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pronua · 16th Dec 2011, 04:41 PM

Would you turn straight? I hate to say it, but I probably would. It makes me feel sad seeing the love of men and women shared all around me, while I feel alone all the time.

Ridiculous · 16th Dec 2011, 04:55 PM

Definitely not! Being gay is sooo much better

. It's a very liberating feeling once you come to terms with yourself, knowing that you can be and act however you like. I don't think this is something straight people will ever experience simply because they will never be in the situation we are.

Bosco · 16th Dec 2011, 05:04 PM

Not at all.
I'm nowhere near being 'in the clear' when it comes to family, but I wouldn't trade being gay for anything - much less give it up! I can't really put to words why I feel so strongly about my stance on this, but yea. I definitely agree that once you start embracing yourself (even if not fully), it's just something I can't imagine not having.

And you're still very young! Not at all to undermine what you're feeling, but every teenage at sometimes feels alone and on the outside at times. I doubt it would be any different if you were straight.

Besides: the challenges we must overcome along the way make finding that special someone all the more worthwhile

Nadski · 16th Dec 2011, 05:56 PM

A couple years ago i might of, i was alone too and was raised to believe it was wrong to be who i was. But once i accepted myself and realised there is nothing wrong with who i am i definetley now would not turn straight. Its ok to feel like this, don't let it control your life though, just take some time to think about it.

Black Cat · 16th Dec 2011, 05:59 PM

Nope. I'd be bad at it, since I've got 20 year's worth of experience being gay.

**Mogget** · 16th Dec 2011, 06:22 PM

Being straight is kind of hard for me to imagine, but I wouldn't mind being a bit more bisexual. I get along with women more easily than men and having the option of dating women would be nice.

needshelp · 16th Dec 2011, 08:26 PM

i was going to say yeah, i would in a heartbeat since i always wanted to know what being straight really is like since i wanted to be straight for so many years but being gay is so much better than being straight. would have to go with no on this one. besides the affection, relationships and etc, etc, etc, there's a sense of comfort and confidence truly knowing who you are and being something that you're not. being gay is a gift. being straight looks like it sucks.

NoName114 · 16th Dec 2011, 08:31 PM

I never chose to be gay, but It's part of me and if given the choice I would pick to be myself which includes being gay

Rooni321 · 16th Dec 2011, 08:49 PM

Nah. I like it too much.

LdSlnce · 16th Dec 2011, 08:59 PM

Even though I sometimes have my moments where it feels so hard to be, I wouldn't want to be. I tried and it sucked!

malachite · 16th Dec 2011, 09:01 PM

nope. I am who I am, no amount of wishing is going to change that. I can't help what other people are going to think, but I can change what I think

Doctor Faustus · 16th Dec 2011, 09:05 PM

Lol, noooooo! Guys are WAY too much fun! xD

IanGallagher · 16th Dec 2011, 10:17 PM

Sadly, some days and some times, I would say yes. Being in the middle? Gay guys have either accused me of being just gay or felt insecure whenever I brought girls up. Girls, once they knew, you could just see it - sense them watching you because they don't want to be the girl with the "gay boyfriend" even though I'm bi and lean more towards girls. I'm a lot like Beast in those regards - the guy in the middle, seeking a cure - but in the end I'm okay with being the big blue guy lol. The not so "pure" mutant.

I really don't understand the anti-straight posts. No offense meant, it just comes off as... the opposite of homophobia. Liking girls is the exact same thing as liking guys. Not one side has it better than the next in regards of the quality of the relationship or anything else really.

NoPlanB · 16th Dec 2011, 11:01 PM

Hm, coming from a very homophobic area, I'd have to say yes although I would prefer to be bisexual. I love being gay (I mean, guys are just so cute) but the whole straight thing would be so much easier for me personally.

Phoenix · 16th Dec 2011, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by IanGallagher

Sadly, some days and some times, I would say yes. Being in the middle? Gay guys have either accused me of being just gay or felt insecure whenever I brought girls up. Girls, once they knew, you could just see it - sense them watching you because they don't want to be the girl with the "gay boyfriend" even though I'm bi and lean more towards girls. I'm a lot like Beast in those regards - the guy in the middle, seeking a cure - but in the end I'm okay with being the big blue guy lol. The not so "pure" mutant.

I really don't understand the anti-straight posts. No offense meant, it just comes off as... the opposite of homophobia. Liking girls is the exact same thing as liking guys. Not one side has it better than the next in regards of the quality of the relationship or anything else really.

It's like that with everything though. Everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side. Then after you see it for what it is you realize it's the same bullshit with a different scenario. Attraction to anyone comes with the same issues really when you boil it down.

IanGallagher · 17th Dec 2011, 12:04 AM

Bisexuality, not really. Gay and straight are basically the exact same thing because it's singular. Gays don't have to worry about girls. Straights don't have to worry about guys. However, feet on both patches of grass? You've got gays and straights worried about fence hopping. Girls seem to have the strongest issue with it. Whereas guys, while some can be misinformed, seem more accepting. So in this situation? Kinda tempting because I've been attacked by both sides and since I do lean more towards girls who do seem to have the most trouble with it... But, straight and gay - exactly the same. Having fallen for both, I can't really say there is a difference in terms of emotions (just girls, I love being the protector - while with guys it's awesome to not have that at the same time lol)

Basically possible biphobia comes attached with it, whereas -phobia isn't attached to the others.

As said though, due to basically being an orphan, having two sets of parents - used to this whole 'being in the middle' thing lol.

Rinto · 17th Dec 2011, 12:51 AM

Yes, only because it would save me from the mocking.
But, the heck, why should I revert to something as plain as straight? Let colors fill the world and feel proud!

Artemicion · 17th Dec 2011, 01:09 AM

Nope. Girls are too complicated for me

. Being gay is something special that straights will never truly know or experience.

fiddledeedee · 17th Dec 2011, 07:34 AM

I would choose to be gay rather than bi – I feel like it would make it easier for my mum to accept me and all. Straight? Maybe when I was questioning, but not anymore!

17th Dec 2011, 09:48 AM

Oh no...there seems to be a lot of beige clothing involved...dreadful...

16th Dec 2011, 04:41 PM	#1
pronua Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 1 person Location: Atlanta Age: 15 Posts: 87 Join Date: Sep 2011	If given the choice... Would you turn straight? I hate to say it, but I probably would. It makes me feel sad seeing the love of men and women shared all around me, while I feel alone all the time.

16th Dec 2011, 04:55 PM	#2
Ridiculous EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends Location: New Zealand Age: 20 Posts: 934 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: If given the choice... Definitely not! Being gay is sooo much better . It's a very liberating feeling once you come to terms with yourself, knowing that you can be and act however you like. I don't think this is something straight people will ever experience simply because they will never be in the situation we are.

16th Dec 2011, 05:04 PM	#3
Bosco kukukuku Full Member Gender: Male 男 Orientation: Boys make my knees weak Out Status: A few people Location: eh? Age: 19 Posts: 269 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: If given the choice... Not at all. I'm nowhere near being 'in the clear' when it comes to family, but I wouldn't trade being gay for anything - much less give it up! I can't really put to words why I feel so strongly about my stance on this, but yea. I definitely agree that once you start embracing yourself (even if not fully), it's just something I can't imagine not having. And you're still very young! Not at all to undermine what you're feeling, but every teenage at sometimes feels alone and on the outside at times. I doubt it would be any different if you were straight. Besides: the challenges we must overcome along the way make finding that special someone all the more worthwhile __________________ .: ♪ :. I tried to be 'perfect'... it just wasn't worth it

16th Dec 2011, 05:56 PM	#4
Nadski Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to some friends + a few family members Location: Australia Age: 16 Posts: 37 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: If given the choice... A couple years ago i might of, i was alone too and was raised to believe it was wrong to be who i was. But once i accepted myself and realised there is nothing wrong with who i am i definetley now would not turn straight. Its ok to feel like this, don't let it control your life though, just take some time to think about it.

16th Dec 2011, 05:59 PM	#5
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: If given the choice... Nope. I'd be bad at it, since I've got 20 year's worth of experience being gay. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

16th Dec 2011, 06:22 PM	#6
Mogget Mad and dead as nails EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 or 6. It varies Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Alaska Age: 22 Posts: 2,026 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: If given the choice... Being straight is kind of hard for me to imagine, but I wouldn't mind being a bit more bisexual. I get along with women more easily than men and having the option of dating women would be nice. __________________ "As to what I am, I once was many things but now I am only several." - Mogget in Sabriel by Garth Nix "The world is quiet here." - VFD

16th Dec 2011, 08:26 PM	#7
needshelp really likes you Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: out to some, not family and friends though Location: in a closet near you Age: 25 Posts: 691 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: If given the choice... i was going to say yeah, i would in a heartbeat since i always wanted to know what being straight really is like since i wanted to be straight for so many years but being gay is so much better than being straight. would have to go with no on this one. besides the affection, relationships and etc, etc, etc, there's a sense of comfort and confidence truly knowing who you are and being something that you're not. being gay is a gift. being straight looks like it sucks.

16th Dec 2011, 08:31 PM	#8
NoName114 Dorian Grey-ish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: committed to a amazing guy Age: 15 Posts: 214 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: If given the choice... I never chose to be gay, but It's part of me and if given the choice I would pick to be myself which includes being gay

16th Dec 2011, 08:49 PM	#9
Rooni321 EC's Hopeless Romantic Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: gay, str8, bi Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Francisco, California <3 Age: 17 Posts: 1,321 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: If given the choice... Nah. I like it too much. __________________ "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially." Ernest Hemingway

16th Dec 2011, 08:59 PM	#10
LdSlnce Banned Regular Member Gender: Fancy Orientation: I like who I like Out Status: It's getting complicated! Location: Not On Your Street Posts: 153 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: If given the choice... Even though I sometimes have my moments where it feels so hard to be, I wouldn't want to be. I tried and it sucked!

16th Dec 2011, 09:01 PM	#11
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: If given the choice... nope. I am who I am, no amount of wishing is going to change that. I can't help what other people are going to think, but I can change what I think __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

16th Dec 2011, 09:05 PM	#12
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: If given the choice... Lol, noooooo! Guys are WAY too much fun! xD __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

16th Dec 2011, 10:17 PM	#13
IanGallagher The fluctuator Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mutant and proud Out Status: All except work and extended family. Location: I fly as much as Superman Age: 24 Posts: 619 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: If given the choice... Sadly, some days and some times, I would say yes. Being in the middle? Gay guys have either accused me of being just gay or felt insecure whenever I brought girls up. Girls, once they knew, you could just see it - sense them watching you because they don't want to be the girl with the "gay boyfriend" even though I'm bi and lean more towards girls. I'm a lot like Beast in those regards - the guy in the middle, seeking a cure - but in the end I'm okay with being the big blue guy lol. The not so "pure" mutant. I really don't understand the anti-straight posts. No offense meant, it just comes off as... the opposite of homophobia. Liking girls is the exact same thing as liking guys. Not one side has it better than the next in regards of the quality of the relationship or anything else really. Last edited by IanGallagher; 16th Dec 2011 at 10:27 PM..

16th Dec 2011, 11:01 PM	#14
NoPlanB This is a warning, a courtesy call Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Homoromantic asexual Out Status: Still in the closet Location: Michigan Age: 20 Posts: 289 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: If given the choice... Hm, coming from a very homophobic area, I'd have to say yes although I would prefer to be bisexual. I love being gay (I mean, guys are just so cute) but the whole straight thing would be so much easier for me personally. __________________ We all want to be somebody We just need a taste of who we are We all want to be somebody We're willing to go, but not that far

17th Dec 2011, 12:04 AM	#16
IanGallagher The fluctuator Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mutant and proud Out Status: All except work and extended family. Location: I fly as much as Superman Age: 24 Posts: 619 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: If given the choice... Bisexuality, not really. Gay and straight are basically the exact same thing because it's singular. Gays don't have to worry about girls. Straights don't have to worry about guys. However, feet on both patches of grass? You've got gays and straights worried about fence hopping. Girls seem to have the strongest issue with it. Whereas guys, while some can be misinformed, seem more accepting. So in this situation? Kinda tempting because I've been attacked by both sides and since I do lean more towards girls who do seem to have the most trouble with it... But, straight and gay - exactly the same. Having fallen for both, I can't really say there is a difference in terms of emotions (just girls, I love being the protector - while with guys it's awesome to not have that at the same time lol) Basically possible biphobia comes attached with it, whereas -phobia isn't attached to the others. As said though, due to basically being an orphan, having two sets of parents - used to this whole 'being in the middle' thing lol. Last edited by IanGallagher; 17th Dec 2011 at 12:17 AM..

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17th Dec 2011, 12:51 AM	#17
Rinto Balance Freak-ish Full Member Gender: Monsieur Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: My chosen people Location: Philippines Age: 16 Posts: 480 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: If given the choice... Yes, only because it would save me from the mocking. But, the heck, why should I revert to something as plain as straight? Let colors fill the world and feel proud! __________________ Be happy with who you are. When all else abandon you, at least, it's the being who'll love you the most more than yourself. So, never lose your smile. Last edited by Rinto; 17th Dec 2011 at 12:57 AM..

17th Dec 2011, 01:09 AM	#18
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: If given the choice... Nope. Girls are too complicated for me . Being gay is something special that straights will never truly know or experience.

17th Dec 2011, 07:34 AM	#19
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: If given the choice... I would choose to be gay rather than bi – I feel like it would make it easier for my mum to accept me and all. Straight? Maybe when I was questioning, but not anymore! __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

17th Dec 2011, 09:48 AM	#20
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