there's nothing more worse than people talking about homosexuality and....

yeah man it sucks. been in that situation many times. what i usually end up doing if i dont want to come out of the closet at that time is just saying that there isnt anything wrong with homosexuality (witch there isnt) they usually dont argue back. but it still sucks not being able to come out whe people are talking about it. :bang:

 

I usually just make fun of them for being idiots. I'm a great debater (much to the annoyance of my friends).

 

Happened to me a while ago, someone told my gay friend that he is going to hell that makes me want to punch them until their faces bleed. Thank G-d I controlled myself.

 

People can be so insensitive. Although, them talking about it means that they do acknowledge that there are homosexual people. I mean, "sins" (if they're such xtians) are discussed in a confessional booth with a priest, not among colleagues. Is it wrong that I think of the "gossip" as progress?

 

I feel the same, i can't bring myself to say anything not wanting to lie about my sexuality but being terrified about coming out, i just nod along.

 

I used to be the homophobe that made everyone uncomfortable.

Now I basically say STFU.

 

Yes, it's really uncomfortable, specially if your friends are making homophobic remarks. Usually, in those cases I just tell my friends that they should just let gay people be themselves. I mean, it's not like they are going to affect your life. Finally, if they are still arguing, I just joke about how gay it is to be spending our time talking about gay people.

 

Ugh, I agree. I hate it when my family or acquaintances go on and on about gay people. I normally just stay quiet now as there's nothing I can really say to change their minds.

 

only thing you can do is try to tell them how hurtful and offensive it od

 

I used to go quietly insane, mega-concentrating on not going red, trying to keep a level voice pitch....now I just let it go.

 

I know exactly how you feel. In fact, this actually happened to me a little while back. Two friends of mine (let's call them Nick and Sally) were saying some pretty disgusting homophobic things. Sally is about as religious as they come (Conservative Mormon, born and raised), and she started going on about how being gay is "wrong" and a "horrible disease". You know, the usual. I always knew she was homophobic, but when Nick agreed with her, my opinion of him went down the drain.
A few nights ago, Nick and I were chilling, and the topic of gay rights was brought up. I actually brought it up, because I wanted to see his reaction. I told him that it was a topic close to my heart, and that anybody who makes gay slurs will definitely get a piece of my mind. He surprised me by saying that while he would be uncomfortable if another man started flirting with him, he's trying to become more accepting of all people. Somehow, it just happened, and I came out to him as a bisexual. His response was so unexpected. "Woah... so you're attracted to girls too? That's actually really sexy. No, but seriously, are you? Wow. I would never have guessed. Thank you for trusting me enough to share something so personal." He even came to me the next day and apologised for every homophobic comment he's ever made.
Just thought I'd share my experience. See, defending yourself doesn't always turn out badly.

 

I mean how hurtful it is in general, plus you can tell them its highly unprofessinal

 

From college no one has asked me if I'm gay because I don't look stereotypically gay. As for the comments, the key is that I don't get too defensive when trying to stop the homophobic remarks. For example, instead of saying that I support gay marriage I just say that gay couples don't affect my life since being gay isn't contagious. Instead of saying that I support gay adoption, I just point out that homeless children are at greater risk of becoming criminals in the future. You get the idea. Finally, I also have my humorous responses. For example, telling them that "if more guys were gay there would be more girls available for us".

 

On a completely unrelated note... I hate oranges and love apples :roflmao: just had to say that.

 

I sometimes think of a time in high school when a teacher (of all people!) was being really homophobic and saying he "doesn't support that lifestyle" and I was just quietly fuming with rage. I wish I could go back and say my piece, but at the time I didn't have the self-confidence to stand up to authority figures, especially in front of a class full of peers who would laugh me down.

 

Normally when I heard a discussion about homosexuality it's just normally bullshit. I usually think to myself "your talking rubbish" and get on with my day. Sometimes when somebody says something really homophobic I do wish that I could challenge them. But, I don't have the balls to interrupt and tell them the facts.

 

If they're saying it from a 'Christian' point of view I just sit and think to myself that there is only one mention of homosexuality in the Bible whereas there is many prohibitions of ridiculous other things that I'm sure they all do.