What do you look for in a partner?

I dnt know exactly what I'm looking for, but it is something to think about!

:]

 

My main requirements are 1) they are touchy-feely and cuddly. I can't be with someone who isn't into physical affection and 2) that they be a dork, nerd, or geek. Something that makes them a bit off-the-wall, some obsession that drives them, something they're passionate about. It would help if they

Love to read
Are into sci-fi/fantasy
Don't smoke tobacco (pot is okay, in moderation)
Can hold their own in an intellectual conversation
Is an atheist/agnostic
Don't like sports
Interested in politics
Is a liberal/progressive
Prefer non-penetrative sex
Are into social justice

The said thing is that I have a female friend who fits all of these things, and several more besides. But she's a lesbian and I'm gay. Effin' sucks.

 

There's always a catch!

 

Must have a sense of humour
Must be political aware
Must be intelligent

Other things matter those are my top three

 

I didn't use to have a particular type before... I just had preferences. It wasn't until I actually met the guy I am with now that I realized that he's everything I could ever want.

He is:

Affectionate
Kind Heated
Extremely honest (painfully, sometimes)
Intelligent
A gamer
Gooofy
Likes to work out
Ambitious

He has so many good qualities, and I know that I would seek out those same qualities if we somehow decided to split although I don't see that happening.

 

Nerd.
Someone who will be a lover AND a friend.
Someone who will support me when I'm down AND let me support them when they're down.
Someone who can accept me for me (I'm tend to rant about things and it scares people off)

 

Culturally literate: film, literature, theatre and so on. Perhaps a writer or a failed actor. Will accept me for who I am, warts and all. Is full of life, an excellent conversationalist, and has a duty to truth and social justice. Witty and philosophical. Seeks adventure and adrenaline. Has a big heart and is a big romantic. Someone I can trust with my deepest feelings as well as my body. Not just a lover, but a carer, a supporter, a coach. And most of all an amazing friend.

 

I'd be naive to expect all of these, but just some qualities I'd hope to find:

- Sincere and emotionally open.
- Can socialize easily and get me out of my shell, but can appreciate solitude or being alone together.
- Able to be optimistic without being overly so.
- Makes me want to be a better person.
- Spiritual [not necessarily religious, as I'm not, but someone who has that 'sensibility', if that makes sense.]
- Intelligent. Interested in film, classical music, literature, and/or art in a non-condescending way.
- Passionate.
- Committed.
- Supportive, but not unwilling to be critical.
- A top. [Sorry if that's too specific.]
- Makes me feel confident and not insecure about myself.

[That's all I can think of at the moment.]

 

This.

---------- Post added 7th Dec 2011 at 09:56 AM ----------

Oh and they should be open, honest, and caring.
Just like me

 

I love a lovey-dovey partner and one that likes to cuddle (not looking for sex)

don't smoke
only drink occasionally
has sense of humor
intelligent
sincere
sporty
affectionate
not popular( don't want being in the center of attention)
thoughtful

is also looking for a monogamous relationship

I'm sure there's more.

 

A pulse, aside from that I'm willing to compromise.

I'm only adamant about him NEVER doing drugs. Yeah, I'm a wet blanket, but at least I know our romantic evening won't involve a jealous cell-mate of his (and I've been around druggies before, and don't care to do it again).

If he has a passion that would be a plus. And hopefully he likes food as much as I do. And my perfect man likes movies, has a similar sense of humor, and has some sort of religious belief (or at the very least can respect my own.)

But my only real must-haves are a pulse and lack of drugs. Apart from that, I'm happy to accept him as is.

 

Someone willing to be silly and do silly things. One of my only "no way" factors is someone too concerned with how they look to have fun.

 

Well if I didn't have my amazing girlfriend:

A girl,
likes sci fi
likes books,
will wait until she is married for sex,
likes hugs,
can go out with a person who changes her/his gendersometimes,
non smoker,
good looking,
smart,
has her own oppinion,
loyal (won't cheat),
able to handle my ADHD,
funny,
willing to lend me her clothes sometimes,
likes physical non-sexual contact,
able to have fun and act like a kid,
wiling to call me Charni when I feel female,
fun
and not mean to people.

---------- Post added 8th Dec 2011 at 05:45 PM ----------

WOW that is a long list!

 

well, this is going to be a long list but i gotta say it.

don't care too much about them being nerdy or whatever. just be yourself.

can allow me to be myself without me having to kiss their ass or get outside their confront zone. yeah, i may say something stupid here and there. i'm far from perfect.

is willing to hang out, try new things, have fun, get silly, open minded, knows when to be serious and when to joke around.

doesn't smoke cigarettes. don't really care for the weed either as long as they're willing to share with me and can deal with my crazy ass when i'm here because i tend to be outthere when i'm high. don't be a drug addict either. i'm not messing with a cokehead, a heroin head or if you're into that heavy drug usage shit. you can drink too but i don't want to have to carry someone around the bar, home and have to babysit them every single time they drink. hell no.

can talk about anything and everything. can be supportive. be a friend or how i like to put it a homie. someone who i can grow together with.

would prefer for them to be an atheist but willing to accept whatever beliefs they have as long as they're willing to respect mine.

aside from the physical requirements (cuddling, kissing, sex or whatever the hell, it really doesn't matter), i'm down with all that. that's a huge requirement of mine anyway but, there WILL be moments where i need my space and so do you at times. we do not have to be together all the time. do not get all upset with me if i want to hang out with my homies, if i decide that i need to go on a walk by myself to think or to have some alone time by myself. at the same time, do not make me have to be the one carrying the whole entire relationship where i have to be the one doing everything. that just let's me know you're not interested and there would be no point being together. don't be too standoffish and don't be too clingy.

someone who can be spontaneous as in will decide to take the dayoff from work to go to the beach, can go traveling with me to canada, and do random stuff. someone who knows how to live for the moment the right way as in something fun but not too risky or dangerous and not the wrong way as in driving home drunk or getting into a fight with someone at the club expecting me to jump in and save them. also someone that knows when to be down to earth and do whatever they have to do. work, school, home.

another thing too. do not invade my privacy or do anything that would be considered being invasive. in other words, i'll let you on my computer as long as you promise not to be shocked at the amount of porn i have on my computer. don't even think of deleting anything either. if you have any questions that you want to ask me or anything you want to know about me or curious to know, just ask. i have nothing to hide and i would expect to be able to do the same thing too and show you the same respect when it comes to your computer or your cell phone or whatever.

oh yeah, don't cheat on me either. if you don't want to be together, feel free to end it. don't hold yourself back.

 

As far as personality goes:

- Intelligence most of all
- I don't know how this will come across, but they need to have a masculine disposition like me.
- Takes their academics seriously, ambitious
- Likes geeky and/or intellectual discussions/humor
- Quirky sense of humor a la "The Office" or "Community" is always nice
- Likes outdoor activities (rock climbing, hiking, kayaking, mountain biking, skiing, and so on)
- Works out/keeps in shape
- Preferably Christian, but at least acknowledges a higher presence
- Similar music tastes, into live music
- Doesn't mind doing more than half the talking and some awkwardness on my part
- Adventurous
- Loves to travel
- Loves making out and cuddling as much as sex itself

Wow, I could go on, but these are all just preferences.

 

The perfect man for me would have:

The perfect woman for me would have:​

-Interest in cuddling, displays of love
-Preference to read or to use the computer
-Knowledge in things I have not
-An pen heart and mind; not picky
-Positive attitudes
-Confidence to show he/she loves me
-A lonely side
-Eagerness to be with me, choosing me above everything else
-Love for some kinky doings ​

That's probably what I should have hehe

 

Personality wise, I would want him to be educated and ambitious, open-minded, compassionate and adventurous. I like to be active and health-conscious, so he should be that way too. I'm really not a romantic type of person, and I don't think I would want him to be either. I need space sometimes.

Physically, the only thing I really care about are his teeth. It's borderline a fetish. If they're not perfect or something close to that I would have a really hard time getting over it, I think. He could be dickless for all I care, but if he doesn't have a nice smile it isn't going happen, period.

 

Well the list would be really long if I let it get there! But some big things are:

- Intelligent and good at holding a conversation. Nothing more boring than someone you can't talk to.
- Someone with a drive and interest in accomplishing something; could be for a job, could be for a hobby, but either way if they don't geek out about anything, again - boring!
- Physically affectionate, sex and otherwise.
- For god's sake, pick up a book once in a while! :lol:

 

Well, for me i would need someone with the same sense of humour as me, so we could laugh together. Someone who has the same intrests and hobbies as me, so we can spend time together and both enjoy it. And finally, someone who will always be there for me through the good and bad