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needshelp · 8th Dec 2011, 06:48 PM

the holidays are coming around and right after that is valentine's day. i know this site will be filled with everybody in here looking for someone, sounding desperate, upset that they have nobody to cuddle with but speaking for myself, i have grown tired of looking for love, waiting for love and whatever. yeah, there's cute guys around that i wouldn't mind getting with but for the moment, i really don't care too much about being with somebody. i feel a bit more comfortable and confident with myself now knowing where i stand on the sexual orientation scale and that has actually changed how i view love and a relationship now. i guess when i was holding on to the idea for all these years that i was straight even though i wasn't i felt that it was a must to have sex and to be with a girlfriend in order to prove that i was straight or to kill any of the questioning or gayness inside me. now that everything is making sense now, i don't feel any pressure to get with any guy or whatever. i can sit back and relax because i know who i am (even though i'm learning how to embrace it, live with it, deal with it and be open about it) and don't feel the need to prove it since it's been confirmed.

Rooni321 · 8th Dec 2011, 09:55 PM

We all...well I have definately felt like that before!
It was fucking great. During that time, I learned so much about myself and the world.
Congrats!

needshelp · 8th Dec 2011, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

We all...well I have definately felt like that before!
It was fucking great. During that time, I learned so much about myself and the world.
Congrats!

a liberating feeling indeed. makes life a whole lot easier where there's little pressure to be another person instead of yourself.

Rooni321 · 8th Dec 2011, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by needshelp

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Originally Posted by Rooni321

We all...well I have definately felt like that before!
It was fucking great. During that time, I learned so much about myself and the world.
Congrats!

a liberating feeling indeed. makes life a whole lot easier where there's little pressure to be another person instead of yourself.

Tell me about it. Having all my attention on myself was great.
Cherish your 'you time' while you can!!

NoPlanB · 8th Dec 2011, 10:39 PM

Yeah, I can relate. I have no interest in a romantic relationship at all.

needshelp · 8th Dec 2011, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by NoPlanB

Yeah, I can relate. I have no interest in a romantic relationship at all.

would you say it has to do with still being in the closet?

Yuya · 9th Dec 2011, 01:59 AM

Hey buddy, just wanna say that at one point of time between my previous relationship and current relationship I had the exact same feelings as you did.

I was single for 5 years in between and felt that I was confident in my sexuality and you know what? I woke up one day and felt that it didn't matter if I was with somebody or not. I was living my life in a new city and enjoying friends and company. I think that it is a wonderful thing to feel and trust me, when you let go of the idea of finding love, it will come to you when you least expect it to.

Drowzee64 · 9th Dec 2011, 02:36 PM

I have my cat. I have my teddy bear. I don't need no man!

But seriously, I'm kind of feel like a relationship is not something I need at this point in my life. I want one, but I don't NEED one. I think I'll just lie back and wait until I'm old enough to use dating sites I'm ready to put myself out there.

CrazyAntFarm · 9th Dec 2011, 05:27 PM

Well, I had this same exact feeling, and then I met quite possibly the love of my life. I am a believer that love finds you easier when you are not looking for it, so enjoy how you're feeling now, but just be open to the possibility of falling in love.

Countervail · 10th Dec 2011, 03:17 AM

ME.ME.ME!

all these years I've been telling myself that if I were to have a relationship, it should be a monogamous one.

8th Dec 2011, 06:48 PM	#1
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? the holidays are coming around and right after that is valentine's day. i know this site will be filled with everybody in here looking for someone, sounding desperate, upset that they have nobody to cuddle with but speaking for myself, i have grown tired of looking for love, waiting for love and whatever. yeah, there's cute guys around that i wouldn't mind getting with but for the moment, i really don't care too much about being with somebody. i feel a bit more comfortable and confident with myself now knowing where i stand on the sexual orientation scale and that has actually changed how i view love and a relationship now. i guess when i was holding on to the idea for all these years that i was straight even though i wasn't i felt that it was a must to have sex and to be with a girlfriend in order to prove that i was straight or to kill any of the questioning or gayness inside me. now that everything is making sense now, i don't feel any pressure to get with any guy or whatever. i can sit back and relax because i know who i am (even though i'm learning how to embrace it, live with it, deal with it and be open about it) and don't feel the need to prove it since it's been confirmed. Last edited by needshelp; 8th Dec 2011 at 06:52 PM..

8th Dec 2011, 09:55 PM	#2
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? We all...well I have definately felt like that before! It was fucking great. During that time, I learned so much about myself and the world. Congrats! __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

8th Dec 2011, 10:39 PM	#5
NoPlanB This is a warning, a courtesy call Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homoromantic asexual Out Status: Still in the closet Location: Michigan Age: 20 Posts: 289 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? Yeah, I can relate. I have no interest in a romantic relationship at all. __________________ We all want to be somebody We just need a taste of who we are We all want to be somebody We're willing to go, but not that far

9th Dec 2011, 01:59 AM	#7
Yuya Scout Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends Location: Melbourne Age: 27 Posts: 588 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? Hey buddy, just wanna say that at one point of time between my previous relationship and current relationship I had the exact same feelings as you did. I was single for 5 years in between and felt that I was confident in my sexuality and you know what? I woke up one day and felt that it didn't matter if I was with somebody or not. I was living my life in a new city and enjoying friends and company. I think that it is a wonderful thing to feel and trust me, when you let go of the idea of finding love, it will come to you when you least expect it to.

9th Dec 2011, 02:36 PM	#8
Drowzee64 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone that matters except for extended family. Location: Houston, TX Posts: 114 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? I have my cat. I have my teddy bear. I don't need no man! But seriously, I'm kind of feel like a relationship is not something I need at this point in my life. I want one, but I don't NEED one. I think I'll just lie back and wait until I'm old enough to use dating sites I'm ready to put myself out there.

9th Dec 2011, 05:27 PM	#9
CrazyAntFarm Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 3 Friends & my pops. Location: Maryland Age: 26 Posts: 117 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? Well, I had this same exact feeling, and then I met quite possibly the love of my life. I am a believer that love finds you easier when you are not looking for it, so enjoy how you're feeling now, but just be open to the possibility of falling in love.

10th Dec 2011, 03:17 AM	#10
Countervail EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Not out at all Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 255 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: anybody here that is single and not interested in getting with anybody? ME.ME.ME! all these years I've been telling myself that if I were to have a relationship, it should be a monogamous one.