend is pansexual. It's funny. She doesn't care about gender and I can't make up my mind which one I want to be.

6th Dec 2011, 06:34 PM	#10
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one Okay, try this: "Gender: N/A" __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:37 PM	#11
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one Hmm. I like how it is. Besides I actually want a gender.

6th Dec 2011, 06:39 PM	#12
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one Ah lol ofc... "N/A" doesn't mean you get one xD __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:40 PM	#13
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one ofc?

6th Dec 2011, 06:44 PM	#14
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one of course How often do you change between genders? Once every... ? __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:50 PM	#15
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one Um it varies. Sometimes I stay the same for a whole day, but sometimes I can change after a few hours. I will stay the same for a while.

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6th Dec 2011, 06:52 PM	#16
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Two people in one Damn! Doesn't help the boys' cause against the girls over on "Boys vs. Girls"! Play for our team when it matters! Disloyal fiend! __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

6th Dec 2011, 06:52 PM	#17
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one I can't choose when I am Charni!

6th Dec 2011, 06:56 PM	#19
Charni Banned Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 775 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Two people in one For now.